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I have stage 4 cancer. My oncologist has reached out to 20 different drug trials, and all of them have refused to accept me because my tumor is producing a small amount of HCG that is causing positive pregnancy tests, despite my having an IUD and NOT being pregnant (an ultrasound confirmed this). There is chance I could be admitted onto a trial if I got my tubes tied but as I have scar tissue in my abdomen from a colostomy surgery and my lungs are in bad shape post pneumonia/covid, surgery would be particularly risky for me (not to mention that any errant cut could pierce cancerous tissue, causing it to further spread through my body).

For the record, an IUD is a MORE EFFECTIVE method of birth control than tubal ligation. Also, I don't WANT to have a child, I do not intend to have a child.

This apparently does not matter.

I have gone without treatment for over 3 months. I am going to die because I am a "woman of childbearing capacity" the health of a hypothetical fetus takes precedence over my life.

I'm scared and angry, and I just wanted to share with some people who would be angry with me.

ADDENDUM: I realize I’ve been a little imprecise with my language. Is it REALLY misogyny that’s killing me? More accurate to say it’s a Frankensteinian amalgam of misogyny, capitalism, oversight in the drafting of medical language, the interminably slow wheels of bureaucracy, the rarity of this particular circumstance, and good old-fashioned disease. (But the fact remains that if I was a dude this wouldn’t be an ISSUE) (and i understand the whole thalidomide-baby-lawsuit issue, but my dumb-ass thought that I could like, sign a waver assuring people I wouldn’t be getting pregnant and wouldnt sue them if i did and then everything would be hunky-dory)(would that it were so simple)

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Posted by3 hours ago

Not sure if anyone can relate to this, but why do men tend to get more forgiveness/passes on things?

Trivial example: I, female and sole cook in my relationship, mess up a baked potato and steak dinner. By “mess up,” I mean that everything is undercooked on the first try (usually I can nail it, but everyone has off nights) but after another 45 minutes, I fix it. Boyfriend is angered immensely by this, raises voice, complains incessantly, and tells me I should do better. I simply try to fix it. Today, boyfriend makes coffee. He accidentally sets the coffee maker incorrectly so the coffee comes out watered down. I tell him this. Now, it’s “no big deal, I kind of like the coffee this way.” It tastes more reminiscent of tea, but I still drink it. Yet I know deep down, if I had made that mistake, I would have gotten the same, stupid baked potato and steak treatment. I was quiet most of the morning one: because I’m working from home and two: I’m thinking about this. So when boyfriend is trying to talk to me, I am admittedly short, but neutral (not being peppy but also not talking mean/with an angry tone). Yet, he’s saying I’m being “nasty” and that I’m “whining” when I bring up to him that if I had mistakenly watered down the coffee, it would have been a bigger deal.

Welp. This nasty, whiny woman is tired of double standards. Should have made the coffee right.

EDIT: thanks for the responses!! After reading and thinking, I’ve shifted my mindset to “it’s not so much a ‘double standard’ but more so a ‘person not being a very good person in general’ thing.

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