"ohh but it'll take them longer to realize they're actually gay" i know my experiences aren't universal but like. if i wasn't ready to face my lesbianism then i was Not Ready, you could've eliminated every other label in existence and i still wouldn't have accepted it. if anything, the ability to try out different labels helped me learn about myself, explore the community, and accept that maybe not being straight wasn't so bad.

also lots of people identify as bi before realizing they are gay, lots of people identify as gay before realizing they're bi, lots of people identify as gay before realizing they're trans, etc etc etc!!! exploring and getting it wrong is a necessary part of the process!!! why is it so different for aroace identities?????

That’s not all!

Bless Dr. Tingle!!!

I’m kind of glad to hear that everyone does this. Because it means it isn’t colonizer bullshit, it’s what everyone does. It’s just people discovering new things. Everyone goes:

“Oh hey these people have their own style of [language A’s word for thing. Say, what do you call it?”

“Oh it’s [language B’s word for thing].”

“Got it, it’s [language B’s word for thing] variety [language A’s word for thing]”

The human race just naturally moon moons itself

Bread Bread

this is what i love!! we found each other’s cultures and were like “oh it’s bread but it’s not what we commonly think of as bread so it’s THEIR bread like BREAD bread”. if i said “bread” most people from where i am would think of just regular sliced bread but if i say NAAN bread we all know that i don’t mean sliced bread i mean naan. maybe it literally means bread but the way we have interpreted it is “bread that is not the bread we know”

Guess this post is a place for the ursus arctos arctos