In Loving Memory of Vi Egan Candee October 18, 1924 October 15, 2011 Vi Egan Candee 18 October 1924- 15 October 2011 Vi Egan Candee passed away, on October 15th, 2011 at her home in Campbellsport, Wisconsin with her family at her side. Vi was born October 18, 1924 in Milwaukee, WI. to Dr. William J. Egan and Viola Forster Egan. She was younger sister to brothers William and James. Vi Egan graduated from Milwaukee Downer Seminary in 1942. She attended Connecticut College, New York University and Parsons School of Design. On November 26, 1945 she married Richard A. Candee at Holy Rosary Church in Milwaukee. They had nine children: Kenneth, Lomira, WI; Richard Jr."Nick" (Dr.Linda Brown) Boston MA; William "Bo", Fond du Lac, WI; Rees (Suzanne Lee Wright) Scottsdale, AZ ; Michael, Kenosha, WI; Mary (Jeff Weigel) San Antonio, TX; Susan, Boulder, CO; Kathleen (Janet Koester) Chilton, WI; Christopher (Sally), Campbellsport, WI. She has 16 grandchildren and two great- grandchildren. Vi is further survived by many great friends. Vi and Richard and their growing family lived in Milwaukee, moving to Florida in the mid 1950s and moving back to Milwaukee a few years later. The family settled in Campbellsport in the early 1960s. Vi knitted beautiful Norwegian sweaters with each sweater a work of art. She loved gardening on any terrain. She loved her roses when they cooperated and was patient with them when they did not. She felt the same about her offspring. She was a wonderful cook and the perfect hostess. She instilled the importance of education in her family. Vi loved tennis, swimming, hunting, good music, literature, and sporting dogs. She was never without a convertible automobile. She was able to enjoy foreign travel and was fluent in French and was working at mastery of Spanish. In addition to raising her children she did volunteer work. She was the comptroller of Bills Sporting Goods, Lomira, from 1969 to 1972. She began managing Bills Sporting Goods full time in 1975, retiring in 1998. She continued to enjoy life, family and friends always with an open door at her home. Vi was preceded in death by her parents, her brothers and her former husband. There will be a memorial mass held on Thursday October 20th at 6 PM in St Matthews Catholic Church, Campbellsport. Rev. Neil Zinthefer will officiate. Visitation will be Thursday Oct. 20th at the church from 3 to 5:45 PM. Memorials in lieu of flowers are suggested to the Arthritis Foundation, or the Friends of Kettle Moraine. Twohig Funeral Home, Campbellsport, is serving the family with online guestbook and condolences at www.twohigfunerals.com. A Mass of Christian Burial for Vi Egan Candee October 20, 2011, St. Matthew's Catholic Church Campbellsport, Wisconsin. Officiant: Father Neil Zintherfer Organist: Paul Thelan Solost: Eva Thelan Gathering Song: Here I Am Lord 376 Words: Daniel L Schutte I, the Lord of sea and sky I have heard my people cry All who dwell in dark and sin My hand will save. I who made the stars and night I will make the darkness bright Who will bear my light to them Whom shall I send? Here I am Lord Is it I Lord? I have heard you calling in the night I will go Lord If you lead me I will hold your people in my heart. I the Lord of snow and rain I have borne my people's pain I have wept for love of them They turn away. I will break their hearts of stone Fill their hearts with love alone I will speak my word to them Whom shall I send? Here I am Lord Is it I Lord? I have heard you calling in the night I will go Lord If you lead me I will hold your people in my heart. I will hold your people in my heart... Greeting, Opening Prayer and Blessing of Urn Fr. Neil Placing of Pall Children Placing of Cross Leah Timm Placing of Bible Alex Candee Penitential Rite 1st Reading- Proverbs 31: vs. 10-31 A Valiant Woman Mary Candee Who can find a VALIANT WOMAN, When life gets you down and the problems you face are certainly more than your share… When you run out of strength and you want to give up because it’s just too much to bear… I want to remind you, my precious friend, that you have what it takes inside… extraordinary courage that may not ROAR but it doesn’t cower and hide It’s the quiet voice inside you that says, “Tomorrow I’ll try again.” It’s the courage to keep on going… to see things through to the end You are not defined by this moment in time. You are not what has happened to you It’s the way you choose to respond that matters and what you decide to do Courage is not the absence of fear, but a powerful choice we make… the choice to move forward with PURPOSE …regardless of what it takes It’s the courage that’s found in ordinary women who are HEROES in their own way, exhibiting strength and fortitude in life’s challenges every day… VALIANT WOMAN of exceptional coura

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Ni-on's house being renovated Events at her school Wedding at her home Next day Sports festival Party with her teachers I built with a Habitat for Humanity group north of Chiang Mai Thailand From Jan 4-20. Then I went to see Ni-on and the fun began. According to the ancient customs and traditions of Esan or Isaan (Northeast Thailand), the village of Nong Pho(pop. 1100) and the Phamujako family, Ni-on and I were married in her home on the morning of January 26,2008. I met Ni-on in 1989 as Petra's Peace Corp Thailand teacher housemate. Petra lived with her for 30 months. Reid later met her in that same setting, saw her subsequently when she came to the US in May of 2007, and in Thailand last October. I first recontacted her in the spring of 2006 following a Habitat build for Tsunami relief. She came to visit the USA in 2007, and I went to see her last October. She is principal of the high school in Nong Pho, and lives in the house where she was born in 1959. Her parents are dead; she has 10 living siblings, and has never been married before. We have been corresponding for some time, and in late December as I was firming up travel plans, she indicated that if I was to stay in her home for some time it would be appropriate to observe certain "Thai customs". What this turned out to mean was that because of her reputation and position in that small close-knit community, it would not do for me to be there without our being married. I was not adverse to the idea, and we had discussed it before, but it was a "maybe someday" kind of thing. I remember years ago anxiously pondering if I should try to learn to ski at the ripe old age of 38. Then someone said," If you don't learn to ski now, next year you will be 39". Well, next July I'll be 72. The news was sort of a shock to Reid and Petra, but they have happily given their blessing. I'm glad they knew her under different circumstances, and that she is not a totally unknown quantity. Petra's description of Ni-on is that she has "an attractive sweetness about her, and plenty of brains and moxie". Ni-on plans to continue her work for a while, so travel and SKYPE will be a large part of our immediate future. That suits us both just fine. Generally my role in the wedding itself was to dress properly, show up, follow directions, and smile a lot (the normal bridegroom duties). I understood little of the content but the body language and feelings were joyously moving. She was hesitant to talk about this, but early on Ni-on indicated that there really needed to be a dowry. It became clear that the money was not important (she wanted to give it back the following day; I insisted that she keep it) but the symbolic meaning was huge in that place. We agreed on an amount sufficiently larger than average to make clear to the community my understanding of her value and position, but not so large as to be obscenely ostentatious. At the wedding, the amount would be good naturedly haggled over and the cash visibly displayed for all to see. Incidentally in a spasm of romantic exuberance I bought Ni-on a new washing machine as a wedding gift. It was received with as much delight as any gift I have given in recent memory. The process started the day before when a dozen old women of the village descended on the house bringing banana leaves and little purple and white flowers about the size of marbles. For hours they sat on the floor gossiping and creating an amazing floral arrangement called "Baay See" used only at weddings and funerals. Later in the day relatives began to arrive from near and far. They would stay two nights in the house. For meals the whole family sat on thin mats spread out on the ceramic tile floor, surrounding dozens of savory selections of curry, vegetables, chicken, shrimp, soup and both regular and sticky rice all prepared by neighbors. There were never less than two people talking at the same time, and a lot of laughing going on. Ni-on's house, built in the early nineteen hundreds, is a relatively large traditional Thai home with the first floor raised up on posts leaving an open ground floor with mature coconut palms on two sides. It has just gotten a new roof. As part of a rehab, all the siding is off. There is no insulation or inner walls, so the only enclosed areas are the bathrooms and the ground floor kitchen (small refrigerator, microwave, bottle gas stove, three cabinets, no sink ) which currently serves as the bedroom. I had to stay at her brother's home the night before the wedding. He was the designated "elder" to represent and and guide me. His son was my attendant. We got up and came to Ni-on's home at 7:00 AM in time for the chanted blessing of the 12 Buddhist Monks who were seated on the floor when we arrived. After the blessing, the monks were given rice in their alms bowls by many members of the family, all scurrying around in front of the monks in a half-crouch as a sign of respect. Then the monks and everyone ate a h

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