Don’t go out your way to seek this book but if you want to know what is going on at the moment in regards to this awful book this YouTuber is great 👍

It’s fucking scary being transgender and I am just getting ready for it to all kick off and our rights to be ripped away from us ☕️

Oh my GOD

They have one on Lovehoney and I need it 👀

For all my pals that would like something realistic looking that packs a punch 💖

Hey homies

Got my hair cut after months

Went to the barbers and it was super scary

But my new do is helping with my dysphoria 🥰

Okay homies

So as I know a large majority of my followers are trans males and being a trans guy I know about a lot of issues we can face in the bedroom.

I’ve always found that strap ons are aimed mainly at women and focus generally on having a larger size or girth. I think this I most likely to do with the dominance pegging can give to women in the bedroom and if you are into that, that’s awesome.

Not only this, but I have had some awkward experiences with harnesses. Wearing a harness can feel really unnatural and dysphoria inducing. Most affordable harnesses are made of cheap uncomfortable material and if you are like myself, I just want to feel comfortable when I am trying to have a good time.

STRAP HACK

So I’ve been playing about with different strap ons, packers and harnesses and have found something that works well for me and might help someone else that is needing an affordable way to pack and play.

Get yourself some men’s breifs that have a fly which you can open. Make sure they fit snugly.

Buy yourself a strap on with a wide base. I like to use a strap with balls because I find it helps with keeping my dick secure. I bought one from lovehoney for about £20. This way you can buy a slim line dildo if your partner is a beginner or you can chose different colours!

Get your new strap and insert it from the inside of your breifs, through the flies so that the shaft of your strap is out and on full display. The wide base or balls will not be able to fall through the open flies and should rest comfortably.

I’ve attached a picture for anyone that would benefit 😌

I felt that this is a way more affordable way to pack and play and more discrete for anyone living at home that is not able to hide a harness.

This is educational and I hope it helps someone out 🏳️‍🌈

Please be respectful.

I’ve been on Twitter tonight and there seems to be an influx in people talking about how their boyfriends are dirty but they just put up with it???

As in personal hygiene.

So as a person that is very repulsed by smells and gross body smells I thought I’d share some tips I’ve learnt over the years for personal hygiene for men, women and anything in between or outside.

Ps I will be mentioning genitals so if that kind of thing makes you uncomfortable do not read on. Sex will be mentioned as this was the main focus of the majority of tweets I read.

Also this is just personal opinions and findings from someone that has sensory issues.

⭐️ First thing, buy a gentle PH balanced soap for your genitals. I beg you. These are not too pricey and can be found usually down the isle where you would buy sanitary towels and tampons. This should not just be used by AFAB people. I know that everyone says to just use water but honestly, if you want to get rid of dick smell you need a gentle soap.

⭐️ Deodorant! As a trans guy I’ve tried all the deodorants thanks to my T Sweats. I have found men’s stick deodorant to be better for keeping smell at bay. Usually best to just top up throughout the day though. A lot of women’s deodorant contains aluminium which isn’t good for your skin and has been know to increase chances of breast cancer.

⭐️ Nail clippers! Don’t let your nails grow too crazy especially during this pandemic. Grime and germs like to live under nails 🦠 Be especially mindful of your nails if you are sexually active and are planning on using hands for foreplay, germs from your nails can cause UTIs.

⭐️ Teeth 🦷 I am very sensitive to bad smells and strong smells even when it is my own breath. I find brush teeth twice a day and using mouthwash is fine but a dental gum after meals really helps too ☺️

⭐️ Back onto sex. If you partake in anal play or anal penetration you might want to consider using a douche before hand. I wouldn’t recommend any pre filled ones or any that hold too much water as it is unnecessary if you are only planning on a gentle anal session (if you are going to be doing more hardcore stuff read up about douching). Ass is not a nice smell or taste so be nice to your partner and wash away any dirt. This isn’t just for superficial reasons but also because your partner could get ill from eating ass if you’re dirty or get a UTI.

I’m sure there is a lot more but I hope this may help some people.

This isn’t a post to shame people (I want to make that very clear) but it is a post to maybe help educate some people about things we are not really always taught.

I wanted to make a post

Scroll past if you are not interested

I’ve always had mad dysphoria when it came it my legs, I still do. But, today when I was chilling in the grass I looked at my legs momentarily and saw something I’ve always wanted to be able to see, men’s legs. Since starting T my leg hair has gotten thicker and the veins in my feet have become more predominant which has really helped with my dysphoria.

My ‘Boys don’t cry’ tattoo was in reference to one of my favourite songs. I did it during a very shitty point earlier this year alone in my bedroom. I wanted to cross out the ‘don’t’ to remind myself that it’s okay to cry and transitioning will be hard and I will feel lots of mixed emotions.

Hear I am 8 months on and I’ve cried A LOT and I’ve hurt A LOT. Transitioning is never something to be taken lightly and it is really painful to go through. Yes, it can be beautiful but let’s not forget how awful and difficult it can really be. Trans can be ugly and Trans can be beautiful.

In no way am I near to my ideal place in terms of my transition but it’s the little moments of happiness you get during your transition which I feel really stick out.

It is important to share the ugly side of being transgender as many of us have had to struggle and fight to be where we are now. I’m sick of TERFS making out that transitioning is some trendy, fun thing that confused kids do.

Sending out all my love to the beautiful trans/gnc/nb/fluid people out there that have blessed this world with a little bit more colour 💚

I am using my depop to help save up for top surgery or at least the consultation appointments 🤞🏻

Selling my collection of Dr Martens and the occasion vintage clothing haul 🤗

I had top surgery!