When Are The Next Wonkmeet Parties? Bet YOU'D Like to Know!
ALL the fun will be had.
Time for another reminder of the week's coming Wonkmeet parties next week from WonkMeet.com, because it's Friday and Rebecca ain't wanna write it, she is still busy sending you thank you notes. I am honored, and also it is a fast post to write, so that is good too! Come join your fellow filthy fuckaducks and bring your filthy fuckaducklings along too!
The festivities will kick off in SAN DIEGO, CALIFORNIA on Thursday, August 12, at Chicano Park, from 6 to 9 p.m. Yr Editrix herself will be there, co-hosting with Wonkette Deep State Operative Binkysbroad! Bring your bad self and a "potluck," and now I understand what Rebecca meant in the Chatcave when she said she'd "be out next week driving to SD," and boy am I ever glad i didn't ask what possessed her to go to South Dakota during Delta Season!
Then, come the weekend, Yr Own Dok Zoom will be coming to SPOKANE, WASHINGTON, for the Wonkmeet on Saturday, August 14 in Spokane Audubon Park at 6 p.m. Look for the WonkMeet flag!
Hosted by Wonkette Deep State Operatives Paul and Skepti-KC, who note this will be a "Family friendly event in a city park, so keep it cool, ya know." We think that means you gotta wear pants.
Finally, on Sunday, August 15, in LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA, your hosts will be Rebecca and Wonkette Deep State Operative CAlly for a meetup at Pan Pacific Park, 7600 Beverly Blvd from 3 to 6 p.m, which is earlier than the other two, can you knuckleheads who are jetting to all three remember that? (Haha, like any of our knuckleheads have jets!)
If you need advice on where to stay or other local info, please contact one of the hosts. Dok knows about as much about Los Angeles as he does New York, so we'll just assume the festivities will include a hot rod race in the dry LA River, after which Jack Nicholson will nearly drown there, too.
You know who won't be at any of these? Kid Zoom, who will be working, and Thornton, who can't be trusted on road trips. Leave him alone five minutes and he'll find the nearest rubber mousie truck, the fiend. But they send their love!
Have you a good weekend, and we still have your cocktail recipe coming up for an open thread, this is not an open thread, you got that, you?
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Probably Time To Get Your Masks Out Again, Yes Even If You're Vaccinated
Thanks, anti-vaxxers!
The spread of the Delta variant of the coronavirus is getting bad, kids. It's so bad in the Los Angeles area that LA County has reimposed its mask mandate for indoor spaces, and 11 other counties in California, including much of the Bay Area, are "urging all residents regardless of vaccination status to wear masks in indoor public settings."
LA County is currently seeing 10,000 positive coronavirus tests a week, which is as bad as it's been since March of this year, reports the LA Times:
A Los Angeles Times data analysis found L.A. County was recording 101 weekly coronavirus cases for every 100,000 residents, up from 12 for the seven-day period that ended June 15. That means the county has surpassed the threshold to have "high" community transmission of the disease, the worst tier as defined by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. A region must hit 100 or more weekly cases per 100,000 residents to enter the worst tier.
That's not as bad as the height of the winter surge in COVID-19, but it's plenty bad, and indicates the Delta variant is doing what it does: spreading more effectively than the earlier variants of the virus.
The mask recommendation is aimed at getting everyone masked up again, even though fully vaccinated people are generally protected against serious illness, hospitalization, or death, even with the Delta variant. (Transmission is still possible, as we saw with the six members of the Texas state House who fled to DC, but they're all only experiencing mild symptoms. The risk of such "breakthrough infections" is believed low for fully vaccinated people, as is their risk of transmitting the virus. Masking is a good way to further reduce that risk.)
Problem is, the CDC's recommendation in May that fully vaccinated people can go maskless led most unvaccinated people to decide they didn't need to wear masks anymore either, which was entirely predictable and we predicted it. So now, it's everybody please mask up, in hopes of once more containing the spread of the virus by unvaccinated people.
Officials believe many unvaccinated people stopped wearing masks at the same time vaccinated people did so, even though uninoculated people are still under orders to continue wearing face coverings. Of new coronavirus cases in L.A. County over a recent six-month period, 99.6% involved people who have not been vaccinated.
The LA Times also notes that hospitalizations for COVID-19 have "doubled in the last three weeks, from 255 on June 28 to 528 on Saturday — a number not seen since April." Some health experts say that hospitalization rate, more than 5 hospitalizations per 100,000 residents, may also trigger stricter mask regulations.
Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy said this week that he thought LA County's new mask order was reasonable, and that "I anticipate that will happen in other parts of the country, too." At least if public health officials have a lick of sense and haven't been fired like in Tennessee for fuckssake, we would add.
The number of cases is also rising nationwide, almost entirely among the unvaccinated. Keep in mind, before you say "good, serves 'em right!" that many people can't be vaccinated because they're inmmunocompromised or because they aren't yet old enough to be vaccinated. And yes, our comments policy remains in effect, you filthy fuckaducks.
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Depending on the vaccination rate in your area, you may want to start wearing a mask again when you're in indoor public areas like stores, if you ever let up. I know in Idaho I'm going to start masking up again, My county's vaccination rate is better than much of Idaho's, but just 48 percent are fully vaccinated. You can check US vaccination rates by county at the New York Times; we think that's not paywalled. UPDATE, 7/28/21: Oh look, the CDC has a county-by-county map, free for nothing! The CDC has not yet now updated its recommendations for masking, but if the Delta variant continues to surge among the unvaccinated, we wouldn't be surprised if that changes as well.
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If You Like Pina Coladas, Here, Have One!
If you like cheesy '70s tunes, however, you're on your own.
Greetings, Wonketteers! I'm Hooper, your bartender. While your editrix plans to have me post on Fridays at you, this week we thought you needed to take a load off a day early.
You probably know this drink. You've certainly had one or two before. But this version's very, very good. Not the best one you've ever had; the best one of these that you'll ever drink requires a beach, and sunshine, and someone special beside you in a bathing suit. But this one comes a close second.
Pina Colada
6 oz pineapple juice
2 oz creme de coconut
1 oz fresh lime juice
3 oz Hamilton 86 rum
Shake over ice and strain into a glass over pebble ice. Garnish with a pineapple slice.
So let's tackle the ugly truth about this cocktail: Most modern bartenders hate it. It took center stage in the '80s, shortly after Rupert Holmes wrote That Song. The art of crafting cocktails died a horrible, painful death in the '80s. Bar owners decided that cheap, quick premixes like sour mix were better for the bottom line than fresh ingredients. We ended up drinking a lot of vodka, corn syrup, and artificial flavors. It sucked. If you've never had a pina colada made from scratch – well, make this. Right now. Please.
Ingredient Shot. The pina colada mysteriously vanished soon after this photo was taken. Matthew Hooper
Pineapple Juice: I'll be honest – I use the little cans from Dole. Feel free to use an organic version, or squeeze your own. I've seen blender versions of this drink that use frozen pineapple chunks, but I don't think that's the right move. I don't like pulp in my drinks.
Creme de Coconut: Deity save me, I love this stuff. It's practically coconut frosting, only sweeter and richer. You can find Coco Lopez just about everywhere, but it contains a ton of emulsifiers and artificial glop, and it'stoo thick because of it. Make your own – 1 can of coconut milk, 1 ¾ cups sugar, heat gently on the stove until the sugar melts. Easy peasy. Important note: Creme de coconut is not coconut cream. Coconut cream's not homogeneous and it's probably unsweetened. If you try using coconut cream in a cocktail, you're probably in for a bad time.
Fresh Lime Juice: Lime juice is the acid of choice in countless cocktails, and I go through a ton of it in summer. A good cocktail needs a solid balance of acidity and sweetness to be awesome, and pineapple juice just isn't acidic enough to balance out the crème de coconut. A little lime juice – not enough to make the cocktail taste like lime, just enough to give it a little tartness – makes all the difference.
Hamilton 86 Rum: Funky, dark, dry rums are miles better than bland Bacardi, and don't get me started on Malibu "coconut" rum. Hamilton 86 is my favorite rum right now. The dark, rich caramel notes deepen and ground the pina colada, like caramel sauce on bananas foster. Use Meyer's in a pinch. 3 ounces of rum is on the strong side, but considering how the week has gone, I think it's warranted. Dial it back if you want to drive anywhere today. IMPORTANT NOTE: Do not use Hamilton 151 if you value your soul. The "151" refers to the proof. Hamilton 151 is roughly 75% alcohol, aka "flammable." Do you want to set your pina colada on fire? Do you hate your liver? That's your business.
Pebble Ice: I like this drink on the rocks. Blended pina coladas are fine, don't get me wrong, but blend this one and it'll be too diluted. Pebble ice is a solid compromise, and looks great in this drink. If you check the local fast food joints, you can find one that uses "the good ice" and will let you have an extra-large cup or two. My local Dairy Queen gave me some. Sonic will even sell you pebble ice in 10-pound bags.
Garnish: The pineapple slice on the rim is a must. I like the idea of smelling fresh pineapple as you're drinking the cocktail. If you have a tiny paper umbrella that needs a home, this would be an ideal place to use it.
Questions? E-mail me at msrlapin@gmail.com. I check the comments, too. If I don't get back to you right away, be patient — I'm going to be slammed at the country club this week.
In summary and conclusion, drink well, drink often, drink with a friend. Hopefully in a bathing suit.
Tip your bartender, and OPEN THREAD.
New York Times Thinks You Should Ditch Your Friends For Being Fat Or Depressed
Marie Kondo-ing your friend group will not spark joy.
This week, the New York Times published an article seemingly tailor-made to make us all feel paranoid and horrible and friendless — a guide on "How To Rearrange Your Post-Pandemic Friendships," literally promoted on social media as a way for people to "Marie Kondo" their friend groups.
It did not spark joy.
This was because, rather than offering some halfway decent advice about how to cultivate and keep good friends, the author, Kate Murphy, gave advice that would all but ensure that whoever took it seriously would either be a complete asshole or a paranoid mess.
Firstly, she wants you to know that at least half of your friends don't even think you are their friend. Or, at least she misinterpreted some research in order to claim this.
It seems as if it should be easy to distinguish between true and false friends, but that's not always the case. Research shows that only half of our friendships are mutual. That is, only half of those who we think are our friends feel the same way about us. Blame egoism, optimism or, perhaps, the fact that social media has turned "friend" into a verb.
This "research" was a self-reported survey of 84 undergraduate students ranking their friendship levels with one another, which is certainly a very different situation than most of us are currently in. Hell, when I was that age I might have even ranked people lower specifically because I was insecure and afraid that they might rank me lower. Not only are we talking about friendships with classmates here rather than the people we've chosen to surround ourselves with as adults, but we're also talking about young people who are possibly still holding a lot of baggage from their teen years and in fact are quite possibly still teenagers.
This is a horrible, cruel thing to say to people right now, when half of us can't even remember how to speak to people we're not related to, when people are scared that they won't be able to successfully reassemble their social lives after this, when people have maybe even lost friends to this virus. We're in a vulnerable place, all of us, and no one needs this added anxiety. It's a cruel thing to say when so many people (myself included) go to the well of "Do all of my friends secretly hate me and only hang out with me out of pity?" when feeling low.
Murphy then suggested that people should "curate" their friend circles so as not to include anyone who is depressed or fat or who smokes or drinks and instead befriend people who are "studious, kind and enterprising" — which she apparently thinks are not options for someone who is depressed or fat or who smokes or drinks.
It requires daily or weekly attention to maintain foreground friends, so there are necessarily a limited number of slots (four to six, maximum). Some of those may be filled by your romantic partner, parent, sibling or child. Because they are front and center, foreground friends are the ones who have the most profound impact on your health and well-being, for good or ill.
Indeed, depressed friends make it more likely you'll be depressed, obese friends make it more likely you'll become obese, and friends who smoke or drink a lot make it more likely you'll do the same. The reverse is also true: You will be more studious, kind and enterprising if you consort with studious, kind and enterprising people. That is not to say that you should abandon friends when they are having a hard time. But it's a good idea to be mindful of who you are spending the majority of your time with — whether on- or off-line — because your friends' prevailing moods, values and behaviors are likely to become your own.
Let me be clear — if you are the kind of person who actually, somehow, thinks to yourself, "Oh boy, I don't want to hang out with this awesome person because they are overweight and I am afraid I'll catch the fatness!" and if you ditch your friends because they are going through a rough time and you don't want their issues to bring you down, then you ought to avoid being friends with anyone, period, because you are a fucking asshole.
People dealing with depression and mental health issues are often scared to reach out to the people closest to them for fear of rejection or being a burden, because they are feeling fragile and vulnerable. Every time we hear about a famous person committing suicide, we always tell people, "If you're depressed, reach out so people can help you!" But that's bullshit if we don't also tell people to care for their friends and relatives when they do reach out. It's certainly bullshit if we're actively telling people to ditch their depressed friends.
As far as we have come with body positivity, as much as we can now walk into stores and see mannequins of all sizes, as much as it is now uncool to publicly berate women for not having a "thigh gap" — we are in absolutely no danger of "glorifying obesity," as horrible people like to say. That's not a thing. The only people who think that is a thing are men who are worried women are becoming increasingly unconcerned about their boners and women who believed "everyone has to be a size 00" in the 2000s and are now concerned they will not be rewarded for their "efforts" and will be forced to develop a personality. Both those types of people tend to think the only way to maintain the lifestyle to which they have become accustomed is to bully fat people like they're seventh graders with an axe to grind.
And we still live in a world where people like Kate Murphy think it is "kind, and studious" to tell people to ditch their fat friends. And The New York Times will publish it.
Practically every one of my friends has dealt with depression at some point or another. They come in all body types as well. I pick friends based on how funny and nice they are rather than how they look, because I am not an actual psychopath. Most of them smoke at least socially and nearly all of them drink. And you know what? They are great and funny and hilarious people who I am damn sure are a better time to hang out with than people who don't drink or swear or rat their hair and get ill from one cigarette.
I don't know who threw the overalls in Ms. Murphy's chowder, but she's sure got an axe to grind, re: friendship. In the past year, she's written several articles for The New York Times along the lines of this one, like "The Pandemic Shrank Our Social Circles. Let's Keep It That Way" and "The Coronavirus Made Us Socially Awkward."
For anyone who felt like shit after reading this article or seeing clips of it online (or after reading this, though I hope that is not the case), you should know that there is a reason this woman doesn't have a lot of friends that has nothing to do with how wonderful she is at "curating" them. The reason is that she is an asshole.
Here is my hot friendship advice.
Is your friend kind? Do you enjoy being around them? Do you care about them? Do they care about you? Great. That person is your friend!
Is your friend a jerk? Do they expect you to do everything in the friendship? Do you get the feeling they'd throw you down the stairs if someone they thought was cooler came along? Do you feel badly about yourself after talking to them? That person is not your friend.
People who are shitty to you are not more "aspirational" friend-wise than people who like you and are nice right off the bat.
Obviously there are a lot of asterisks here because human relationships are complicated, but that's really about it. When you start curating your friendships based on criteria other than that, you end up being an asshole that no one wants to be around and possibly justifying this by writing several New York Times articles telling people that they're the ones whose friends all secretly hate them.
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