really not enjoying the recent push for xenogenders to only be used by neurodivergent people,, it feels like so many genders coined in the twitter mogai community are listed as neurodivergent-exclusive for no reason other than the fact that so many people now think xenogenders can’t be used by neurotypicals. it’s perfectly fine to coin neurogenders or to want a gender to only be used by neurodivergent people due to certain characteristics of the term, but if you’re just coining a general xenogender, please don’t make it neurodivergent-exclusive.
like, yes, it’s very common for xenogenders to be coined by and used by neurodivergent people, but we are not the only people who benefit from these terms. spreading the idea that xenogenders can only be used by neurodivergent folks is going to harm neurotypical trans people. it makes me sad to see neurotypical questioning people asking if they’re allowed to use xenogenders because they’ve seen so many younger/newer community members claiming they can’t.
(not to mention that the idea that only neurodivergent people can have ‘weird’ genders is. kind of ableist.)