163: Ask David: Anxiety, Dreams, Cyclical Negative Thoughts, Secrets of Selling, Exposure, and more Can you treat anxiety without meds? How do you interpret dreams? Are negative thoughts cyclical? How can I get over anxiety when selling? How does exposure work? Will you teach on the East Coast again? Hi! We’ve had tons of great questions from listeners like you. Here’s the first: Question #1. TREATING ANXIETY WITHOUT MEDICATIONS Hi Dr. Burns, I would love to talk to you!!! I have been going to a wonderful counselor for several years, and he is the one who recommended your book. My question is how can you overcome anxiety without taking medicine? I have been on a very low dose medicine for years and would love to discontinue but when I try the anxiety seems to come back. Thank you. Lisa Hi Lisa, Thank you for your email! This is one of my favorite topics, since I’ve personally had at least 17 different anxiety disorders that I’ve had to overcome. That’s why I love treating anxiety. Whatever you’ve had, I can say, “I’ve had that too, and I know how it sucks! And I can put you on the road to recovery, too!” Did you read When Panic Attacks, or one of the earlier books? The written exercises would be the way to go, I think. You will find more than 40 methods in that book. Write back if you have questions after reading it. Focus on one specific moment when you are anxious, and do a Daily Mood Log, as illustrated in Chapter 3. You can also listen to the free Feeling Good Podcasts on anxiety. Go to my website, FeelingGood.com, and click on the Podcast tab. There, you’ll find a list of all the podcasts, with links. In the right hand panel of every page, you’ll find the search function. You can type in “anxiety,” or “social anxiety,” and so forth, and all the relevant podcasts and blogs will pop right up. You can also sign up in that same right-hand panel of every page so you’ll receive all the new podcasts, along with the show notes. In addition, withdrawal effects are pretty much inevitable when going off of benzodiazepines, if that is the type of medication you are taking. These are the drugs most often prescribed for anxiety, like Valium, Librium, Ativan, Xanax, and so forth. Typically, the withdrawal, which typically involves insomnia and increased anxiety, take several weeks to wear off. Your medical doctor can guide you in this. I cannot advise you about medications in this forum, so make sure you check with your doctor! David Question #2. How can you interpret dreams? Hello, Dr. Burns. I am terrified that this may be the most boring question you have ever received, but, I’ll press on none the less. I often experience very vivid dreams after listening to your podcasts. In fact, I recently dozed off after listening to one of your podcasts on procrastination (#75) and forgot to turn off my phone. In my dream I was in my childhood house and could hear you talking away in some far corner of the house and I was really getting quite annoyed and angry. I really wanted to find you to tell you to shut up, but I couldn’t get the words out. When I awoke, podcast #77 was playing, which seems to explain some of my unconscious hostility. I struggle with most of my relationships and don’t really want to deal with all the hard work I have to do to improve them. So, there you have it! Thanks for listening to me and all your Herculean efforts on behalf of all those in the struggle to grow. Mike Hi Mike, I explain how dreams function, and give an example with my dream that I had a broken jaw! Question #3. Are Negative Thoughts cyclical? David, I have a question about our strong attraction or inclination to negative thoughts. Are our psychological processes cyclical? People seem to recycle the same negative thoughts for years. Even if we produce a strong alternative thought or reattribution it may not be a default choice the next time. How can we make the alternative/ positive thoughts a conscious choice? Thanks, Rajesh Hi Rajesh: Negative Thoughts are not cyclical for the most part, but are an inherent part of our human nature. The podcast on fractal psychotherapy might be useful, since the same Negative Thoughts will tend to come back over and over throughout your life. And once you have learned how to combat those thoughts, you can use the same techniques to smash the thoughts whenever they pop back into your mind. The written exercises I describe in my books, like the Daily Mood Log, are extremely helpful, even mandatory, in building new brain networks and strengthening them through repeated practice. Bipolar manic-depressive illness is a little different, and it can be quick cyclical. (David will briefly explain this.) Thanks Rajesh for yet another great question! david Question #4. I’m in sales. How do I combat my Negative...

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