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Smart, passionately participatory and nakedly truthful, the CityKat blog with Katherine Feeney is where sex isn’t taboo, it’s a talking point. With a mind open to every modern love, seduction and relationships dilemma you care to confess, join Kat and her brazen band of commenters every Wednesday and Friday for one of the most explicitly enticing conversations on the web.
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Too cool to care?
Katherine Feeney My Mum once came home from school and found her parents doing something that shocked her.
Who comes first – your partner or your kids?
![Scream](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/l/q/b/0/a/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.glq9n1.png/1450345890639.jpg)
Katherine Feeney You fall in love, life is perfect, you're a lucky bastard, and you know it but then you decide to have a baby.
Has Australian dating culture gone backwards?
![Coffee date?](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/l/l/0/d/i/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gll06v.png/1449790442995.jpg)
Katherine Feeney Urgency has been removed from the romantic world. We used to have to arrive on time to dates because there was no way of easily communicating a delay.
Are we turning more thinky than winky?
![Serena Williams in topless version of the shot she posed for in Vogue.](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/l/c/0/j/a/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.glen1o.png/1449122121771.jpg)
"Perhaps clothed women are going to have a moment." Great. But how long will that moment last? For how long will the world let women keep their clothes on, and still be sexy?
Does leading a parallel life online mean we are more likely to cheat?
![Diet affects whether you wake up rested, researchers say.](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/k/2/w/3/v/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gl8pbi.png/1456257168991.jpg)
Katherine Feeney Here's the bad news: According to some experts, you're more likely to find yourself with a cheating partner these days.
Is it ever too late to learn how to love?
![Learning to love: can it be done?](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/l/2/v/q/y/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gl2vhg.png/1447912409362.jpg)
Katherine Feeney I know some beautiful people who are well into their 50s and 60s who've never experienced real love.
How many strikes do you suffer before tossing your partner out?
![Hurting: how many times is it OK?](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/k/w/u/j/f/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gkwtx1.png/1447282938474.jpg)
Katherine Feeney When we explode at our partner we need to own our mistakes.
A class in self-climaxing shows we've got a way to go
![Self-pleasure: a learned art?](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/k/s/5/z/4/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gks600.png/1446761658034.jpg)
Katherine Feeney Sheilas Down Under may not be ready to experiment with masturbation techniques in a room full of naked lady strangers.
What if 'straight' didn't exist?
![Actress Ruby Rose, who identifies as gender fluid, is challenging gender and sexuality "norms".](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/k/i/q/3/x/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gkl6cq.png/1446025329945.jpg)
Katherine Feeney The modern obsession with categorising our sexuality is unhealthy.
What do you when you're ashamed of your partner?
![Embarrassing antics: shame or blame?](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/k/f/f/0/h/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gkfebd.png/1445487958734.jpg)
Katherine Feeney A reader has written in. She says her husband is often drunk.
Do bucks parties wreck the big day?
![Make or break: a big hangover before the big day.](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/k/9/d/y/6/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gk9duw.png/1444860255938.jpg)
Katherine Feeney Men's gross behaviour may make many brides-to-be rethink whether they want to walk down the aisle with them.
Do more wedding guests make for a happier couple?
![The guest list: bigger the better?](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/k/5/9/j/m/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gk4uja.png/1444359644741.jpg)
Katherine Feeney So it seems Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman weren't invited to their daughter's wedding.
What if the virgin wanting a baby was male?
![Fathers struggle to be put on the same pedestal as mothers.](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/1/1/v/4/u/z/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gjzs19.png/1443763233397.jpg)
Katherine Feeney If virgin women can become mothers through IVF, maybe we're ready for another miracle -- genuinely equality for men in the parenting debate.
Together apart: rich in love and circumstance?
![Living together: for love or money?](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/j/u/j/l/q/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gjujho.png/1443132548270.jpg)
Katherine Feeney Society should not condemn couples who by choice or force of circumstances have a relationship but live apart.
What men really think of women who make the first move
![Are you the hunter or the hunted on the dating scene?](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/1/1/u/d/n/r/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gjjy6x.png/1442030893660.jpg)
Katherine Feeney While they may like the idea of a female lead, in practice do men prefer making the approach themselves?
What's the point of pillow talk? Plenty, if you want to bask in afterglow
![Pillow talk: it's important.](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/j/3/o/f/e/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gj3nln.png/1440052623976.jpg)
Katherine Feeney Does pillow talk mean anything or is it just a sweet nothing that prevents sleep and causes problems?
Does it matter if I have a boy or a girl?
![Happy for health? Gender should not matter.](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/i/y/v/2/8/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.giyuyh.png/1439507329384.jpg)
Katherine Feeney That we still prefer male to female in the West is a real dilemma.
Why men need to forget about 'orgasm obligation'
![Men need to relieve themselves of Orgasm Anxiety.](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/i/t/2/i/v/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.git2ng.png/1438840134701.jpg)
Katherine Feeney Orgasm anxiety is taking the fun out of sex.
Same-self marriage takes the maybe out of 'I do'
![Just married: to yourself.](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/i/o/l/l/b/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.giokb7.png/1438313252183.jpg)
Katherine Feeney They say you find happiness in marriage.
The problem with having one child
![Only the lonely? Is having one child selfish?](/web/20160330112839im_/http://www.theage.com.au/content/dam/images/g/i/j/f/h/r/image.related.thumbnail.90x60.gijfgj.png/1437888015466.jpg)
Katherine Feeney We thought people would respect our choice but having an only child seems to be the one subject still open to discrimination.