heyyyy lol soooooo uh. so my dad died yesterday which means i am now an orphan with adult responsibilities, which isn’t sick and is, in fact, extremely cringe. so. i made a paypal, i haven’t had it for long i just figured it’d be important somewhere down the line. all the big kids have one
paypal.me/graghahg
please slide me some money so that i can. survive.
Our blog does not support using stigmatizing language like “narcissistic” because we want to maintain a safe environment for all survivors, including those with personality disorders.
We do understand that a lot of people are not aware of the harmfulness of using “narcissistic” to describe abuse and that is why we are writing this post. We believe that offering insight into the matter is important.
“Narcissistic” is an example of a term that people use to be synonymous with “abusive”. It is important to refrain from armchair diagnosing people.
It’s important to note that personality disorders, (including narcissistic personality disorder) do not make someone inherently abusive. Using terms like narcissistic to describe abuse is ableist.
Narcissism as a concept existed before the diagnosis of NPD existed, however, it’s become hard to separate. When someone uses the term “narcissist” to equate it to being a “bad person” this will lump in everyone who has NPD.
In a lot of cases, those with personality disorders have been abused themselves and are in need of support and feel they cannot get it in a lot of places due to the stigma surrounding their personality disorder.
It’s important to be clear that the abuse you went through is valid! However, instead of saying “narcissistic,” try to use other negative terms in place that will reduce stigma and harm. Some terms may include: manipulative, selfish, or conceited.
Please only use “narcissist” to refer to someone with NPD and when doing that, don’t use it as an insulting term.
Every once and a while, I read a reference to some new and cartoonishly evil thing some Republican legislature is trying to do somewhere, and go, “okay, this one really has got to be hyperbole.”
