Private lives
Guardian readers solve your problems
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I want to pay my friend’s gym fees so we can carry on our regular visits, but don’t want to cause upset by doing so
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I keep applying and give my all for interviews but get nowhere. Now I can’t bring myself to do it any more
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We’re both in our 60s and my husband needs to work for four more years. But I feel I have given up too much to carry on living in the Middle East. Do I stick it out?
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He’s 11 years my junior and a fitness instructor, and we get on so well. I worry that if I fall more deeply in love I’ll only be there to offer him what his wife can’t
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He was going through a divorce and we had only been dating for three months when I became pregnant. Ever since he told his estranged wife, he won’t commit
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It’s only been a few months since my husband walked out and set up a new life with a girlfriend with her own children. Now my youngest complains of feeling ill and it’s likely to be a result of emotional stress
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I’m 57 and have never been in a relationship. I seem hard-wired to be attracted only to guys aged 18-35, few of whom are also gay
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No matter how damaging the consequences, they will not make amends or defuse the situation. It is causing a dramatic decline in my health
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Her alternative-leaning mother has raised her to have faith in massively diluted plant extracts but, if we are to go travelling or have kids, surely we need to trust science to keep us safe
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He’s been diagnosed with a progressive degenerative illness and has always suffered from depression. I’ve been having an affair to cope with my loneliness, but we have kids and I can’t see a way forward
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Everyone my age just seems to want to party or are in long-term relationships that take priority over seeing friends
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I’m distraught to think she lied about her reasons for our break up or moved on to someone else immediately
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Even though I have explained that the whole thing was perfectly innocent, he is accusing me of undermining our relationship. How can I turn things around?
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Twelve years ago, my father-in-law gave me his special necklace, but when he died his wife demanded it back. Now my sister-in-law is wearing it and I feel so upset
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She told me she had a six-month affair and she is trying to make things work, but I don’t see what I did wrong and can’t seem to get over the pain
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The girl is verbally and physically abusive to both of us – and acuses me of being a paedophile. I now dread going home and wonder about moving out
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After two marriages, a further failed relationship and a sexual assault by a man I thought of as a friend, I can’t snap out of this negative thinking
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It is wonderful and awful in equal measure. How should I handle this time-wasting distraction?
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I’ve never met any of his friends either. And I also recently discovered some texts on his phone from another woman
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I was depressed about it for a few years, but I think I’m happy with my life now. Maybe we’re better off childless? How do I start this conversation?
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He says he loves me but he also loves his wife. I feel used
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I gave my son up for adoption and I was overjoyed when he got back in touch with me years later – but he has suddenly gone quiet again and seems to want to avoid me. I am devastated
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I can’t help him because he is 21 and has to self-refer, but he insists he is fine even though he has lost interest in most things
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She has a long-term boyfriend and I wonder whether she feels somewhat trapped – but when we’re together we’re completely at ease with each other
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I don’t want to bring my three-year-old daughter up in a home where her father and I argue all the time about politics, but his new beliefs really upset me
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They shout at each other and hurl insults and I have to go and hide in my room. I would move out but it’s hard to find somewhere else to live
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She is best friends with some of them, stays in the family home for extended visits and joins them at Christmas. My husband thinks this is normal
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He tells me there’s nothing going on, but they are so codependent that they share everything with each other and her territorialism makes me feel uncomfortable
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I get so anxious when he goes out with his friends, and he feels the same way when I go out. How can we solve this?
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He has been trying to address his issues but I’m not sure I can forgive him even though we have young children
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We’ve talked about marriage and children, but I’m not sure I want that with him even though he is handsome, loyal and affectionate
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Should I leave him for the sake of my grownup children who come to stay, or wait until they overhear?
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We have two young children and I’m willing to change to rebuild the relationship, but he just keeps saying I’m an awful person and he was unhappy
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I am very happy not to be in a ‘normal’ relationship, but I worry I won’t find another man who can make me feel satisfied
I’ve been working for the same company for 18 years and feel stuck in a rut