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An orientation/modifier for when, due to neurodiversity, a person feels platonic attraction felt to an intensity that mainstream society associates with romance, which causes severe confusion. The person may struggle to determine if their attraction is platonic, or if it’s actually romantic. They may feel like their attraction straddles the lines between romantic, queerplatonic, and alterous.
Can be used as a prefix for whichever attraction the person thinks fits best, e.g. istosplatonic, or as a standalone, e.g. “I am istos / I feel istos attraction”.
Istos comes from the Greek
ἀγνώριστος (a)gnw/ristos), meaning ‘unascertained’ or ‘unknown’.
Similar to idore. See also quoi-, nebularomantic, idem-.
I had been feeling this for a while but couldn’t find a term for it so I coined it!
Altsexual/romantic/platonic/alterous/aesthetic
When your orientation fluctuates because of your Alters orientations: ie when your polysexual with a preference for feminine people but a lot of your Alters like men and are influencing you to like men more. For DID/OSDD/DDNOS Systems.
And I made flags!!!
Altaesthetic Flag
Altalterous Flag
Altplatonic Flag
And Altsexual and Altromantic Flag!!
I am just so proud of myself for these and wanted to share them :)
~ Michael
This was inspired by Within temptation’s music as many of the songs I relate to have themes that pull on the core of this identity.
Verleidin- an intense need for a connection that takes over your being and is hard to discribe. It’s needed but you feel that something such as the way you interact with society or how your fears influence you keeps it away form you. It’s soft but also forceful and doesn’t feel sappy or like a poor victim. It’s a neuro orientation. (for me they invoke dpd and avpd but I don’t want to close it off to other nd people who relate)
It can overlap with aro-spec identities but isn’t inherently aro-spec.
Name is taken from Dutch verleid for tempt and in from within.
fluffgender
note: this is NOT an inherently queer/lgbt+/etc. label, it has more to do with neurodivergence and how it affects sexuality.
this was coined by @scigender and myself, z made the flag!
centreian: used as a sexuality modifier. it is when you experience normal (as in, normal according to your existing sexuality) attraction when single but due to neurodivergence, your sexuality is noticeably changed when you are in a relationship with someone, and revolves around them for the period of the relationship if not longer. this term is useful because it may prevent the individual from feeling truly connected to their “actual” sexuality, even if they are still technically mspec/gay/straight/ace/etc.
explanation & flag under the cut!
Asocial- when you have no desire to be in real life relationships due to anxiety (usually social) or trust issues. The person can have friendships with people over the internet.
(Just to clarify, Asocial- in this context is just a prefix for asocialsexual/asocialromantic/etc, not the definition of the actual term “Asocial”)
Term coined by: Unknown
[Image: Flag with 3 stripes: Teal, white, teal].
Full size [Here]
Flags below are the same as above but with the bottom stripe replaced with the colors of the specific attraction types.
Asocialsexual: [Link]
Asocialromantic: [Link]
Asocialalterous: [Link]
Asocialsensual: [Link]
Asocialqueerplatonic: [Link]
Asocialplatonic: [Link]
Designed by: Unknown
Color meanings: Teal is the color of anxiety awareness.
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Mala- An orientation which is created or influenced by maladaptive daydreaming or fantasy prone personalities.
For example a Malasexual person might feel pansexual usually but may feel more asexual during a maladaptive daydreaming episode.
An orientation specific to people who experience maladaptive daydreaming due to a neurodivergence such as: schizotypal personality disorder, schizoid personality disorder, schizophrenia or similar.
Term coined by: Unknown
[Image: Flag with 11 stripes, the first and last 5 stripes taking 1/3 of the flag each and the center stripe taking up another 1/3: The outside stripes are mirrored going from light purple to dark purple and the center stripe is a medium purple].
Full size [Here]
[Image: Flag with 11 stripes, the first and last 5 stripes taking 1/3 of the flag each and the center stripe taking up another 1/3: The outside stripes are mirrored going from light green to dark green and the center stripe is a medium green].
Full size [Here]
Flags below are the same format as above but the colors replaced with the colors of the specific attraction types.
Malaalterous: [Link]
Malasensual: [Link]
Malaqueerplatonic: [Link]
Malaplatonic: [Link]
Designed by: 1nklash
Color meanings: Unknown
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Dissociate- (as in dissociatesexual / dissociateromantic etc): Someone who dissociates regularly while engaging in sexual/romantic/etc. activity, often leaving the individual confused as to what their orientation is.
Note: While I’m not going to tell anyone not to use labels, regular dissociation while engaging in sexual/romantic/etc acts, is not healthy and you should seek help if possible. Here’s a post explaining more about it (even if the wording is a bit iffy) [Link]
Term coined by: Unknown
[Image: Flag made up of a white triangle extending from the left to the right side. The base takes up the entirety of the left side, and the tip touches the right side. The top part of the flag not covered by the white triangle is a light teal, and the bottom part is brown].
Full size [Here]
Flags below are the same as above but with the bottom brown part replaced with the colors of the specific attraction types.
Dissociatesexual: [Link]
Dissociateromantic: [Link]
Dissociatealterous: [Link]
Dissociatesensual: [Link]
Dissociatequeerplatonic: [Link]
Dissociateplatonic: [Link]
Designed by: beyond-mogai-pride-flags
Note: This user is known for adding or creating flags for some pretty iffy terms, but I don’t believe they are trolling; rather, it seems more like they’re trying to add flags to make everyone happy, whether or not the identity is oppressed or not. I’m always open to helping create alternatives if you’re not comfortable using something made be them!
Color meanings: Unknown
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-vague: An orientation that is influenced, in whole or in part, by the person’s neurodivergence. Most commonly used as acevague/arovague.
Please only use if you are neurodivergent.
Term coined by: Unknown
[Image: 5 stripes, purple, light purple, large gray stripe that takes up most of the flag, light purple, purple]
Full size [Here]
[Image: Same as above but with green and light green instead of purples]
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Designed by: transboy-lou
Color meanings: Based on the gendervague flags. The big gray space is supposed to represent the “vagueness”. And there’s also an option to put a different oreintation flag in the gray space as a combo.
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Xum- Never being satisfied with your orientation due to constant self-doubt or identity issues, causing one to compulsively search and seek out something that fits as perfect as possible–to find “the orientation” or “the one truth”–though one may never be found due to one’s neurotype, because words will never be able to describe it, and/or its own properties paradox itself. This frequent anxiety and doubt even causes this orientation to feel imperfect to the individual.
A neurodivergent only orientation. Impla- or Inex- are open for everyone though!
Term coined by: Unknown
[Image: A white design with a thin black border. In the center is 3 overlapping diamonds in a venn diagram-type format. The outer two are simply made of a thin black outline. They both overlap the center diamond which is dark gray. Where they overlap the center diamond is a lighter gray, and where they overlap each other in the very center is black].
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[Image: 13 unevenly sized stripes from top to bottom: Thin black, thick white, thin black, medium white, thin black,, thickish gray, thin dark gray, and the bottom half is just a mirror of the top half].
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[Image: A white design with a thin blue border. In the center is 3 overlapping diamonds in a venn diagram-type format. The outer two are simply made of a thin purple outline. They both overlap the center diamond which is light purple. Where they overlap the center diamond is a lighter purple, and where they overlap each other in the very center is a darker purple, the same color as the outlines of the two outer diamonds].
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[Image: 13 stripes, the same as the 2nd Xum- design, but with the purples instead of black and grays].
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[Image: Same as the first xumsexual design, but with greens instead of purples].
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[Image: 13 stripes, the same as the 2nd Xum- design, but with the greens instead of black and grays].
Full size [Here]
Designed by: Me, based on the xumgender design.
Check [Here] to see designs for different attraction types for this orientation (Xumsexual/romantic/alterous/platonic/etc)!
Full pride gallery HERE! FAQ and “dictionary” of genders, orientations, and other related terms HERE. Send any questions to Ask-Pride-Color-Schemes!
