The original post was actually pretty good and talked about how reliable of commissioners the furry community were for a struggling artist.

But aight lmao

for anyone who chose not to read the post:

• artist needed money for college, people from tumblr/dA told them their prices were too expensive and that no one would commission them.
• artist was desperate and logged on to their old Furaffinity account to take commissions
• artist got a shitton of commissions and everyone was supportive and encouraging
• people ended up tipping the artist 10-20$ per commission because they thought the artist was undercharging
  

tl;dr - furries supported artist and treated them better than the “pro-artist” sides of dA and tumblr.

so when’s cringe culture gonna wake up and realize that this weird baseless hatred of furries is largely rooted in the fact that it’s a community of 95% openly queer & sex-positive folk…

they ain’t never gonna wake up. cringe culture is here to hate, and hating furries is a smokescreen to cover up the fact that this is bigotry bullying the marginalized.

Also:

https://iww.org 

=D

Furries are also very often neurodivergent in some capacity, or has a mental illness like depression

Very easy to shit all over them and go “no, I’m not ableist they’re just a furry!” when really you’re just bullying them for being “weird” because their ND tendencies are showing and you just want an excuse to shit on them for it

In this house we love and support furries :)

!!!!!!!!

My brother was abused by his babies mom and it started like this and escalated to child abuse and neglect.

You don’t deserve to be screamed at, ignored, or assaulted.

Not showing affection when she wants or not hugging her before class) or missing a phone call doesn’t warrant getting cussed out or hit.

Lol, I lost 5 followers from reblogging this. That’s fine, y'all can go

Whole lot of grown women do this too.

Just wanna throw these in too

• Being passive aggressive with him when he wants to spend time with friends or doing other things 
• controlling when he’s able to go out with friends
  
• Breaking up his friendships with other girls just because you’re insecure
• Making him feel like his opinions in decisions that affect the both of you are irrelevant and don’t matter
• SENDING HIS NUMBER TO STRANGERS TO TEST IF HE’S LOYAL OR NOT
• testing him in anyway in general without his knowledge or permission (example: catfishing! it’s manipulative and weird don’t fucking do that)
• taking money/credit cards without permission to spend on things without his knowledge ( had an ex friend do this constantly to her boyfriend and she’d always condone it because “he’ll get over it” )
• guilting him for hanging out with friends/family over you  and making him choose between you and friends/family
• telling him “you don’t love me if you *insert harmless activity he wants to do here* “
• being rude or mean to him in front of others to assert dominance or power over him
• downloading apps to spy on his phone activity (yes, this is a thing “”regular”” people do) or snooping on his social media to see who he’s talking to
• hitting him, slapping him, punching him, shoving him. literally how do people not understand slapping your male partner is bad. people tend to find this funny in media and society and its weird. KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF YOUR PARTNER WITHOUT PERMISSION. 

I come from a family of very forward and manipulative women and i see it in media all the time. it’s fucked and people need to not be accepting of young girls acting like snot-nosed, abusive shit heads that think they can get away with manipulation and cruelty because they happen to be girls.

and let me add this. ABUSIVE TEEN GIRLFRIENDS TURN INTO ABUSIVE GROWN ASS WOMEN GIRLFRIENDS WHO TURN INTO ABUSIVE WIVES.

if you have an abusive teen or young adult gf right now fellas, leave. don’t let her use you to get her shit right. you’ll be so fucked up by the time she gets it together if she ever does and believe that most likely she won’t.  

Can i just add that ive seen young queer girls do this to their girlfriends. Girls can be abusers and you are right to leave. 

Women/young girls can definitely be just as abusive. I knew a young man that got ran over and had his leg broken by his girlfriend because (in her words he annoyed her) He refused to press charges. Another young lady started to hit her ex boyfriend because he wouldn’t take her back because of the abuse. He called the cops on her and they literally started laughing at him because she was very petite in comparison to him. Anyone can be abusive and I wish more people understood that.

dammit I’d spam my blog if i reblog this more than once but dude this is really important.

Oh my god. This is so important.

Never stop reblogging this post!

Women & girls can be abusive too! Abuse can happen both ways.

Sorry I know not study related just think it’s important !

Wait wait wait, what do you mean by sending his number to strangers???? People do that????

i feel like this is a especially relevant in light of the johnny depp situation 💕 you’re worth more than abusers treat you. leave them as soon as you can or get help. ily

Women on men abuse isn’t cute or badass. You see this a lot in the media and it’s always played off as either badass or playful and funny. But it really isn’t. Start telling the men in your life that they deserve better.

“The heartwarming story of how one woman worked for 8 months straight so she could escape the horror that is being in wheelchair for a few short minutes to struggle slowly and painfully down the aisle on her special day.”

“the horror that is being in a wheelchair” bitch it’s hella better than struggling slowly & painfully down the aisle ffs

“Despite being permanently paralyzed, her one goal since her accident has been to walk across the stage for graduation. The whole crowd gave her a standing ovation and broke into tears when she dragged her paralyzed legs across the stage with the help of leg braces and a walker to collect her diploma, after which she immediately sat back down in her wheelchair, which she will use to move around for the rest of her life.”

How the hell is this an inspirational story? This person needs better goals. And a therapist.

They’re toxic in an even greater way because as a disabled person, I didn’t realise till I was reading this how much I had internalised that. I genuinely have had feelings of fear and shame about using a chair or a walker if I get married. And why? Because I’m constantly seeing “heartwarming” stories about disabled people who shed their mobility aids for that moment. Why the hell am I afraid of using them to get married? Anyone who marries me or attends the wedding will know I need them and love me regardless.

Bless this post for making me realise I’d internalised that shit.

These types of stories teach people, both abled and disabled, that using mobility aids, especially wheelchairs, is inferior.

here are some beautiful brides in chairs with dresses they ROCK. I know a lot of disabled ppl with internalized ableism think they “won’t look good” if they use their chair, but here’s some literally gorgeous gals for ur consideration

(that last ones cute as fuck and i teared up at it)

Who needs a bouquet when you can be a bouquet?

I made my addition to this post in June 2019. Its now January 2020 and I no longer feel guilty about the idea of going down the aisle one day with mobility aids.

God bless the disabled community, y'all saved me from some internalised bullshit

This post floated by a few months ago, and I remember something to effect of there’s a difference between recovery and refusal. That is, like, I have a friend that suffered an incomplete spinal cord injury. He can walk again now, and I don’t think I’ve seen him use his chair in a few years. When he walked at his graduation, it was to show off his recovery. That he wasn’t quite ready to go through a full day upright, but he could walk across a stage, unassisted, and soon he would be able to do that every day. There’s also a difference in someone like me choosing to not use a mobility aid. My mobility is intensely fluid, especially seasonally. So, I would plan a summer wedding. And while I love my cane it can also be the biggest pain in my ass, so I’d want to just go unassisted. But that’s normal for me, at least right now. I can walk without an aid during about half of the year. It’s reasonable to assume I can make it through one day without it. All of that is different than someone that is fully and permanently paralyzed, that will never walk again, dragging themselves along because they feel that’s somehow better. Overall though, my biggest takeaway is fuck the media. Because disabled people should be able to make whatever decision they want without the media turning it into this grand inspirational story.

Disabled people should be able to make whatever decision they want without the media turning it into this grand inspirational story.

THIS.

Couldn’t pass up the opportunity to add my disabled joy to this post. Look at this love!

Taking the opportunity to add these photos of Jessica Kellgren-Fozard and her wife Claudia, from this twitter post. Jessica also has a youtube channel that’s primarily about disability and chronic illness and LGBT stuff (it’s amazing!) 

I would also like to personally share, Annika Victoria who ALSO has a youtube channel. This photo was taken from her instagram - she made her wedding dress dress herself, BY HAND. Her youtube channel is mostly DIY fashion and sewing tutorials. I love her so much, she’s so unapologetically herself and informative

I also wanna add these pictures of Ade Adepitan fucking rocking this badass suit at his wedding! Give my fellow disabled mascs some love too

look how much fun they’re both having! yes!

and also this couple, who are both wheelchair users

this is from their beautifully coordinated wedding!

Plus someones partner could have personally come out as nonbinary but not publically or be gender questioning so you may want to use gender neutral language to respect that and not out them specifically or they don’t match the classic sense of a boyfriend/girlfriend and so you call them a partner instead, or you are poly, or this or that, let people use the languge that suits them and don’t gatekeep it because the person doesn’t ”seem” queer.

Every single time I have seen the "straights using partner" discourse it has absolutely been a monosexist, cissexist mess. And I can't emphasize enough how this is usually first and foremost reactionary biphobia, especially bi-misogyny.

the deadline is 4 august 2021 and there hasn't been even half of the required signatures yet. please spread this!!

Absolutely do sign this if you are in the UK!!! We’re almost halfway to be considered during debates, please help support the trans healthcare system! I’ve been on the waiting list for two years and that’s tiny compared to some other trans and non binary people out there. Every sign helps!