![Joseph Stalin as a young, charming man.](/web/20160921144621im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/l/k/6/7/3/image.related.landscape.460x307.gr2xe4.png/1472875600136.jpg)
Time to talk to girls about young, hot Stalin
When I saw the footage of former Auburn deputy mayor Salim Mehajer verbally abusing his estranged wife, Aysha, last week I was reminded about the difference between passionate intensity and love. About how to recognise signs of aggression, manipulation, abuse or control in even the most nascent relationship – and what not to tolerate and when to walk away.