How irrational fears and fear of loss lead to a negative self-perception that causes us to create and experience exactly what we fear in life, instead of what we want. In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a gorgeous European woman who has let her fears get the best of her and cause her to act needy, unworthy and in a way that is demeaning to herself and what she has to offer a man. Even though she is beautiful, successful, in amazing shape and driven, her limiting beliefs that she has about herself are causing her to act in ways that repel what she wants, by agreeing to be friends only in hopes that her ex boyfriend will want her back. Meanwhile he has a lot of female friends and has been dating another woman who treats him poorly. After another coach told her that being friends only was a viable way to get her ex back, a year and a half later, she is getting nowhere. She asks my opinion if it’s possible to get him back and how she should change her approach. This email is a great illustration of the importance of being aware of your self-perception, cultivating a healthy empowering belief system and negotiating from a superior position of leverage to get what and whom you want in life. “In order for someone else to recognize your value, you must first learn to create a life and lifestyle that supports and enables valuing yourself. It’s hard to overcome the impulse to tolerate mistreatment and a lack of respect from those you have strong emotions for. Having high standards, setting boundaries and acting in a way that is consistently congruent with them, is the key to making sure you only spend your time with people who value, respect and appreciate you. Without them, you invite and enable others to abuse, mistreat and disrespect you. You invite what you tolerate.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne Click the link below to read the article “In Fear Of Losing, I Lost” on my website: https://understandingrelationships.com/in-fear-of-losing-i-lost/32277 If you have not read my book yet, that would be a good starting place for you. It is available in Kindle, iBook, Paperback or Audio Book format. If you don't have a Kindle device, you can download a free eReader app from Amazon so you can read my book on any laptop, desktop, smartphone or tablet device. Kindle $9.99, iBook $9.99, Audio Book is Free $0.00 with an Audible membership or buy it for $14.95 or Paperback $29.99. Here is the link to Amazon: http://amzn.to/1XKRtxd Here is the link to the iBookstore to purchase iBook version: https://geo.itunes.apple.com/us/book/how-to-be-3-man-winning-heart/id948035350?mt=11&uo;=6&at;=1l3vuUo Here is the link to the iTunes store to purchase the iTunes audio book version: https://geo.itunes.apple.com/us/audiobook/how-to-be-a-3-man-unabridged/id1106013146?at=1l3vuUo&mt;=3 Click the link below to book phone/Skype (audio only) coaching with me personally: http://www.understandingrelationships.com/products Click the link below to make a donation via PayPal to support my work: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted;_button_id=LKGTSSLYJ93J6 Click the link below to read my FREE self-help articles: http://www.understandingrelationships.com/ From my heart to yours, Corey Wayne

• published: 19 Jul 2017
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