Is a lack of self-love the core problem of codependency?: "About 7-8 years ago I thought I had figured it all out about narcissistic abuse after this relationship and studying it all. I thought I had it all back together after losing almost everything (relationship, myself, work, house etc.). Then in 2013 'forgotten' memories about my mother surfaced after severe treathening at my work in psychiatry during therapy for PTSD afterwards. I'm trying to better explain the deeply ingrained angre, distrust and core-lonelyness that becomes the result of being brought up by a severly cruel narcissistic mother and an enabling/scared father. I realize now, I was damaged and alone trying all my live to repair the damage with my parents (especialy my mother) and all kinds of 'wrong' people later on. Repeating the drama again and again. There is a hole in the soul that can not be filled only with 'self love' I still believe. Loving yourself has no worth if no one is loving you for it and no one is loving you back. That's why 'self love' is not the core-problem imo. Not being loved, used and abused creates the problem. This was and is my objection with the view Ross Rosenberg and many others take. I know no one can heal another soul. You have to do the work yourself. But without some love and understanding from others I believe it's totally impossible for victims of this kind of abuse to recover only by telling them they have to respect and love themselves more. That's what they often have shown fighting for all their lives. Let alone to tell them they are victims of a 'dance' they 'chose' to dance. No victim 'chose' to dance this dance. Chosing is a consious act. The abuser chose the victim." The book the querent referenced is Human Magnet Syndrome by Ross Rosenberg: http://amzn.to/2f6tU3c ***** When you enter your name and email on Meredith's homepage you'll get access to her FREE Fundamentals of SANA course. This is the most basic course she offers to help you start from the ground up. It's also helpful to review the fundamentals now and then no matter where you are on the healing journey! https://innerintegration.com Meredith's intermediate training is the 12-Week SANA Audio Series. This is a 12-week journey of Self-healing After Narcissistic Abuse (SANA). Each episode unfolds another layer of the self-healing process of body-mind-spirit and contains a lesson, a meditation for that topic, and exercises or suggestions to practice the lesson. https://innerintegration.mykajabi.com/store/eotxgbTJ Meredith’s Self-Care Mastery Course is her advanced training. This is a powerful course for recovering codependents where you'll explore the 5 Domains of Self-Care Mastery so you can generate next level self-love. It comes with 8 bonus exercises/guided visualizations on some of the most common practices she recommends for self-healing after narcissistic abuse. These are supplements to the core work of the SCMC and also available separately. https://innerintegration.mykajabi.com/store/MMDorN8s To ask a personal question and receive a personalized, detailed email response from Meredith within 48h please click here for Personal Email Support: https://innerintegration.mykajabi.com/store/LyPEQKJd Or book a Strategy Session via Skype for 90 minutes so Meredith can help you start to transform your life with actual steps that you can take now to move forward and self-heal after narcissistic abuse. Save money when you purchase 3 or 5 session packages! https://innerintegration.mykajabi.com/store/DhpAF5Gt If you felt you got value from my YouTube content, I gratefully accept donations via the DONATIONS tab on www.InnerIntegration.com NOTE: I am not a therapist or counselor — I am a holistic integration coach, helping you to self-heal after abuse and transform your life. I work with a mind-body-spirit approach to wellness that is a valuable complement to traditional psychotherapy. I do recommend that you also seek out a therapist who has experience with narcissistic abuse and understands these dynamics extensively in order to help you with the PTSD/C-PTSD, especially in the early stages of recovery. Thank you for taking responsibility for yourself! Thank you so much for your support and for tuning into my message. If you find my work helpful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE! I am grateful that you help me share my message with those who can benefit from it. http://www.InnerIntegration.com http://www.facebook.com/InnerIntegration http://www.youtube.com/InnerIntegration

• published: 28 Nov 2016
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