Have you ever received a love letter from a friend confessing their feelings? How did that go?

Inri137 · 2017-03-02T17:52:04+00:00

It went well. I did not reciprocate her feelings and we had an honest discussion about it. It was really sweet and sincere and it did not significantly impact our friendship. She had to take some time/distance which lasted a few months but now we're back to being friends again.

Inri137 · 2017-03-02T13:58:55+00:00

Logical positivist phase. I spent six months without using any linguistic predication (e.g. no form of the verb "to be"). I was a hit at parties.

Inri137 · 2017-02-23T21:54:36+00:00

Mrs. Green, my geometry teacher in junior high. I struggled a bit. She told me advanced math wasn't for me and I should reconsider taking honors level math courses. I was of course terrified and intimidated (she was a Rhodes Scholar, a fact she never let you forget). I ended up studying dark matter physics at MIT. Eff you, Mrs. Green.

Inri137 · 2017-01-31T20:27:01+00:00

I got Ziggy from Danielle and Barry Ellis at legendarysamoyeds.com. He's the sweetest thing, loves going out and about, is very well trained and calm but also loves to play. He gets a bit restless and sometimes gets the zoomies but other than that I take him damn near everywhere (including to the office!). I could not possibly have asked for a better dog.

Inri137 · 2017-01-30T17:56:31+00:00

I have a lot of experience with the P30 (not L) 9mm and the VP9 both. I have to say if you like the VP9 the P30 9mm is just in every way its superior. See if you can't rent and shoot one, I have a feeling you'll love it.

Also, it's compatible with all your existing VP9 magazines and ammo, so you don't have to fork out more for the magazines.

Inri137 · 2017-01-30T17:50:48+00:00

I know that semi-auto is by far the consensus on this but I'm curious as to what the arguments in favor of a revolver would be? Fewer safety features, fewer rounds, heavier triggers. Is it easier to CC a revolver? Are they more reliable shooting?

Inri137 · 2017-01-30T16:28:09+00:00

Ex did some really horrible things to me. Through friends, I put her on the unofficial PNG list at every major company in her industry including her dream company.

Inri137 · 2016-10-20T13:50:41+00:00

All the time, me included. Getting into MIT is way more about working hard and being passionate than it is about "seeming smart." Most of the "smart" kids got that way by working really hard at it, not by being born super smart anyway.

Inri137 · 2016-10-20T13:49:04+00:00

The kid wanted to show me how good he was at math and asked me to give him two numbers to multiply together really fast. I told him I believed him and he didn't need to demonstrate but he really wanted to, so I gave him two numbers and he sort of struggled with it a bit. It was really awkward. I told him I understood he was nervous and not to worry about it, and that I believed him, but he kept insisting he was really good with numbers and that he developed his own algorithms for fast multiplication and etc, etc. I kept trying to get more out of him like asking him what about math appealed to him so much or even move the subject away to his favorite hobbies or stuff outside of school but he was really caught up on the fact that he wanted me to believe he was great with numbers.

Don't get me wrong, if you're passionate about something that's great but you need to be able to engage someone on that topic as a human being, not a calculator. If you're applying for my school I have no doubt you're good at math, I'm trying to learn all the other interesting things about you and this kid just was not giving me much to work with.

Inri137 · 2016-10-20T13:37:50+00:00

Definitely be yourself. The best interviewees are sincere. If you're trying to hardest to give textbook answers you come across as cardboard at best and coached at worst. The point of the interview is to try to learn who you really are. That's not to say you shouldn't be singing your praises-- you should definitely talk yourself up-- but don't give insincere, rehearsed answers. Funny and weird stick out, most of the time in a good way!

The best interviews resemble conversations way more than formal interviews.

Inri137 · 2016-10-19T20:38:42+00:00

I don't know the exact numbers but it's minimal. I know that performance disparity once enrolled is also minimal. MIT is really fortunate that it attracts so many qualified applicants that the bar isn't really any lower for affirmative action candidates.

Inri137 · 2016-10-19T20:10:20+00:00

Almost. Some people don't live anywhere near an interviewer so they are exempt from the requirement.

Some people get in without the interview, but it is a huge part of the application. The admissions rate for people who conduct an interview is three times higher than for those who skip the interview. Essentially if you skip the interview you need to be a really stellar applicant in every other regard. Very few people skip the interview.

Inri137 · 2016-10-19T20:01:01+00:00

How much does it affect what I do? Not at all. The interviews are exactly identical and without consideration for race, unless it comes up (usually in the context of a race-based activity a student is engaged in, similar to how some students are part of faith-based activities).

My own thoughts on it (NOT the Institute's official opinion) are that it goes a long way towards building the kind of team and community that make MIT the really powerful place it is. There are other schools that don't practice affirmative action (Caltech comes to mind, for example) that have an equally bright student body that is not nearly as diverse or entrepreneurial. Essentially affirmative action policies helped make MIT the kind of place I would want to attend in the first place.

Inri137 · 2016-10-19T19:53:18+00:00

Only undergrads and transfer students. Each graduate department does their own admissions separately so there's no uniform process or team for it.

Inri137 · 2016-10-19T18:43:01+00:00

Yes, I had a student show up with his mother-- this by itself is not unusual. Many students have their parents drive them to the interview and usually the parent just waits in a comfortable waiting area while I conduct the interview in the office. This one kid though, his mother just would not stop talking from the moment I met them both. I kept trying to break the ice with the kid by asking him questions like how his weekend went or if he had any fun plans for the upcoming break but his mom kept answering them for him up until I was able to separate them. Even the separation was awkward because I had to say something like, "you can wait here while I interview your son" and she paused and looked at her son as if startled that she wouldn't be able to listen in on the interview.

As soon as I got them apart the kid opened up and it turned into a real interview, but I felt really bad for the kid. He was so meek and his mother had such a strong personality that it wouldn't surprise me if she overshadowed him a lot in their daily life, too.

Inri137 · 2016-10-19T17:18:26+00:00

Students impress me by being sincere and passionate (and sincerely passionate!). The most impressive students, the ones that stand out, have things the really care about and have a record of working on their passions inside or outside of the classroom setting.

The students who turn me off the fastest are the ones that lie when I ask them what they do for fun. I'm trying to figure out how you bring balance to your life and unwind after a stressful day. The other thing that really fails to impress me is when I ask why a student wants to attend MIT and their only response is the school's reputation. I like knowing that there are specific things about the school (the culture, the classes, the opportunities, the resources, etc) that appeal to you as opposed to just the reputation of the school. Do your homework on each school you're applying to because this is one question you're almost guaranteed to get in every interview.

Inri137 · 2016-10-19T17:10:50+00:00

Never had a hostile interview before, no, although that would certainly be entertaining I can't imagine it would go well for the interviewee. I did have a student tell me he thought [other school] was a better school, which is a fine opinion to have, but why bring that up in your interview for my school?

Inri137 · 2016-10-19T13:37:08+00:00

!!! Beautiful! How long does it take you to brush all the sand out, though?

Inri137 · 2016-10-17T17:54:49+00:00

People with BPD cannot change. I dated a girl with BPD for over a year, and she's stuck in the same self-destructive cycle she's been in for the past ten years and will probably be in for the next ten years. Same story as you: cheating, blaming me, sabotaging therapy by lying about everything. Even made up rape claims.

The question of "can you blame her" is easy to answer: it doesn't matter. Whether or not she is at physically at fault for her actions, you need to hold her accountable for them. It's literally the only thing that could ever motivate them to change. People with BPD try to consistently avoid the consequences of their actions and will jump through an inordinate amount of mental gymnastics to justify why they behaved the way they did. Ultimately, it's this process that keeps them from growing as human beings and it's what keeps them at the emotional level of teenagers.

So treat it the same way you would treat a teenager. Are they 100% at fault for their actions? You could argue they have a lot to learn, don't know how to control their emotions yet, and have a lot of growing up to do. All are equally true of people with BPD. That doesn't mean that they deserve to get away with all their actions, or that you need to stick around to help them.

Inri137 · 2016-10-09T21:14:35+00:00

British living overseas. Sassy, liberal, vain (but modest enough to admit it). You love science and technology but it's not for you, you study law or political science instead. You're the "mom" in your group of friends. You're unfailingly loyal and ambitious beyond reason, and this gets you into trouble sometimes.

Inri137 · 2016-10-03T19:16:34+00:00

I got Ziggy from Danielle Ellis at DzLegndarySamoyeds. They're based out of Virginia but service the entire east coast as far south as Florida. I don't think she has any available right now but it's better to get on the waiting list sooner rather than later.

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