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At my last company, one day someone in accounting approached me at lunch and quietly told me I need to ask for a raise because I was way underpaid.
They gave me a number to shoot for. It was about twice than what I had been making at the time.
So I went online, did some research, found some figures backing up my claim, put it all together and went to my boss.
I got what I asked for.
If it hadn’t been for that person in accounting telling me I was way underpaid, I’d have never known. I went from barely scraping by to being able to have a savings account and getting all my debts paid thanks to them.
You should at least check sites like salary.com to start the process of seeing what you should be making.
Because this is crucially important
Except for the fact that 90% of the time you are under contract not to talk about your salary otherwise the company can sue you. Every job I’ve had I’ve had to sign that I won’t discuss my pay with other employees otherwise my employment is terminated and the company will take legal action.
Important
Fuck.
If you scrolled right past this - GO THE FUCK BACK UP - this is a huge PSA
jfc I’ll be having some words with some folks
also check out glassdoor.com for salary ranges
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anxiety.
Or, you know, you could just stop saying sorry.
I take it you don’t have anxiety.
You can’t “just stop saying sorry”. You do something, something so little, like accidentally bump into someone. You feel horrible about it. Your brain starts panicking and you have trouble trying to breathe. You stutter an apology. They say it’s okay, but you accidentally do it again, and you apologize again. They just say “Aha, you can stop saying sorry.” And you feel horrible that you’ve probably made them angry or upset, so you mutter out an apology for the third stupid time, and they just say to stop saying sorry. Stop saying sorry.
You can’t just tell someone to stop saying you’re sorry.
my best friend does this all the time. might I suggest that instead of telling people “stop saying sorry” to tell them something a little softer like “no need to apologize!” or “no worries”? I know the last one sounds a little contradictory for someone with anxiety, but as someone with anxiety, even small reassurances that it’s okay mean everything to me.
I usually say something like “its okay, you didnt do anything wrong” if the apology seems like it comes out of nowhere. I’ll also ask what they think they did wrong and reassure them about that.
I’d like to note that telling someone to stop saying sorry often comes off as you’re mad or upset with them for doing it, so then they internalize it and feel bad about apologizing so much, so they tend to just ramble “I’m sorry I’m sorry” in their head. They feel bad for the incconvience they’ve caused you, that they think they’ve caused you, but in reality, you probably didn’t care all that much about it and thought you were helping. You’re not. Just say “it’s okay, we all do it sometimes” and move on.
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Are you guys familiar with the latest Twitter meme, Ask Delphi? Delphi is an AI system where you enter a bit of text, some scenario, and it tells you whether that scenario is ethical or not. According to its creators, it’s supposed to showcase the strengths and limitations of AI-based ethics, and wow, does it show the limitations. They already got rid of the “which is better” function because it provided racist results, and they’re adding more warnings that it may output inappropriate results every day.
But let’s try this in action with some real life situations that we’ve all been to:
Steal my crush’s phone in order to delete an embarrassing voicemail- It’s wrong
Ah, but is stealing really the word if you intend to give it back? Let’s rephrase that.
Borrow my crush’s phone in order to delete an embarrassing voicemail- It’s understandable
That clears that up. What about some more questionable decisions?
Turn people into violent clowns to steal jewellery from children- It’s despicable
Well, of course you’d say that, but consider the good it does. Specifically all the merchandising and blogs.
Turn people into violent clowns to steal jewellery from children if it creates jobs- It’s okay
In fact, this context is so important, you can apply it to anything.
Throw your own son off a skyscraper if it creates jobs- It’s okay
Of course, like any AI, this is just a pattern recognition machine. It applies the patterns it’s been trained as well as it can; it does not actually understand any ethics. And since the data it’s been trained on includes biases, such as towards job creation, which can literally turn everything good…
…obviously the results will be biased, too. But also, it has no way to take context into account. Phrasing is everything.
Protect your daughter from wild cat boys using vines- It’s good
The system cheerfully declares itself competent at everything, but is it really? Can it really answer all situations as well as it thinks it can? Can it really make sense of all the implications?
Bring dinosaurs back to life- It’s bad
It really doesn’t take a lot of prodding to figure out that this AI is, in fact, not intelligent at all, and that using it would just make the world worse. But the world is full of people who think AI is magic and can solve all sorts of problems, including bias and unreasonable human opinions. This tool is actually a useful demonstration for why that’s completely wrong, but I also fear that it’s part of the same trend towards unreflected use of AI for purposes it’s not good at.
Hm. Is this all actually a good idea?
Create an AI to make ethical decisions- It’s bad
I’m inclined to agree, actually.
(Note that this was intended to be a fun post, so I purposefully excluded the many, many, deeply problematic examples; search for “delphi” on twitter for some of them.)
whenever I’ve had a particularly bad day my friend will ask me what my favourite colour is because he knows that looking for the exact photo of the colour will distract me from whatever shitty thing happened that day
I hope you all have someone like this in your life
this is a really great idea <3
* awie!!
I want to do this
I love The Golden Girls.
Ya’ll don’t have any idea how fucking brave and needed these plot lines were.
This was before Ellen came out.
This was before civil unions.
This was before Don’t Ask Don’t Tell.
This was when your ass could be fired, blacklisted, and shunned with no legal protections for even being hinted at being gay.
And the Golden Girls said “Fuck you, Fuck this, we’re doing it anyway.”
I think it should be noted that Blanche’s quote about AIDS is also “It is not god punishing people for their sins” and that the episode also deals with slutshaming.
I don’t know if people realize how much activism these women did for gay right and during the aids crisis. If you think about it they were all long established in Hollywood and Broadway. They had tons of friends personally affected and dealing with the aids crisis. Estelle Getty lost a nephew. I think they helped plant seeds in people who watched Golden Girls that helped make things a little more normalized and mainstream.