a fast and easy way to tell these apps exactly what you think about the fact that they are suppressing palestinian voices as well as anything that supports their cause. apple denied facebook’s request to delete these negative reviews. let’s tank these bitches!
this is coming from a trans boy - i've been following you for a while and i go through your blog often when looking for transmasc content, and i keep seeing people hate on you for calling yourself a dyke/butch. i don't know a lot about lesbian culture but as far as i'm aware those terms are generally used by lesbians for lesbians. is there some history relating those labels to transmasc people or gnc people that i'm unaware of?
i'm definitely not trying to tell you that you can't use those labels for yourself (and i fully recognise that you have zero obligation to give a fuck about what others think of your identity), nor am i trying to question your personal reasons for doing so. the purpose of this ask is just me wanting to learn more about identities/labeld and the culture surrounding those. i'd look it up but i generally don't trust the... "mainstream" internet, for lack of a better word, to be a reliable source of information on identity politics and i'd rather just speak to someone with firsthand experience.
if you don't want to answer this, that's totally okay - i understand that you do not owe anyone education on your identity - and i appreciate you taking the time out to read this anyway.
Hello! There is a very long history of trans men using butch and dyke as their labels - in fact that history is as long as the history of “butch” and “dyke”. You have to remember that for a very very long time the only place trans masculine people were allowed to exist is in the lesbian community. For a lot of people, depending on where they live, this is still true. Those communities were where trans men existed - we helped build them. They might have never existed if it was not for the presence of transmasculine people.
The term “Stone Butch” is in itself a term with transmasculine connotation. It refers to a butch who doesn’t allow themselves to be “feminized ” during sex (such as being penetrated ) due to gender dysphoria/ trauma/asexuality. Stone Butch Blues is quite literally about a transmasculine butch who can be read as nonbinary or as a trans man depending on your interpretation!
The butch label isn’t a cis one and I would say that cis lesbians have less right to that label then trans men do. I’m hardly going to police what labels they use, that would be beyond hypocritical, but the butch community has a trans masculine history that trans men have always been a part of. Bobby Nobel (one of the foremost scholars of transgender studies in North America ) talks about how he was at the very start of the lesbian liberation movement, he was The Out Lesbian who ran dozens of campaigns and groups and still considers himself to be butch but no longer a lesbian and he talks about how he was pushed out of these lesbian communities that he had helped build after he came out as a trans man, I suggest checking out “sons of the movement” a book he wrote about trans men and our history in these communities that now reject us.
A lot of trans men, myself included, learned to love our masculinity in the butch and the dyke community - and I do want to express that the Dyke community is not a synonym with the lesbian community. The Dyke community is composed of lesbians, bisexuals, trans masculine people, trans fem people, and dozens of others. I am still a part of the dyke community, I was only briefly a part of the lesbian community. So for those of use who found our existence and a way to love ourselves in the Dyke community, it’s still an important aspect of our identity. (not to mention, it is a slur directed as us - that we have every right to reclaim.)
A lot of misunderstanding seems to stem form the idea that butch and dyke are lesbian exclusive - which they are not. That was started by lesbian separatists which have a lot of overlap with radfems and terfs. It’s a biphobic and transphobic statement. Butch and Dyke have always been terms that have been applied to trans men and bisexuals, with or without our consent.
I suggest looking at this answer I made that includes a lot of suggest reading, from both personal stories, queer theory, and published works from butches and trans men. You can also check out my tags “Male Dyke” and “ftm butch” which has a lot of commentary that includes the history of the terms butch and dyke and who they are applied to and who use them.
At the end of the day, butch has always meant the queering of masculinity and Dyke has always been a slur used against far more then lesbians and can be reclaimed by far more then they.
I actually had to do this once, though it was more like what you would do with a baby who needs CPR(I was stressed and it was what came to mind) and it does in fact work. Obviously the quicker you realize a dog needs CPR, the more likely the CPR will work but it's very good to keep in mind if you are ever in a situation that calls for it
- the amount of fanart where the character is made much younger and/or skinnier than her canon form
- the quantity of blogs devoted to this character springing up en masse following her release, in particular the sheer amount of x reader AU blogs with increasing disconnect from the canon material
- the discourse surrounding people who are absolutely convinced this character is secretly an innocent protagonist and that any other characters who dislike or hinder her are secretly irredeemably evil
I am proud (?) to announce that lady dimitrescu is the first true tumblr sexywoman
When I was a kid I was genuinely horrified by the idea of growing up and I think a large part of it was the insistence by adults in my life that puberty would turn me into someone completely different. They were like “sure you don’t like make up and boys now but you’ll feel differently after puberty” or like “sure you think you wouldn’t want kids now but you’ll see once you’re older”
it’s like damn, stop invalidating kids’ personalities and listen to them and maybe you won’t be so shocked when they don’t transform into a new person later
