How To Set Boundaries With Narcissists and Difficult People

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How To Set Boundaries With Narcissists and Difficult People www.lisaaromano.com https://lisa-a-romano.mykajabi.com In this video I will teach you a bit more about codependency, attachment trauma, and how the way we were raised causes us to attract narcissists and difficult people. Today as adults, we need to learn how to set boundaries with narcissists and difficult people because we were never taught we had a right to speak up for ourselves. Codependent Personality Disorder I felt the need to preface the video with a brief description of WHY so many of us attract narcissists in the first place, but eventually reveal that setting boundaries begins with us. We have to know how we feel, what we want, what our agenda is and how far we are willing to go when we are dealing with a narcissist. Before you try and set boundaries with a narcissist, make sure you know what you want to get out of the interaction, and then be clear about your desired outcome. You will not be able to change a narcissist, or get them to see what you want them to see. The more you understand why you are codependent and afraid to set boundaries in the first place the more you will be able to set boundaries with difficult people. If you believe you suffer from codependency issues, narcissistic abuse, and or have been raised by narcissistic parents this channel is for you. Whether you come from a dry home (non alcoholic-emotionally-verbally-psychologically-physically-sexually abusive home) or an alcoholic/drug addicted home, you may suffer from codependency programming. I believe codependency personality disorder--is real, and it is the result of being raised to believe you are unworthy. When you are raised to believe you are unworthy, every thought that passes through the filter in your mind--is tainted by that thought which eventually becomes a belief. I am not a licensed psychologist--and I am glad I am not. I am glad I am not because I am not certain my own opinions would not have been indoctrinated OUT OF ME. The fact that we live in a society--and exist under this umbrella called 'Psychology'--and most of us when we enter into therapy are not asked about 'how we felt about our parents--or how we felt our parents felt about us' growing up is a huge problem! In addition, we are a world FULL of adult children of alcoholics--self absorbed--codependent parents--and yet--we are routinely treated for the way we feel, rather than addressing WHY we feel the way we feel. What will help us all, is when we learn about how our childhood--and our brainwave states impacted our impressionable subconscious minds. Why? Because what you learned about your Self between the ages of 0-8 has become your psychological set point; how you see your Self and the world. Why? Because children are hypnotic brainwave states during this time of their life. If you were not loved unconditionally--you have been downloaded to believe you are not worthy of love. For the rest of your life, you may seek outside validation to fill that void--AND in the process attract narcissists who NEED to be sought after--taken care of--and praised. It is my hope that this channel opens your eyes to the divine YOU that lays in waiting--until you wake up and realize--its not you--its your programming. (copyright Lisa A. Romano 2015) Lisa A. Romano is a Breakthrough Life Coach who specializes in helping people heal their childhood programming. If you have been raised by alcoholics, narcissists, or if you are struggling with codependency, and have been attracting narcissists into your life these videos will help you unravel the dysfunctional beliefs that are holding you back. This channel speaks to those interested in "codependent counseling", "codependent therapists", "codependent no more", question "What is codependency?", "narcissistic abuse survivors", "codependency issues", and "codependent recovery". If you are interested in reading Lisa's books they are; The Road Back To Me My Road Beyond The Codependent Divorce Loving The Self Affirmations-Healing Unconscious Codependent Belief Systems Quantum Tools To Help You Heal Your Life Now Loving The Self Affirmations-Healing Childhood Brainwashing Codependent Now What? Its Not You Its Your Programming For professional inquires; http://www.lisaaromano.com Free Worksheets when you join our newsletter at http://www.lisaaromano.com To subscribe and listen to "Lisa A. Romano's Blogtalk Radio Show" http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lisa-a-romano Lisa A. Romano on Pinterest http://www.pinterest.com/lisaaromano/self-help-for-adult-children-of-alcoholics-life-co/?z=1 Lisa A. Romano's Amazon Authors Page http://www.amazon.com/Lisa-A-Romano/e/B007VHQGTE Visit Website Store for downloads, meditations and workshops. To Invest in the 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program visit https://lisa-a-romano.mykajabi.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O1tGHChocN4