Going Beyond - Pretending and Faking - 32 (English) - BK Shivani

• Report rights infringement
• published: 13 Nov 2012
• views: 35883

Main Points - Episode 25 1. Expectations means we have already decided the outcome of a situation or a person's behavior and according to us that is the RIGHT way. 2. We want the outcome to be only OUR WAY for us to remain stable. If it happens any other way we will get disturbed, even if it is a better way. 3. When we get disturbed, we hold them responsible for our reaction and we even feel that they have let us down by not meeting our expectations. 4. Not having expectations does not mean that we will not give instructions or corrections. It means whatever may be the outcome we will be open to being in the present moment and respond proactively. 5. Give instructions and opinions, but do not expect that they have to be followed the way and at the time which we think is right. If we have expectations we react negatively. If we do not have expectations, we will accept the outcome and respond positively. 6. If we get hurt and react often, very soon we label them saying -- they NEVER listen to us, they ALWAYS let us down. Main Points - Episode 24 1. Trust should be the first thing to come in a relationship and the last thing to go and actually should never ever finish. 2. When we say we cannot trust someone again, we actually fear the hurt we will create if they do something which we did not expect. We do not fear trusting them, we fear our getting hurt. 3. They have done something which is not right for us, but the hurt we create is totally our responsibility and we have a choice how much and for how long to remain hurt. 4. Every time we create hurt we are getting weaker and then we create hurt even in simpler situations, because getting hurt is becoming our sanskar, and then trusting people becomes difficult. 5. When we start healing our selves, we do not fear getting hurt, and then we are able to trust people because even if they do things differently, we will be able to take care of ourselves. 6. When we doubt people around us in society or at the work place then doubt becomes our sanskar, and then it becomes difficult to trust family and friends. Main Points - Episode 23 1. We need to be prepared we will lose people's approval when we do something different from what they expected, but that does not mean we are not right or not good. 2. When we choose to do something for others, it is because their happiness matters to us, it is important for our relationship, so we are actually doing it for ourselves. Always do it after we understand we are doing it for OUR happiness not for them. 3. If we feel we are doing it for them, then we may do it without being happy, and then neither us nor they will be happy. 4. If we give what we want whether it is love, acceptance or appreciation, we will experience it before we give it. This makes us a master who gives, not a slave who is dependent on others. Awakening with Brahma Kumaris Self Management Self Management, which is really life management, is learning how to accept total RESPONSIBILITY for our self, have healthy RELATIONSHIPS, play the right ROLE and use the RESOURCES we already have within us in the most effective ways, and thereby fulfill our Iife's mission to be happy and at peace with our self and with the world. Responsibility - No person, event or situation is responsible for our happiness; we are the creator of ALL our thoughts, feelings and actions. Relationships - lt's not what others say or do that hurts us, lt's what we do - with what they say or do that hurts us, let's stop emotionally abusing ourselves. Roles - We are the creators of every scene in our life and hence have the power to play the right role, in the right scene, in the right way, at the right time. Resources - We all have the same resources but one of the factors that make us all unique is how we use those resources - physical, mental and spiritual. The Brahma Kumaris The Brahma Kumaris teaches Rajyoga as a way of experiencing peace of mind and a positive approach to life. The organisation provides opportunities to people from all religious and cultural backgrounds to explore their own spirituality and learn skills of reflection and meditation derived from Rajyoga, which will help develop inner calm, clear thinking and personal well-being. www.bkwsu.org (International) www.brahmakumaris.com (India)