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Esther Perel (born 1958) is a Belgian psychotherapist notable for exploring the tension between the need for security (love, belonging and closeness) and the need for freedom (erotic desire, adventure and distance) in human relationships.
Perel promoted the concept of Erotic Intelligence in a best selling book (Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence) which was published in 2006 and since has been translated into 24 languages. A talk entitled The secret to desire in a long-term relationship which she gave at TED in February 2013 has received more than 7.5 million views on TED's website as of January 2016. A talk entitled Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved which she gave at TED in March 2015 has received more than 2.7 million views on TED's website as of August 2015.
Perel grew up amongst Holocaust survivors in Antwerp, Belgium and noted two groups around her: "those who didn't die, and those who came back to life". Her observation was that "those who didn't die were people who lived tethered to the ground, afraid, untrusting. The world was dangerous, and pleasure was not an option. You cannot play, take risks, or be creative when you don't have a minimum of safety, because you need a level of unself-consciousness to be able to experience excitement and pleasure. Those who came back to life were those who understood eroticism as an antidote to death."
Esther (/ˈɛstər/; Hebrew: אֶסְתֵּר, Modern Ester, Tiberian ʼEstēr), born Hadassah, is the eponymous heroine of the Book of Esther.
According to the Hebrew Bible, Esther was a Jewish queen of the Persian king Ahasuerus. Ahasuerus is traditionally identified with Xerxes I during the time of the Achaemenid empire. Her story is the basis for the celebration of Purim in Jewish tradition.
King Ahasuerus (Xerxes I) held a 180-day feast in Susa (Shoushan). While in "high spirits" from the wine, he ordered his queen, Vashti, to appear before him and his guests to display her beauty. But when the attendants delivered the king's command to Queen Vashti, she refused to come. Furious at her refusal to obey, the king asked his wise men what should be done. One of them said that all the women in the empire would hear that "The King Ahasuerus commanded Vashti the queen to be brought in before him, but she came not." Then these women would despise their husbands, which would cause many problems in the kingdom. Therefore it would be prudent to depose Vashti.
Sexual Desire: A Philosophical Investigation (also published as Sexual Desire: A Moral Philosophy of the Erotic) is a 1986 book about the philosophy of sex by Roger Scruton, who argues that sex is morally permissible only if it involves love and intimacy. Sexual Desire, which has received both praise and criticism from reviewers, has been seen as one of the most important works in the philosophy of sex.
Scruton, influenced by the work of the philosophers Immanuel Kant and Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel, attempts to develop a conservative sexual ethic. Citing The Phenomenology of Spirit (1807), he summarizes Hegel as arguing that, "The final end of every rational being is the building of the self—of a recognisable personal entity, which flourishes according to its own autonomous nature, in a world which it partly creates." This process involves recognizing the other as an end in himself or herself.
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Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships. TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many lan...
Googler Logan Ury talks to author and sex advice columnist Dan Savage, as well as "Mating In Captivity" author Esther Perel, in the fifth of our Modern Romance talks. They discuss infidelity, new models for marriage, abstinence-only sex education, and monogamy. Check out http://www.savagelovecast.com and http://estherperel.com.
Thank you for Watching! New Interviews with the World's GREATEST Entrepreneurs, CEO's, Authors, and Minds will be posted every Monday and Wednesday! Podcast Episode #285 http://lewishowes.com/285 Do you have The School of Greatness Book yet? If not make sure to grab a copy now and prepare to change your life in the process! http://lewishowes.com/book 1:44 Esther speaks on her Family's history and struggles 7:01 Esther speaks on her Inspiration for her book/ Clinton Scandal 12:04 What goes wrong in relationships? 17:47 The History behind sexuality and desire 20:48 How to keep desire in a relationship 25:51 Experience love and desire at the same time 29:10 How to keep a relationship strong 34:55 History of Marriage 38:04 4 Pillars in Modern Relationships 40:20 Modern Love: Tradition and...
In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence. TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many languages at http://www.ted.com/translate Follow TED news on Twitter: http://www.twitter....
►This is a preview from our latest RBT interview with Esther Perel ►Learn more about Ramit's Brain Trust here: http://iwt.link/braintrust Esther Perel is the author of "Mating in Captivity," and you may have seen her on a couple of TED Talks. We're going to talk today about the things that most people don't talk about. We're going to talk about desire, we're going to talk about sexuality, we're going to talk about all kinds of relationships and the uncomfortable conversations that we try to avoid, but that we've been thinking about often times for 20 or 30 years. ►MY CHANNELS: Visit My Website: http://iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ZddA__ewP3AtDefjl_tWg Subscribe For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ZddA__ewP3AtDefjl_...
Esther Perel - Sex & Infidelity - Part 1 of 2. FREE FULL EPISODE: https://londonrealacademy.com/episodes/esther-perel-sex-infidelity/ Chapters: 00:00 Trailer 03:50 Brian’s introduction 06:58 Background influences which contributed to Esther becoming a cross cultural psychologist. 09:53 A chance encounter on Liberation Day following a very dark time. 10:47 Learning from a young age of the brutality in the world, but also the possibilities for a positive life. 12:35 Circumstances can knock one person down, whilst for another, it is the catalyst to build them up. 14:57 How those who take risks manage to insulate feelings of danger so it doesn’t control them. 16:03 Why Esther is willing to question rigid certainties or authoritarianism with no room for ‘disruption’. 18:16 The quality of your ...
Choosing a primary partner is a major life decision and we all want to feel sure about this choice. But, uncertainty is part of love and especially in the early stages of a relationship, so how do we manage this paradox? Leave your comments on the blog where the primary discussion is taking place https://www.estherperel.com/video-how... If you liked this video, subscribe to my channel and sign up for bi-weekly relationship advice on https://www.estherperel.com
"How do I know when I've found The One?" - Austin, Baltimore, MD This idea of finding "The One" is problematic for relationships. The paradox of choice creates a real sense of anxiety for people looking to find a long-term partner. The expectations of this one person to satisfy all of our many emotional, physical, and spiritual needs is a tall order for one individual. Perhaps, instead of looking for a person who checks all the boxes, focus on a person with whom you can imagine yourself writing a story with. And there are no perfect stories. Leave your comments on the blog where the primary discussion is taking place: https://www.estherperel.com/finding-the-one/ If you liked this video, subscribe to my channel and sign up for bi-weekly relationship advice on https://www.estherperel.com...
Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel discusses some of the nuance of heterosexual intimacy. Credit to Google Talks.
Sign up for my newsletter for exclusive posts and updates @ www.estherperel.com On March 19, 2015 Esther Perel delivered a TEDTalk about affairs. This series is an expansion of that talk, to dive deeper into a few areas of conversation. Comments welcomed below. SUBSCRIBE to my channel to be notified when the next INFIDELITY SERIES video is posted. ................................ * Filmed and edited by Nora Tennessen, New York, NY -- https://vimeo.com/ntennessen
Thank you for Watching! New Interviews with the World's GREATEST Entrepreneurs, CEO's, Authors, and Minds will be posted every Monday and Wednesday! Podcast Episode #285 http://lewishowes.com/285 Do you have The School of Greatness Book yet? If not make sure to grab a copy now and prepare to change your life in the process! http://lewishowes.com/book 1:44 Esther speaks on her Family's history and struggles 7:01 Esther speaks on her Inspiration for her book/ Clinton Scandal 12:04 What goes wrong in relationships? 17:47 The History behind sexuality and desire 20:48 How to keep desire in a relationship 25:51 Experience love and desire at the same time 29:10 How to keep a relationship strong 34:55 History of Marriage 38:04 4 Pillars in Modern Relationships 40:20 Modern Love: Tradition and...
Esther Perel is recognized as one of the world’s most original and insightful voices on personal and professional relationships. She is the best-selling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, which has been translated into 25 languages. Fluent in nine of them, the Belgian native is a practicing psychotherapist, celebrated speaker and organizational consultant to Fortune 500 companies. The New York Times, in a cover story, named her the most important game changer on sexuality and relationships since Dr. Ruth. Her critically acclaimed viral TED talk reached nearly 5 million viewers in the first year. http://www.estherperel.com/ Follow Esther Perel: https://twitter.com/estherperel Follow The Feast: https://twitter.com/feastongood https://www.facebook.com/feastongo...
In this dynamic interview, Esther Perel explores how therapist Terry Real uses what he calls "fierce intimacy" -- a way for couples to keep the passion alive in their relationship by "joining through the truth." Despite our damaged family history (and we all have this; some more than others), we can free ourselves for a more intimate relationship by practicing "relational mindfulness." By telling the truth in a loving way, couples can renew their relationships and heal their pasts. With a difficult family past, Real practices what he preaches and is a shining example of an evolved, healed man, but he says the choice is ours to make.
Esther Perel is recognized as one of the most insightful and provocative voices on personal and romantic relationships and the complex science behind human interaction. The author of the international bestseller Mating in Captivity, Perel believes that the most traditional aspects of a culture and the most progressive and radical changes in a society take place around sexuality. Much of Perel’s work—both lecturing internationally and advising couples in her private therapy practice—centers on the topic of infidelity. Why do happily married couples cheat? Why does the modern egalitarian approach to marriage quash desire? Are the heightened expectations we bring to modern love combined with our pursuit of happiness directly related to infidelity? Join her and NPR’s Hanna Rosin for an insight...
►This is a preview from our latest RBT interview with Esther Perel ►Learn more about Ramit's Brain Trust here: http://iwt.link/braintrust Esther Perel is the author of "Mating in Captivity," and you may have seen her on a couple of TED Talks. We're going to talk today about the things that most people don't talk about. We're going to talk about desire, we're going to talk about sexuality, we're going to talk about all kinds of relationships and the uncomfortable conversations that we try to avoid, but that we've been thinking about often times for 20 or 30 years. ►MY CHANNELS: Visit My Website: http://iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ZddA__ewP3AtDefjl_tWg Subscribe For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ZddA__ewP3AtDefjl_...
Esther Perel and I intimately discuss how to keep passion, attraction and desire alive in relationships. Check out Esters amazing new course on Rekindling Desire in your relationship here: http://estherperel.ontraport.com/t?orid=43734&opid;=2 .......... TRUTH AND LOVE COACHING INTERNATIONAL, LLC – VIDEO DISCLAIMER The information contained within this video is for informational purposes only. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video.
Choosing a primary partner is a major life decision and we all want to feel sure about this choice. But, uncertainty is part of love and especially in the early stages of a relationship, so how do we manage this paradox? Leave your comments on the blog where the primary discussion is taking place https://www.estherperel.com/video-how... If you liked this video, subscribe to my channel and sign up for bi-weekly relationship advice on https://www.estherperel.com
Esther Perel is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of international best seller Mating in Captivity. Watch our video interview with her to hear what Esther has to say about motherhood and maintaining sexual well-being, courtesy of gasm.org!
Esther Perel’s TED talks about fidelity have been watched more than 13 million times, and her book Mating in Captivity is a New York Times best-seller. Dan Savage’s syndicated sex advice column “Savage Love” has been a hit for 25 years, and his “Savage Lovecast” continues to top the podcasts charts ten years in. Jennifer Finney Boylan, transgender activist, author, and Times op-ed contributor, steals the show on “I Am Cait.” Put the three of them together in a nightclub with NPR’s Hanna Rosin and you’re sure to get a frank and lively discussion about sex, marriage, infidelity, and what it’s like to live as a transgender person in America today.
Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships. TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many lan...
Googler Logan Ury talks to author and sex advice columnist Dan Savage, as well as "Mating In Captivity" author Esther Perel, in the fifth of our Modern Romance talks. They discuss infidelity, new models for marriage, abstinence-only sex education, and monogamy. Check out http://www.savagelovecast.com and http://estherperel.com.
Thank you for Watching! New Interviews with the World's GREATEST Entrepreneurs, CEO's, Authors, and Minds will be posted every Monday and Wednesday! Podcast Episode #285 http://lewishowes.com/285 Do you have The School of Greatness Book yet? If not make sure to grab a copy now and prepare to change your life in the process! http://lewishowes.com/book 1:44 Esther speaks on her Family's history and struggles 7:01 Esther speaks on her Inspiration for her book/ Clinton Scandal 12:04 What goes wrong in relationships? 17:47 The History behind sexuality and desire 20:48 How to keep desire in a relationship 25:51 Experience love and desire at the same time 29:10 How to keep a relationship strong 34:55 History of Marriage 38:04 4 Pillars in Modern Relationships 40:20 Modern Love: Tradition and...
In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence. TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many languages at http://www.ted.com/translate Follow TED news on Twitter: http://www.twitter....
►This is a preview from our latest RBT interview with Esther Perel ►Learn more about Ramit's Brain Trust here: http://iwt.link/braintrust Esther Perel is the author of "Mating in Captivity," and you may have seen her on a couple of TED Talks. We're going to talk today about the things that most people don't talk about. We're going to talk about desire, we're going to talk about sexuality, we're going to talk about all kinds of relationships and the uncomfortable conversations that we try to avoid, but that we've been thinking about often times for 20 or 30 years. ►MY CHANNELS: Visit My Website: http://iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ZddA__ewP3AtDefjl_tWg Subscribe For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ZddA__ewP3AtDefjl_...
Esther Perel - Sex & Infidelity - Part 1 of 2. FREE FULL EPISODE: https://londonrealacademy.com/episodes/esther-perel-sex-infidelity/ Chapters: 00:00 Trailer 03:50 Brian’s introduction 06:58 Background influences which contributed to Esther becoming a cross cultural psychologist. 09:53 A chance encounter on Liberation Day following a very dark time. 10:47 Learning from a young age of the brutality in the world, but also the possibilities for a positive life. 12:35 Circumstances can knock one person down, whilst for another, it is the catalyst to build them up. 14:57 How those who take risks manage to insulate feelings of danger so it doesn’t control them. 16:03 Why Esther is willing to question rigid certainties or authoritarianism with no room for ‘disruption’. 18:16 The quality of your ...
Choosing a primary partner is a major life decision and we all want to feel sure about this choice. But, uncertainty is part of love and especially in the early stages of a relationship, so how do we manage this paradox? Leave your comments on the blog where the primary discussion is taking place https://www.estherperel.com/video-how... If you liked this video, subscribe to my channel and sign up for bi-weekly relationship advice on https://www.estherperel.com
"How do I know when I've found The One?" - Austin, Baltimore, MD This idea of finding "The One" is problematic for relationships. The paradox of choice creates a real sense of anxiety for people looking to find a long-term partner. The expectations of this one person to satisfy all of our many emotional, physical, and spiritual needs is a tall order for one individual. Perhaps, instead of looking for a person who checks all the boxes, focus on a person with whom you can imagine yourself writing a story with. And there are no perfect stories. Leave your comments on the blog where the primary discussion is taking place: https://www.estherperel.com/finding-the-one/ If you liked this video, subscribe to my channel and sign up for bi-weekly relationship advice on https://www.estherperel.com...
Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel discusses some of the nuance of heterosexual intimacy. Credit to Google Talks.
Sign up for my newsletter for exclusive posts and updates @ www.estherperel.com On March 19, 2015 Esther Perel delivered a TEDTalk about affairs. This series is an expansion of that talk, to dive deeper into a few areas of conversation. Comments welcomed below. SUBSCRIBE to my channel to be notified when the next INFIDELITY SERIES video is posted. ................................ * Filmed and edited by Nora Tennessen, New York, NY -- https://vimeo.com/ntennessen
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