Friend Zone Potential - MGTOW
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Hello Sandman, Have you ever come across a woman who only saw you as a potential? You're trying your best to make it out here in this harsh world. For example, getting a job, a degree, or opening a business.
Things are slow, not much cash is coming in and you might be in a bit of debt, but you are making a genuine effort to make yourself a better person, and you have made small successes along the way. A large part of you is hoping that she would be by your side when you build your empire, stick with you during the thick and thin. You will reward her for sticking with you during the good and especially, the bad times. You believe in free will, so you are not manipulating her at all to be with you. You're hoping that she will accept you for who you are and not what you have. She likes you more than a friend, and you know it. But because you are just "potential" you are not given a chance to reach relationship status. You are in a "grey area" or the friend-zone. She keeps you there, and if things go on the upswing (aka upward mobility), she has one foot already through the door since you both are friends, and only then she gives you a chance. In the meanwhile, she will give others a chance. She may give you legitimate or bullshit reasons but never the
REAL reason
... which is... you are just potential. You haven't reached her desired "intelligence", or "status", or "income bracket". She may be getting older and her biological clock is ticking, but since you are starting off or starting over, she can't wait.
Whatever her reason is, you are a risk and she eventually gives up on you then goes on to give someone else a chance... probably an easier one at that. You're hurt because you know in your heart that the things you would do for her, you realize the hard way she may not do it for you. Did an incident like this ever happen to you Sandman? I would be reading the comment section since I am sure this has happened to many MGTOWs. Have a great day, and cheers! You're absolutely right about this situation. I know one woman in her mid-twenties that's not interested in having a relationship. She's more interested in making hundreds if not thousands of friends. When I first showed interest in her she said that we are just friends. But a couple of years later when my life was very different her attitude had seemingly changed. But for me something didn't feel right. I was already firmly entrenched in going my own way.
And I thought to myself why is she giving me a chance now instead of just pointing me to one of her other friends and saying that I should just chase them instead? I was put in a situation where I was shall we say encouraged to make the first move affection wise. So I looked into her eyes and prepared to make a move but instead of feeling a strong emotional desire like I did before something had soured the milk. I didn't know what it was at that time but you pretty much nailed it Mr.
Anonymous by saying that I was nothing more then potential. I had just proven my worth by showing her that I was a good utility that could make a lot of money.
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Michal Bednarek - Man pushing a giant, heavy stone, rock over the mountain. Conceptual, struggle, difficult task.
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4. olly2 - young businessman pedaling a bicycle on the rocks
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5. luckybusiness - magician from leading his performance
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Writer editor journalist academic thesis paper laptop
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Businesspeople Competing
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Superhero Costume Businessman Cityscape Concept
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Somma - a concentrated magician projecting his magic powers
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Hidden Possibilities.
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