the bisexual manifesto supports creating and inventing new terms and labels to help identify yourself and feel comfortable within your identity. the bisexual manifesto SUPPORTS pansexuality, omnisexuality, polysexuality, and any other multiattraction label.
stop using the bisexual manifesto to be shitty towards mspec folk.
here’s a massive shoutout to people who were forced to come out or were outed, and never got to have the experience of taking your time/having a cute coming out story/choosing who you came out to/etc. you are so strong, and i’m sorry that experience was stolen from you.
I've seen discussions sometimes about how fanfiction-based fandom culture is heavily influenced and dominated by people who are not cis men.
One thing I haven't seen discussed as much though is how much of fandom in general is shaped by neurodivergent people.
I mean, you have autistic and ADHD people with special interests or hyperfixations collecting information and writing detailed meta, connecting very strongly with characters and fandoms. I would not be surprised if the percentage of autistics in fandom communities was significantly higher than in the general public.
And that's not even getting into other types of neurodivergencies and how they influence fandom culture.
I sometimes see people try to divorce fandom culture from the idea of being a "geek", and I understand that this is sometimes because of the association with the sexist geek stereotype, but I also know that there is a connection between the two concepts, and it's probably us neurodivergent people.
I’ll go slightly further here, and say this (well. this plus ableism) is the root of a lot of current issues in fandom.
Back when I started being in fandom, a couple decades ago, I’d argue that damn near every single person in fandom was autistic or ADHD. You’d only join fandom if you were obsessive and were chill with doing things that weren’t socially acceptable. (Because being a fan absolutely was not socially acceptable at the time! We went to ridiculous amounts of effort to hide that we were fans!)
And fandom culture was absolutely shaped by this. The standard behaviors in fandom were those of happy autistics. That’s how you were expected to act. You remember “squeeing”? The visual image of it is generally someone so happy and excited they can’t physically contain it so they make a high-pitched noise and flap their hands and - a squee is literally just a happy stim. And so many fans at the time did happy stims that we gave it a special fandom name! So even if a neurotypical person happened to stumble in, they’d learn that the “social norm” in a fandom space is basically just “act autistic/ADHD” and assimilate.
But then... fandom got mainstreamed. It became socially acceptable. And then the neurotypicals started showing up in large numbers. And instead of assimilating like they did before, when they were the minority, now that there were a lot of them they started going “what the heck is this! why are people here acting so weird! this is embarrassing!”
...and then we got cringe culture within fandom.
No one says “squee” anymore not because fans don’t squee anymore - happy stims don’t just go away - but because the neurotypicals showed up and told us “squee” is a cringy word and concept. Which they had ALWAYS told us out in public, but we used to have fandom as an insular autistic/ADHD-dominated space where we were safe and free to be ourselves.
You know how everybody talks about how cringy and embarrassing 2012 tumblr was? Dude. We were literally just acting like happy autistics, because that’s what we were. It’s just that - like you always have - you think autistic/ADHD behavior is cringy and embarrassing.
This isn’t new. “Cringe culture” isn’t new. It’s just a new euphemism for the exact same ableism that’s always existed, with the only difference that now it’s coming from inside fandom.
All those posts saying “if these people were bullied more they wouldn’t act like this”? They’re not just bizarrely tasteless jokes. They’re because the people making those posts were bullies. Are bullies. Fandom used to be where the sort of people who were victims of peer abuse went - where we went to be safe from bullies and be openly ourselves - but now the bullies are in here with us.
On the happier side, while mainstreaming has resulted in a lot of neurotypicals showing up, autistic/ADHD people are absolutely still the backbone of fandom. We’re the ones collecting tiny bits of info and connecting the dots to write galaxy brain meta. We’re the ones churning out new content every single day, rain or shine. We’re the hyper-verbal ones writing 250k fics and the ones who hyper-relate with the characters and make incorrect quote posts so spot-on they sound canon. They may think we’re embarrassing - but they still need us.
Fandom would be nothing without neurodivergent people. Because there’s nothing on this earth that can rival the white-hot intensity of an Autistic or ADHD person in full-blown hyperfocus or special interest mode.
HAPPY HOlIDAYS🎄 Help a black and brown LGBTQ+ family eat tonight !!
The holidays are approaching, and they can be for me and my family very triggering. Due to a lot of us coming from toxic families we decided to spend the holidays together. We as a whole decided we will participate in our holiday quarantine and celebrate Kwanza with our chosen family in our home. We want to order Lunch and Dinner and have some more funds for the next few days. Im not too sure how much to ask but any amount of funds sent to us will be gratefully appreciated ☺️
If anyone can please spare any funds for us to eat possibly get each other gifts that will be so amazing :) As always nothing is too small ofc.
Thank You, Happy Holidays & Please Share!
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hey guys its aaliyah! a few days ago my land lord basically told me my female roommates arenβt comfortable sharing a room with me because Iβm transgender??? they said tht me being transgender & having friends over (which wasnt detailed in the craigslist ad) is huge problem & Iβm basically being given a month to leave. if you follow me on IG you know Iβve been trying to get a new job because my current one at starbucks hasnt been cutting it. they barely giving me any hours & because of that Iβve had to reduce my savings these past couple months from $400 to $100 just to get by. Good news is I found a new place in the area tht I can afford Bad news is its gonna be $900 to move ib (monthly $600 plus $300 deposit) if there is any way yall could spare a couple bucks each to help me get there I would more than appreciate it.
Anonymous asked:
Hi, I'm 25 and debating starting male-to-female HRT. However, I'm scared that HRT won't help me at all. It seems like HRT does so little after puberty, especially by the time one gets in their 20s. I'm really scared that I'll just end up being someone in a male body, but with breasts. Is there anything you can say to someone having this fear? Thank you, and sorry, I suspect this is a silly question.
Actually, the claim that HRT doesn’t do much after puberty is a myth. I started when I was 31 years old and now I’m 35. =)
It’s never too late to transition!
Yeah, anon, have you seen my timeline? I started at 29.
It’s never too late.
Seriously, I transitioned at 39 and I’m 41 now. Hormones are magic whatever your age and while some things stay, many things change and it’s been totally worth it for me.
OMG!!! I love seeing posts like this. The hope it inspires. especially in girls like me, is unprecedented. Thank you!
Hope
I felt the same way before I started transitioning and especially because I have a fair masculine build. But you know what I’ve learned from my experience so far? Fuck it! There is always hope and you could end up surprising yourself with the results.
I think results vary, I don’t see much difference between pre-hrt and 8 years on hrt
Just adding another voice to the barrage: It. Is. Never. Too. Late!
The top two pictures are from 2011, age 32. The bottom three are from this yeah, 2016, age 37, and (almost) 2 years on hrt. Hrt is magic.
Never.
Too late.
REBLOGING!!! Always! Forever!
Reblog to help someone find the courage uwu
Always reblog
Look at these amazing and brave women!!!! A reminder to all my followers, it’s not too late!! You can do it!!!!!
This is what I needed to see in my day ☺️ I’m only 23 but I think about making this change on a daily basis and it’s been 3 years since I’ve been thinking that. Hrt is in my future (:
Look at all these gorgeous women! <3
THIS is what i needed to be able to send to my struggling trans friends
i’m talking about ALL amab n-b’s, whether you’re transfemme or you’re masc, whether you use he, they, or she, or even he/they or she/they, any pronouns or neopronouns, i love you so much and i hope you’re having a great day
Okay I am Begging people as an aromantic to PLEASE keep us in mind when making personality quizzes. So many quizzes have questions about what you look for in a s/o or where you’d like to go on a first date or whatever with no non-romantic options and I’m tired of not being able to opt out of those questions. Same with any questions that might alienate asexuals as well, just, please don’t assume everyone taking your quizzes are interested in romance and/or sex and want to have to choose answers related to that. I honestly sometimes just exit out of quizzes I otherwise enjoy if I come across questions like that and it’s annoying :/
as a small addendum: don't just make an option like all of the rest but "with a friend! :)". that's not really fixing the problem so much as putting a small band-aid on a big wound. It might help some people but it doesn't really change the intent.
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