Private lives
Guardian readers solve your problems
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This isn’t the first time he’s lied to me about his behaviour – I also discovered he had been paying for porn
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At first I liked his dominating behaviour. Now, however, he has forbidden me to wear certain clothes, which makes me feel insecure and uneasy
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I think it’s disgusting. Should I confront her about it?
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I am torn between my religious upbringing and being out, and am disappointed at the emphasis on sex in gay culture. Why can’t someone see the real loving me?
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None of the few men I’ve fallen for has seemed that bothered about me and I’m losing faith as I approach 30
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How do I get my partner to overcome his embarrassment, speak to a doctor, and confront the possibility that his feelings might be real?
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Can I have one with a surrogate, get a nanny and my partner to bring the child up and play the role of the ‘traditional man’ until it is older?
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My girlfriend wants me to grow up so we can have children of our own but I worry that I don’t have the ability to mature
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The married woman I had a secret affair with last year has hooked up with my friend. I’m worried it’s a calculated move to upset me
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My recently retired mum is leaving all her friends and family to throw her finances and emotions into a relationship which is only six months old. I fear she is living in a fantasy but she won’t take any advice
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I want marriage and children but even though we are meant to be moving in together, I’m not sure he wants the same
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I can see the physical and mental impact on her and can’t condone it any longer, but I think she might react badly if I try to talk to her
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He told his cousin – who is my colleague – that I was off work with depression. I thought I could confide in him, without my life being shared with his family
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I do love them but feel there is mutual dislike. I can’t control my emotions when I am with them and feel unlovable
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He’s loyal, supportive and loves me, but I often feel bored, unchallenged and dissatisfied in his company. Should I leave him and try to find someone else to have the family life I’d like?
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Our chemistry has attracted comment, but she’s a vital member of our team and I’m terrified she’ll leave the company if I ask her and the feelings aren’t mutual
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We’ve been together for 13 years and he has sex with a woman he meets on foreign work trips. He is full of remorse but I don’t hear him say he wants to preserve what we have together
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I feel I’m being unfairly judged by others, and I can’t defend or explain myself. I’m pretending I don’t know about it, but I need advice
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I have a successful career and am generally happy. But as soon as I start to feel close to someone, they back off. Is it me or them?
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My wife of 25 years refuses to have kids, so should I find someone younger to help satisfy my paternal urges, or stay and perhaps work with young people?
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It seems to be getting worse and persists even after he brushes his teeth. How do I talk to him about this?
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I appreciate sexual attraction can wane, but we are in our early thirties and I still feel young
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If I push too much, I can feel him pulling away. But if I stay away from him, he always ends up getting in contact
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I have relocated to a big city and have new friends, but I haven’t had a single date. When people ask if I have a partner, it physically hurts
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My boyfriend’s brother and fiance are expecting their first baby and I question why we’re not in the same position, but I know our relationship is toxic
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A relationship with a twentysomething made me feel sexy for the first time in years. It didn’t work out ultimately, but I’d like to meet someone similar
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I am seeing a man who has recently left a long relationship. He is trying to work out what his priorities are – and whether I am one of them
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We love one another but neither of us can commit to leaving our families for ever, but it seems impossible to split up now
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I don’t want to let this person get away – but she lost her father recently and I don’t know whether to make my feelings clear or wait
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She says our outlooks on life are incompatible and refuses to reconsider, but I miss her. What can I do?
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My husband has died and a stroke means I can no longer drive. From having a busy life, I am now stuck at home mainly on my own
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My father has always been demanding and controlling. I’ve always tried to be accommodating, but now he is interfering with my wedding plans
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Although I feel happier out of the relationship I miss my children and still have feelings for my ex-wife. If she offered to reconcile, I would be very tempted
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I work long hours hours in a demanding job then come home to the second shift. How could the situation improve?
My ex hurt me when she dumped me. Now she is dying and wants to see me