My intense emotions make it hard to be myself around others. Emotional Dysregulation is a MASSIVE and underrated topic in ADHD.
I'm absolutely bawling my eyes out. This has been my life too, and it's so so hard trying to explain it, much less explain it without actually falling into the cycle during it (thus not explaining it properly). And just. Seeing it here, in words, I'm just so glad.
I’m not crying ur crying
I got a contract for fulltime work given to me.
I looked at it.
I realized, calculating the amount they wanted to offer, that it would actually be less than I’m making part-time now.
So what did I do?
Let me tell you, every single piece of me wanted to stay quiet and settle and work my way up the ladder.
Until I realized that
Their reasoning for the pay was insurance. I’m given insurance that’s worth a great deal, so I shouldn’t worry too much because that added up to a bigger salary. Except insurance doesn’t do jack shit if I can’t pay for an apartment or car costs or student loans.
What did I do?
First
I breathed. I took a breath. I washed my face and had a quick cry in the bathroom. Ain’t nothing wrong with a real fast cry.
Second
I left a note on my bosses desk asking if he could speak to me about my contract whenever he was next available.
Third
Once in my bosses office, I calmly handed him my contract back and said, “I’m very honored that you thought of me for a position, but I cannot accept what you’re offering me. I have a masters and I’ve taught in this school for a year, and I’d been under the assumption that I’d be receiving a different position than this.” He asked me what I was looking for. I said, “I would work for no less than [MY RANGE]. And if you cannot offer me that, then I’ll have to continue working for you part time until I can find another position elsewhere that can.” I thanked him very much for the offer. I was polite and upfront about my expectations for the position that I wanted.
I can’t tell you what will happen. But I can tell you that going in there and establishing myself as a no BS worker who looks out for herself and negotiates got me farther than if I’d said nothing.
I don’t know the outcome yet. I really don’t.
But I can tell you that he is currently rewriting my contract with higher pay.
Will it be high enough to keep me there? I don’t know.
But I do know that today was me putting myself forward and taking a chance, and chances, no matter how small, do pay off.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO SPEAK ABOUT YOUR CONTRACTS.
IT’S FUCKING TERRIFYING.
BUT DO IT ANYWAY.
BECAUSE YOU’RE WORTH MORE, AND THEY SHOULD KNOW THAT.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
Speaking up about your paycheck actually works
OPs first post came across my dash and I wanted to reblog it, but then I decided to see if there was a conclusion to this story and this makes it even better!
it concerns me that people really don’t know that adhd isn’t a personality type or behavioral problem.
adhd isn’t someone who’s personality is driven by fun and disorder.
adhd is someone who’s brain goes all over the place looking for dopamine, because it doesn’t make or register enough of it, and when it finds a source of dopamine, it hyperfixates on it. it’s about deregulation of attention as well as emotions.
it’s not a person who can’t behave. a person with adhd can look like a lot of things. misconceptions about what adhd looks like kept me from even looking for a diagnosis, and it also kept myself and others (professionals, even) from taking my suspicions seriously.
everyone’s encouraged to reblog, but if you don’t have adhd, keep your additions to the tags.
Smart people can have ADHD. And a lot of the time, they compensate for the ADHD with intelligence- until they reach the point where they just can’t overcome it anymore, which is why a lot of gifted + ADHD people have good grades their whole lives and then “suddenly” crash and burn. For some it’s college, for some it’s grad school, for some it’s postgrad or professional exams like the bar. Whenever the things they have to do can no longer be brute-forced at the last minute.
ADHD is often lumped in with learning disabilities but it’s really a DOING disability. We know what we should do. Probably we know six ways to do it. The trouble is actually getting our brains to activate so we CAN do it. Sometimes it’s like you’re being controlled by aliens or something because you say “I need to do X” and you’re going to do it and you just. Don’t.
no offense but….kindness and being polite is really underrated some of y’all are so unnecessarily mean and i dont understand why
everybody causing discourse over this in the notes shut the fuck up youre all so annoying
“Strong Pokémon. Weak Pokémon. That is only the selfish perception of people. Truly skilled trainers should try to win with their favorites.”- Karen Gold/Silver
Even if you don’t like a specific pokémon, that doesn’t make it bad! They’re just not for you!
Every Pokemon is someone’s favorite Pokemon.
Tbh I beat someone’s Xerneas with a Skitty so there’s no such thing as weak Pokemon, just weak trainers
everybody replying to this with their favourite pokemon is valid. if you mention a pokemon that hardly anybody talks about you are especially valid.
