A lot of people think my advice and opinions sound strange.

Even my mom read a recent one and said, “You don’t actually mean this stuff, do you?”

So, a little explanation:

Do you know what musical counterpoint is?

Underneath the main melody, you have a counter-melody that goes against it, and together they make harmony.

This is different than just harmonizing, where someone sings along with the melody at an interval. This is a separate melody that could stand on its own, but is really there to complement the main melody.

Well, if my advice and opinions sound strange, it’s because I’m just the counter-melody.

I know I’m not the only voice you hear. There’s a message I know that most of my readers or listeners are hearing, because it’s a common message we all hear these days. So let’s call that the melody.

I may love that melody too, but I don’t want to just duplicate it. So I try to think of a good counter-melody.

I do it to compensate (or over-compensate) for something I think is missing in the common message.

So my public posts are a counterpoint meant to complement the popular point.

For example:

• There’s a glorification of leadership and those who start companies. So I suggested that it’s more effective to be an early follower.
• The popular “law of attraction” says you should tell everyone your goals. So I shared an interesting study showing that telling your plans makes them less likely to happen.
• To people who are too focused on money, I preach my point that generosity is a more effective path to success.
• To people who are too focused on passion and purpose, I preach my point that money can lead you towards your purpose, because it shows you where you’re valuable to others.
• And I love pointing out that the opposite of anything may also be true.

Now if you ask me if I think the stuff I say is the only way to go, of course not! I’m just the counter-melody.

My best advice is to listen to the combination. Eventually you’ll find yourself singing along with the melody you like best. Or making up your own.