- published: 23 Aug 2013
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Sadness is emotional pain associated with, or characterized by feelings of disadvantage, loss, despair, helplessness, sorrow, and rage. These feelings of certain things are usually negative. When one is sad, people often become outspoken, less energetic, and emotional. Crying is an indication of sadness.
Sadness can be viewed as a temporary lowering of mood, whereas depression is more chronic.
Sadness is one of Paul Ekman's "six basic emotions - happy, sad, angry, surprised, afraid, disgusted".
'Being sad is a common experience in childhood. If faced openly, sadness can help families become stronger and more able to handle painful feelings'. On the other hand, some families may have the (conscious or unconscious) rule: 'No sadness allowed...we were not allowed to be sad...a matter of family pride'. The problem may then be that 'that screened-off emotion isn't available to us when we need it....the loss of sadness makes us a bit manic'.
Sadness is part of the normal process of the child separating from an early symbiosis with the mother and becoming more independent. 'Every time a child separates just a tiny bit more, he'll have to cope with a small loss. He'll have to get sad for a little bit'; and if the mother cannot bear this, 'if she dashes right in to relieve the child's distress every single time he shows any...the child is not getting a chance to learn how to cope with sadness'. This is why 'trying to jostle or joke out of a sad mood is devaluing to her' or him: 'we need to respect a child's right to experience a loss fully and deeply'.
I was lost in paradise
I was washed ashore
I was praying someone
Would walk right through that door
I was hung in effigy
I was flayed alive
I was lost and lonely
And struggling to survive.
Say that you need me
Say that you care
Say you believe in me
Say it, say it, say it
And I'll be there, oh yeah.
I was baked Alaska
Burning deep inside
I was wondering 'round this earth
Trying to find a place to hide.
I was Mr. Heartache
I was ripped and torn
I was hardly living
Until you came along.
Chorus
Come on and say it.
Whisper in my ear
Come on.
A ripple of uncertainty
Became a tide of change
That wave became an ocean
Now you're out of range.
Seen heaven in a rainbow
Many splendid things
None compare, none come close
You're my everything
Say that you need me
Say that you care
Say you believe in me
Say it, mean it, say it, and mean it
Say it, and mean it, say it