Hey, all -

Unfortunately, the wonderful Mod Zay has had to step back from the blog (please feel free to leave them thanks and good vibes in the comments because they put a great deal of effort into this blog and provided so many wonderful resources), so I, Pluto, am once again modding alone.

I will be answering the asks left in the inbox, but I’m going to be closing up our ask/submit for a while and thinking about the future of this blog. I will probably be reblogging the odd post now and then, so I’ll still be around, but I know I cannot keep up on asks right now, so as of Dec 12, 2020 I’m going to close the inbox rather than let people submit asks that may not be answered.

I’m so sorry. I know this is disappointing and frustrating. Please know our blog is still a resource, so there’s still plenty on here for you to check out if you need help.

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Talk to you all later,

~Pluto

enby-life:

Yes I’m nonbinary

Neat

Outstanding

Nifty

Beautiful

Incredible

Notably bad at coming up with words

Amazing

Really cool

Yeet

hater-of-terfs:

I’m a radical inclusionist. I don’t think I have any right to tell anyone else what queerness is or how they’re allowed to experiment with their own identity. “Infiltrators” are a completely negligible problem, respectability politics is bullshit, and any downside of just trusting people with their own experiences is enormously outweighed by the problems caused by gatekeeping

Just mind your own business, I promise it’s okay

pinkpeachgardenpizza:

masteroffoolhardyplans:

I made a thing

Toast? Yea that sounds like a gender

[image id: A “pie chart” labeled “gender wheel”. The “pie chart” is the color wheel with the text “I don’t even know buddy; I just work here”. Outside of the chart are several gender descriptions. Starting at 1'o'clock and going clockwise, they are: “I think I’ve heard of this femininity thing?”, “not binary, that’s for sure”, “I’m sure we’ve been here before”, “today’s gender is 30% off”, “masculine…ish”, “this! this is a gender! don’t know what, but it’s a gender!” “none gender with left binary”, and “toast? is that a gender?”

/end ID]

renniequeer:

Hot take but rigid divisions between queer identities and heavily-policed labels that are treated like diagnoses are really, really bad.

Trans men have shared histories with lesbians who have shared histories with bisexual women who have shared histories with ace people who have shared histories with aro people have shared histories with gay men who have shared histories with trans women who have shared histories with nonbinary people who have shared histories with etc etc etc etc etc.

Labels are important for people who want them, but we need to stop treating sexuality and gender as rigid boxes and checklists.

guiltyidealist:

[description: four panel comic by RoboTaterTotComics.

The first panel shows a green, kinda fleshed-out stick person in a big, fancy hat kneeling in water in a crystal cave. They are kneeling over an open treasure chest. They are saying “I’ve finally found it… after 15 years”.

The second panel shows the person pulling a long scroll out of the chest with a wide, open-mouthed grin on their face. The caption reveals the scroll is “the scroll of truth!”

The third panel has zoomed on on the scroll with only the person’s hands holding up the scroll visible. The scroll reads “All trans people are valid and deserve to transition however they want”.

The final panel is a close up on the humongous grin on the comic person’s face as they read the scroll.

/end]

crossdreamers:

While European countries like Poland and Hungary become increasingly homophobic and transphobic, others go in the exact opposite direction, increasing the protection of LGBTQIA people.

 The Norwegian parliament recently decided to protect transgender people against hate crimes. 

All the parties of the Icelandic parliament (with the exception of the right wing Center Party)  support the introduction of three new laws, submitted by the Prime Minister’s office, which will help protect intersex children and secure the rights of trans children and adults.

Prime Minister Katrín Jakobsdóttir (photo below) has argued that Iceland needs to grant children born with atypical sex characteristics control over their own bodies. She has previously said that “queer issues are close to her heart.”

Reykjavik Grapevine reports:

The first bill specifically concerns intersex children. If passed, this bill would grant children born with atypical sex characteristics freedom from non-consensual and medically unnecessary surgery on their genitalia. Instead, these children would be granted the choice to determine for themselves whether or not they want such surgery, with full access to Iceland’s health care system.

The second bill makes a number of edits to the gender determination act so as to use more gender inclusive language.

The third bill lowers the age at which an Icelander can change their legally registered gender from 18 to 15.

According to RUS the second and the third bills were passed by Parliament yesterday.  This means that transgender kids at the age of 15 can decide on their legal language by themselves. Younger kids need the consent of their parent of primary caregiver.

The third bill opens up for a “neutral” gender designation in public records.

If I understand the RUS report correctly, the first law, the one on the rights of intersex children, was also accepted, although I am not 100% sure whether it has been put into law yet (as my Icelandic is a bit rusty). If not, it is only a matter of time.

The photo  at the  top of this article is of Snædís Yrja She was the first woman on the cover of the Icelandic women’s magazine Vikan  this summer.  Iceland is definitely moving in the right direction and can serve as an example for other countries.

Photos of Snædís Yrja by Unnur Magna for Vikan magazine.

Podcast episode on transgender youth in Iceland (in English).

When you’re around more queer people and experience more queer visibility, you learn more about queer people and identities, and you are more likely to realize if you also relate to these experiences/labels.

This has nothing to do with being “statistically unlikely” (who cares, tbh? statistically unlikely things do happen because that’s how life works) or a copycat (if you were faking, you would specifically know it). This is just the result of visibility, education, and open-mindedness/an accepting community.

Your identity is not determined by getting the right variables plugged into some math equation. Let yourself be you~

~Pluto

Ofc. Just like other people got to know you as being a certain way and belonging in certain groups, you also got to know yourself as that. It takes a while to unlearn and explore where you’re actually most comfortable. Patterns are hard to break and habits are hard to form.

~Pluto

If you come out to someone and they react badly, that’s firmly a Them Problem and a sign that the relationship is simply not compatible. It is not a sign that you are somehow doing anything wrong by being demi/asexual.

Try demisexuality.org for demiace specific resources and AVEN for asexual/spectrum resources. @fuckyeahasexual is a great starting place for ace resources on tumblr.

Tell them your honest truth as and when you feel comfortable/safe/ready to share it.

Don’t say you want things that you don’t want to do. Do be clear about your boundaries. But only come out when you’re ready and want to.

~Pluto

Do you like the label bigender? Do you connect with the label bigender? Do you feel bigender fits you?

Then use bigender! We’re not the label police (and would never want to be), and everyone’s identity tends to be more complicated and detailed than any one label can describe, anyway.

~Pluto

They only do large flags, but I’ve gotten a flag from Pride Palace before. The nice thing is that they sometimes do freebies where you only have to pay shipping (which is why I got my flag, since I otherwise don’t really have a place to display them and so don’t bother getting them).

Followers, preferred pride flag stores?

~Pluto

trans-parenting:

Niche audience, maybe.

I’ve been a longtime Magic: The Gathering player; and was pleased to see the introduction of a non-binary character in an upcoming set. As noted in the piece, this is not the first non-binary character to enter the game’s universe, but it’s certainly the most prominent; a marquee new character in an upcoming set. And the level of engagement from actual non-binary designers, the thought put into how the character’s identity fit into their design, and the consideration into how this kind of representation matters is what I would love to see from more franchises.

As designer Katie Allison describes: “As a non-binary person myself, it’s incredibly meaningful to see a non-binary hero joining the Planeswalker ranks. I think the power of representation is easy to underestimate—after all, it’s not like I can’t relate to male or female characters—but there’s something truly special about starting to see pieces of your own identity in the epic stories you love. Niko is not intended to be “the non-binary character”; they are a specific person with their own strengths, flaws, goals, and personality. In the long run, my hope is to represent as many different non-binary (and other) experiences as we can, to give as many fans as possible the chance to see themselves in our stories.”

A few years back I was thrilled to see Magic introduce Alesha, their first cannonically trans character; and it’s exciting to continue to see the game I’ve played since childhood continue to evolve and grow with the world around it.