That awkward moment when your dad is summoned to collect you from the principals office...

"What the fuck did you do?"......

You know when you're fucked 😬

Shit shit shit .....

D/s in public

It started out with a simple text.

“May I have coffee today, sir?”

To my surprise, I was allowed to have some. Hubby was at work and my friend and I were grabbing coffee after my morning shift at work.

A different friend of mine was texting me all day about getting a coat from me. She was my previous roommate and left it (along woth other things) in the apartment when she moved out months ago. Plans kept changing with her. I went out of my way to get home so she could get the coat and she didn’t show up like she said.

Next, another couple we were friends with invited us out to dinner and a movie with them. We were trying to coordinate when hubby got off of work with what restaurant to go to, in what town, and which movie we’d see based on show times. It was kind of a mess, but plans can be that way.

Until hubby takes over.

I called to ask him about the tentative plans I had made with the other couple and a friend who was also coming along.

“We’re not eating at X, we’ll eat at Y. We gave gift cards to Y from Christmas so there’s no reason to spend money at a different restaurant. Our friends can come there with us or we can meet them at the theatre.”

I told J about my spat with our former roommate over the coat and he told me what to do about that situation as well. Thankfully, our friends happily agreed on the restaurant hubby chose and after he and I got off the phone I sent him a text.

“Thank you for being so decisive about dinner. I needed that.”

He replied, “I know, baby. Bring me jeans, a flannel and a hat to change into.”

The plans were set, and I felt a million times better about them.

At the restaurant, I asked, “Do you mind if I have alcohol with dinner?” Once again, he allowed it. That’s the key to asking your Dom for something when you’re in front of people. You say “do you mind” instead of “can I” because it makes it seem to your friends that you still have some say in it.

As I was sipping my peach drink, the waitress came back to get our orders.

“I’ll have the stuffed chicken. She will have the cheese tortellini with no chicken on it and a salad on the side.”

I smiled over at him while one of our friends joked, “What, you’re not going to order for her too?” Nodding toward our other friend.

“No,” I said, “she’s not his wife.”

We all smiled and laughed it off, but it felt great to stick up for my husband. Almost as good as it felt to have him order my food for me.

At the theatre he held my hand and led the way to and from the theatre, pausing only to open the doors and allow me to pass in front of him.

On the way home, he drove whole holding my hand. When he couldn’t, he took my hand and set it on his lap. At home, I hugged him and thanked him for everything.

You see, hubby and I are young. We’re newly married. We’re especially new to D/s. But days like today remind me that we’re on the right track.

It feels good to submit to him in front of my friends. They don’t know our dynamic or anything like that, but they do know that we appreciate each other. That we respect each other. That we are happy together. That we are whole-heartedly in love with one another.

When you have a love like my husband and I do, then the jokes and odd looks about him ordering for me are completely worth it.

Aftercare. 💙✨

I know most people know what subdrop is, but for the few who don’t I’ll explain.

Subdrop is what happens to your body after you’ve drained your brain of all the hormones and chemicals that it released during a scene or session.

Meaning, after you‘ve come down from your high, you start to feel mentally and emotionally attacked from what just happened. You start to think all these bad things about yourself and how someone normal would not find what just occurred pleasurable in anyways.

That’s why aftercare is important. Showering your sub in compliments,food, cuddle sessions. Just stuff that will make them feel like you care and that you don’t judge them for enjoying what they like.

Another thing, I’m positive that most people don’t know is what topdrop is. It’s the same as subdrop but it affects doms/dommes.

I know some people will be like- “Doms/dommes don’t go through that, nothing like that bothers them.” That’s where you’re wrong.

Remember we’re all human so no one is exempt from feeling used or feeling disgusted with their actions even though they shouldn’t be.

Not many know this but being a dom/domme is exhausting. A good top plans physical punishments or sexual scenes down to the T so their is no room for accidents and after all that planning and executing said plan they sometimes feel bad for doing what they did or even feel used in a sense.

That’s why aftercare is important for both parties. Show them that you care and that you appreciate what they did. Reassure them that they didn’t hurt you in a bad way and that they only did what they did to help you grow. ASK👏 THEM👏 IF👏 THEY’RE👏 OKAY👏!! Especially right after a session.

That can be the difference between showing that you care or not.

AFTERCARE IS A NECESSITY FOR BOTH PARTICIPANTS!!👏💙✨

How to make your submissive feel owned;

1. Challenge them.

Don’t be lazy when giving tasks. Give them a task that allows them to impress you. If you tell them to wear a certain color of panties/underpants, you are giving them a very closed task. It’s either failed or succeeded. Be creative and they will be.

2. Think about them.

As a Submissive they will idealy think of you a lot. Return the favour. Message them when you miss them. Remember important things for them. You may care, but you have to make them feel like you care.

3. Listen to them.

Be open to their suggestions, their issues, the things they wish to talk about. Often when someone tells you of a problem, they know you can’t provide a solution… They merely want a listening ear, so provide it.

4. Have fun with them outside of kink.

Watch a movie with them, joke with them, flirt. Dare to be silly and be open to just stepping outside the little comfortzone that is kink. They aren’t just your plaything, and they deserve to be more.

5. Be honest.

If something disatisfies you about them, tell them. Don’t be rude, don’t be mean, but let them know. Nothing’s worse than feeling something is wrong and not knowing what. At least give them the chance to improve on it, if you cannot ignore it.

6. Communicate.

Communication is so vital. I know it pretty much what I said in the past few points, but it deserves one on its own. Don’t just mindlessly churn out tasks, don’t just play. Be a friend to them.

7. Don’t turn your back on them.

It’s not all sunshine and rainbows in any relationships. Things may go shitty in their life, or they may go shitty in your life. If they ask for your help, at the very least, make sure you are there to listen how you can help and if you can help.

8. Give rules and guidelines.

When you aren’t around leave specific instruction on what to do and when; Then in spite of your absence they will still feel like they are pleasing you.

9. Be trustworthy.

Nothing makes you feel less of a person than being lied to. You are their owner, you are responsible for them. If you don’t make yourself worthy of that right, it’s not ending well.

10. Work on it!

Seriously. Don’t be lazy. Don’t slack off. How would you treat them if they did? You have expectations, but you also have duties and if you don’t fulfill those duties you will sooner or later lose them to someone who will.

Something I find slightly annoying as a dominant guy is how few (but otherwise completely good) sluts don’t really get how to do dirty talk. So here’s a guide based on my experience as a dominant man.

Inevitably this is going to reflect some of my personal tastes but hopefully it’s also general enough to be useful to any slut who wants to please a man by being the filthy talking whore he dreams about:

1) Beg

Most men, unless they’re unsafe assholes, don’t want to go too far and hurt you (at least not too much). This means their natural instinct is to hold back. But even if they’ve learnt not to hold back then it’s pretty much always the case that hearing you beg for more makes it easier to forget that nagging instinct and to know that they have an eager little slut to use.

So say things like “Please fuck my cunt/throat/ass” or “Please rape me/fuck me hard” or “Please make me your whore” and any variations on those themes. Whatever he’s doing, beg him to do more of it. Plead with him to use you. Not only will he love hearing you beg but he’ll also use you even harder as a result.

Win win.

2) You don’t “want”, you “need”

Hearing a whore say she wants your cock is nice. Hearing that she needs it is better.

You want him to know that you’re a mindless slut who *needs* to be used. Who doesn’t just want what he’s doing to you but who craves it. Much like 1) it helps him think that you really are a complete slut who loves what he’s doing to you.

So whenever you’re about to say “I want X” say “I need X” instead.

Say things like “I need your cock in my ass/cunt/pussy” or “I need to be filled with your cock” or “I need to taste your cum”. I guarantee he’ll appreciate it.

3) Flatter him

We all like compliments. Men especially like them about their cocks. It doesn’t matter how big he is or isn’t, or how well he fucks. If you want to make him enjoy himself then compliment him.

Saying things like “your cock feels so big inside me”, “oh my god, I love your dick” or “I love it when you fuck me like this/do X to me” will help stroke his ego and make him enjoy using you more.

You can also extend this to praising whatever he’s doing. If he’s making you feel good then tell him how good it feels, moan like a slutty little whore as you tell him how amazing his cock feels inside you (this also has the advantage that it encourages him to keep doing something you’re enjoying). Or if he’s hurting you then praise that as well, let him know that you’re a filthy pain slut and what he’s doing “hurts so good”.

All of these will encourage him to double down on how he’s using you and bring him more pleasure. And since that’s the only thing that should matter to a good little whore then this is definitely something you need to do.

4) You love being degraded

This one’s simple. If you’re having the kind of sex where dirty talk makes sense then it’s already going to be at least a little degrading and you wouldn’t be having that kind of sex unless you enjoyed it (or hate it but are addicted to it).

So all you need to do is make it clear how much you enjoy (and need - remember that from earlier?) being degraded and used. This will help spur him on to use you remorselessly to satisfy his urges so if you’re craving being thoroughly fucked and used then this is the kind of dirty talking for you.

The simplest way to do this is just to ask him to do degrading things to you - or to keep doing the degrading things he’s already doing. Ask for things that humiliate and objectify you and tell him how much you love them.

Say things like “I love being your worthless cum dump”, or “thank you for treating me like the pathetic fucktoy I am” or “please let me taste my ass on your cock” or “I love gagging on your thick cock”. Again, it doesn’t matter if you don’t actually like the kind of degradation you’re talking about or if he doesn’t actually do all the things you say you like when you’re dirty talking.

What matters is that what you’re saying will put him in the mindset to use you the way he most enjoys and lets him know that you’re his dirty little toy for him to use. And, trust me, that’s the kind of thing that will thrill him and keep him coming back for more.

5) Repetition

There are some things in life where the same thing happening over and over again can be boring. This is not the case with fucking. If you love a particular position then you’re going to enjoy fucking more, not less, if that position is one you use every time you fuck.

Similarly for guys, if there’s a bit of dirty talk they like then hearing it on a regular basis will make fucking better, not boring. If there’s a particular genres of porn he likes then odds are he’ll usually watch porn in that genre. In the same way, if he likes his girl begging to taste his cum then odds are he’ll usually want her to say that every time he’s getting ready to cum in her mouth.

So if he gives a sign of liking something then continue on that theme. If he’s fucking your ass and you feel his cock twitch when you tell him you love being his ass slut then you’ve hit upon a topic that turns him on. So don’t just switch to something else, expand upon that theme. You’re not just his ass slut, you’re also his “filthy anal whore”, you need him to “ruin my ass with your huge cock” and you want him to “make me your anal slave” or any other variations on that theme you can think of.

The same applies to any other topic he seems to like. Don’t just say something once, repeat yourself over and over again and embellish what you’re saying. Return to similar themes every time you fuck. If it ain’t broke then don’t fix it as they say. So once you’ve worked out what gets him going then there’s nothing wrong with repeating yourself - if he enjoys you telling him that you “love your cock destroying my throat” then, guess what, he’ll enjoy that every time you say it.

So don’t overcomplicate things. If you’ve found something he enjoys then use it on a regular basis. It requires less imagination on your part and he’ll enjoy it more, not less.

6. Follow his lead

You’re not a mindreader so you won’t always know what a man likes. That’s why it’s important to pick up on the cues he gives you. In fact, this is one of the simplest ways to get into dirty talk if you’re new and nervous to the topic.

Just wait for, and encourage him to say something dirty, then seize on that theme and build upon it. 9 times out of 10 if he says something to you then it’s because it’s something he’d enjoy hearing you say to him.

So if he says “you’re a dirty little slut aren’t you” then the wrong response is just to say “yes” and keep on fucking like nothing happened. The correct response is to say “mmm, yeah, I’m a dirty little slut”,” I’m a slutty whore who loves getting fucked”, “please fuck this dirty slut Sir”, “I’m your slut, I’m your dirty slut”, etc.

You can very easily make him happy just by picking up on the hints he gives you and repeating back the things he says to you. In fact, if you do nothing else then just do this - because there’s nothing more frustrating than saying something dirty to a girl you’re fucking and her not embracing it and telling you the kind of things you’re hinting to her that you like.

Conclusion

So there it is. Six instructions to follow to be a dirty talking slut who’ll drive wild any man fucking you.

This guide is far from comprehensive and every man is different but if you follow what I’ve said then you shouldn’t go too far wrong no matter what.

I hope you’ll find this guide useful on your way to becoming a better fucktoy and, as always, if you follow my advice in real life then I’d love to know how it works out for you.