http://SocialConfidenceCenter.com Want More Confidence? Try This Powerful Confidence Trick To Double Your Self-Esteem Ready To Take Your Confidence To The Next Level? Get Dr. Aziz’s Powerful Confidence Building Program Here: http://ConfidenceUnleashedNow.com Listen to Dr. Aziz’s FREE Internet Radio Show here: http://ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com Follow Dr. Aziz on Facebook To Get Even More Confidence Tips: https://www.facebook.com/SocialConfidence [Today, we’re going to discuss what I call the “black hole syndrome”: the thing that’s keeping you from realizing your confidence, understanding your value, and going after what you want in life. So, what is the “black hole syndrome”? Any time you find yourself questioning your worth in front of another person, you are experiencing it. The black hole syndrome is the belief that your very existence is sucking value from what is happening around you—it’s the belief that you are a black hole and should be avoided. Here’s the problem with the black hole syndrome: when you feel as though your presence has a negative effect on people and situations, you don’t want to approach people. You don’t want to put yourself out there. This problem can show up anywhere—your work, your professional life, and your personal life. Sometimes we’re very aware of it and sometimes we’re not. Sometimes it’s subconscious . . . you just feel that nervousness around other people because you believe they don’t want you around. But what’s that all about? Why wouldn’t anyone like you or want you around? The answer is that you think on some level that your presence drains energy and is not wanted. What’s makes this mental syndrome worse is that most people try to compensate for their black hole: they try to be really funny or they avoid social situations altogether. Whatever they do, they try to compensate for the belief that they’re horrible people who are sucking up energy from other people. Let’s make one thing very clear: the only way we detract from the world around is by thinking we do. When you bring your honest self to a situation, people are either going to like you or they're not. Believing that nobody wants you around does not change that . . . but it does change you. In order to have a chance at being the kind of person people want around, you must start by showing up—by believing your presence has value and allowing yourself to be present.] To read more, go here: [http://socialconfidencecenter.com/updates/your-presence-is-good/] Want to truly take charge of your confidence and your life? Get started with Dr. Aziz now: http://ConfidenceUnleashedNow.com For dozens more confidence building videos, visit Dr. Aziz’s channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/GetMoreConfidence

• published: 27 Aug 2015
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