TW: Eating disorder

Hi anon, 

Relapse is a part of recovery and it’s actually normal to sometimes want to relapse or feel OK with it, but that’s your ED talking. If you continue to act on your ED and engage in those behaviors, you are going to lose so much more than weight. You will lose your life. I know it feels like you want this, but you really dont. I’m sorry that you are hurting so much right now, but  you can’t listen to those thoughts. They are lying to and trying to convince you to do something that will ruin your life.

I’m sorry that your friends aren’t listening to you or aren’t understanding of what you are going through. maybe you could talk to a family member about it instead? I would also encourage you to try to find a good time to talk to your friends about it.I’m sure that they really care about you and would want to help you the best they can. If you can sit them down and be honest with them about what you are going through and what you would want them to do for you, then maybe they’ll be more receptive than what you are expecting.

These resources may help you with that:

How to tell someone about your mental health & interactions with others

• This post on telling someone about your mental health problem has some great tips and advice. 
• This is a post with links to various module you can complete to help you assert yourself.
• Here is a online self help book that has some self help tips and information on social skills training.
• Talk about Mental Health
• How to start your conversation
• How to tell the people you love

I would also encourage you to get into therapy for your ED. Maybe you can do it outside the college counseling center if you dont think that will be helpful.  Maybe the counseling center can help set you up with someone outside of the college? We have some great tips on getting a therapist that may help you. There are lots of options out there for you, and I know it’s scary to take that step, but it will pay off in the end.

Getting & talking to a therapist

• This post on picking a therapist has some great tips. 
• This is a step by step on getting a therapist.
• Psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist or counsellor?
• 50 Signs of Good Therapy
• Having issues with therapy?  Here are 50 Warning Signs of Questionable Therapy
• 21 Tips for getting the most out of each therapy session
• 6 Ways to open up to your therapist
• What should happen in a session
• 5 Tips on how to talk about yourself in therapy

Lastly, here are our resources on EDs, and some about body positivity and self esteem as well. 

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