reference post for myself
this is free to reblog, and will be edited whenever i find something else i need to remember
min - masculine
fin - feminine
nin - neutral
xin - xenic
agin/glin - agender, genderless
autumin - autumn
lin - androgynous/masc+fem
amin - ambiguine, ambiguous
opin - omni/poly/pluri/multi
apiin - apathetic, indifferent
plin - partial, demi
no-min - not masculine
no-fin - not feminine
no-nin - not neutral
qin/quin - queer
okin - otherkin, alterhuman
midbin - midbinary
abin - abinary
bin - binary/ideogender
epin - epicene
flin - fluid/flux, fluix
idin - fluid
uxin - flux
auin - autonomous
din - defined
cin - collect
nuoin - neuro
neu/neuin - neutrois
voin - void
oin - otherine
autiin - autigender
cuin - cultural/culturally specific
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pluralian - attracted to more than one gender
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attraction types:
- aesthetic: a form of physical attraction to one’s appearance. experiencing aesthetic attraction (admiration, valuing their existence more than others (non-obsessively), adoration, interest in their persona, distant emotional reliance) . crush equivalent is “swish”. partner name is “idol”. pink
- alterous: desiring interaction that is neither 100% platonic, 100% queerplatonic, or 100% romantic, but is rather somewhere in between (affectionate speech, physical affection, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others). crush equivalent is “mesh/hush”. blue, cyan
- amical: experiencing platonic + siblinghood attraction (nonsexual touch, valuing the relationship more than others, friendship, doing things together exclusively, emotional reliance, possible physical affection, familial bonds). crush is “shush/thresh”
- cedural: experiencing protected/guarded attraction (valuing the relationship more than others, doing things together exclusively, possible physical affection, possible grooming and being physically close, emotional and mental dependence, ‘following behind’ or willing to release some independence, but not completely or by force; may be platonic, romantic, a mix, or some other type) (also called submissive and concomitant). lightish blue + lightish green.
- emotional: attraction that fits multiple types at once, or has characteristics of multiple types of attraction while not strictly falling into any type
- parental: Parental attraction is when you feel the desire to raise a child with someone. crush equivalent is “prush/prash”. relationship name is “parenthood”. partner name is “co-parent”
- platonic: desiring platonic interaction (nonsexual touch, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others (possibly), friendship, making lifelong decisions together, relying on each other emotionally). crush name is “squish”. partner name is “friend”. associated with the colour yellow
- queerplatonic: desiring interaction that is not 100% platonic, but is actually more, while not being 100% romantic either (kissing, cuddling, handholding, nonsexual touch, being physically close, affectionate speech, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others). crush equivalent is “plush”. partner name is “zucchini/queerplatonic partner/qpp”. usually associated with yellow or pink. also called quirkyplatonic, quasiplatonic, or qplatonic
- romantic: desiring romantic interaction (being physically close, affectionate speech, living together, making lifelong commitment decisions, romantic affection, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others). crush equivalent is “crush”. partner name is “(date/joy/boy/girl/enby)friend/partner/lover”. usually associated with green or red
- sensual: desiring sensual interaction (kissing, cuddling, handholding, nonsexual touch, stroking, grooming, physical affection, sharing space, being physically close). crush equivalent is “lush”. partner name is “cuddle buddy”. orange
- sexual: desiring sexual interaction (sexual intercourse, sexually touching/groping, kissing, finding sexual pleasure). crush equivalent is “smush/lust”. partner name is “sex partner/fuck buddy/lover”. usually associated with purple
- soft romo: low level romantic relationship
- tutelary: experiencing protective attraction (valuing the relationship more than others, doing things together exclusively, possible physical affection, emotional reliance, being physically close, feeling protective or guide-like emotions; may be platonic, romantic, a mix, or some other type). also called guardian, dominant, or protective. crush is “mush”. partner is “comate, cherish, ward”. relationship is “guardianship, wardship, tutelage”
- wavership: experiencing attraction that can fluctuate between different types or different expressions (called fluidic). partner name is “wavermate/waffle”. brown + light blue
attraction types:
- intellectual
- spiritual
- noetic: experiencing mental attraction (valuing their opinions, fascination with their point of view or perception of reality, fascination and appreciation of their ‘mental map’ (how they see the world/how their mind ‘works’), admiration of their perspectives or opinions, desiring a guide-like or apprentice-like relationship (possibly), valuing their existence more than others (non-obsessively), interest in their persona, possible emotional reliance, favoring their input and guidance, intimacy)
- familial/fellowship
- social: desiring social interaction (verbal speech, sharing information, discussing interests, spending time together, possible desire to have a deeper relationship)
- pragmatic/hospitable: ‘a means to an end’ type of relationship or attraction, the desire to appease for some gain, or to create a relationship with a common goal besides simply being in love (this can be across multiple expressions of affection, kindness, compatibility, interaction, and interest. This type is listed for those in arranged marriages, professional partnerships, procreational relationships, hospitality employment such as hospital or hotel services, and sex workers.)
- erotic/nonsexual: experiencing erotic attraction (an aesthetic attraction to nonsexual nudity, or a nonsexual interest in human anatomy; the best example is admiration of the human physique, particularly genitals or secondary reproductive organs (though not always exclusively), but not wishing for sexual interaction. This is placed here for those on the asexual spectrum, or those who simply do not feel the desire to have sexual interaction with others, but are not sex-repulsed.)
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