In psychology-related slang, control freak is a derogatory term for a person who attempts to dictate how everything around them is done. The phrase was first used in the late 1960s — an era when great stress was laid on the principle of 'doing one's own thing' and letting others do the same.
Control freaks are often perfectionists defending themselves against their own inner vulnerabilities, in the belief that, if not in total control, they risk exposing themselves once more to childhood angst. Such figures manipulate and pressurise others to change, so as to avoid having to change themselves; use power over others to escape an inner emptiness. When a control freak's pattern is broken, “the Controller is left with a terrible feeling of powerlessness … But feeling their pain and fear brings them back to themselves”.
Control freaks have been linked to codependents, in the sense that the latters' fear of abandonment leads to attempts to control those they are dependent on. Recovery for them entails recognising that being a control freak helped paradoxically preserve codependency itself.
Steve Hiroyuki Aoki (born November 30, 1977) is an American electro house musician, record producer and the founder of Dim Mak Records.
Steve Hiroyuki Aoki was born in Miami and grew up in Newport Beach, California. He graduated from Newport Harbor High School in 1995; he was a star player on the varsity badminton team. He is the third child of Rocky Aoki and Chizuru Kobayashi. His father was a former Japanese Olympic wrestler who also founded the restaurant chain Benihana. He has two older siblings, sister Kana (who is sometimes called by her middle name "Grace"), and brother Kevin (owner of Doraku Sushi restaurant). He also has three half-siblings, all of whom are younger: half-brother Kyle and half-sisters Echo, and Devon, the supermodel and actress. As a child, Steve lived with his grandfather,[citation needed] his mother, and his two older siblings.
Aoki attended the University of California, Santa Barbara and graduated with two B.A.s; one in Women's Studies and the other in Sociology. In college, he produced do-it-yourself records and ran underground concerts out of his Biko room in the Santa Barbara Student Housing Cooperative, which was located in Isla Vista, a section of residential land adjacent to UCSB. As a concert venue, the apartment became known as The Pickle Patch. By his early 20s, Aoki had built his own record label, which he named Dim Mak after his childhood hero, Bruce Lee. He has also been in numerous bands, including This Machine Kills, which released an album on Ebullition Records, Esperanza, and The Fire Next Time.
Sander van Doorn (Dutch pronunciation: [ˈsɑn.dər vɑn ˈdoːrn]) (born Sander Ketelaars [Dutch pronunciation: [ˈsɑn.dər ˈkeː.tə.ˌlaːrs]] on 28 February 1979 in Eindhoven, Noord-Brabant, Netherlands) is a Dutch Trance music DJ and producer. He is listed at DJMag's top 100 djs list, debuting at #32 in 2006, then moving up to #13 in 2008, being #10 in 2009, down to #12 in 2010, and currently listed as #16 DJ in the world. Another dance music poll, TranceAddict TOP 250 shows Sander at #4 in their 2011 rankings.
Sander hosts Identity podcast, which is broadcast as a weekly radio show on Area channel of Sirius XM satellite radio. The show is broadcast every Friday at 8 pm ET and replays every Saturday at 5 pm ET and Wednesdays at 6 pm ET.
The first big achievement in his career was securing residencies at Judgement Sunday in Ibiza and at the Gallery in London. Sander has DJ'ed at many major clubs, parties and venues around the world. In June 2007 he presented one of Eddie Halliwell's shows on BBC Radio One. He also did an essential mix for BBC Radio One in June 2006, the same month he won 'Best New Producer' at the Trance Awards. His productions, both original work and remixes, in 2007-2008 have generally been well received in the electronic music industry. Notable artists he has done remixes for include Robbie Rivera, Matt Darey, Randy Katana, Mode Hookers (Steve Angello & Sebastian Ingrosso), Blank & Jones, TDR, Armin van Buuren.
Armin van Buuren (Dutch pronunciation: [ˈɑr.mɪn vɑn ˈby.rə(n)]), OON (born 25 December 1976 in Leiden, Netherlands) is a Dutch trance producer and DJ. Between 2007 and 2010, he was voted number one in DJ Magazine's annual top 100 list of the most popular DJs. In the 2011 list, he ranked in second place. Since 2001, Van Buuren has hosted a weekly radio show called A State of Trance, which claims to have around 15 million weekly listeners in 26 countries, which would make it one of the most listened-to radio shows in the world. His 2008 studio album, Imagine, entered the Dutch album chart at #1, a first for a dance music artist in Dutch music history.
Armin van Buuren was born in Leiden, Netherlands on 25 December 1976, but grew up in Koudekerk aan den Rijn. Van Buuren started making music when he was 14.[citation needed] He was inspired by French electronic music composer, Jean Michel Jarre, and wished to become a great electronic music composer like Jarre.[citation needed]
He finished high school at the Stedelijk Gymnasium Leiden in 1995, and left for college to study law at Leiden University. While studying law, Van Buuren's interest for making music blossomed, and he began working as a DJ in a local club called Nexus. As his musical career began to take off, he put his law degree on hold, although he did return to finish law school in 2003.
Controller stands his ground
Un-moving, fixed staring
You must comply with his demands
He tells you this
Don't think to question his will
Mutter his congregation
Un-told terrors will un-fold
According to who - someone said
Controller waves his stick
Un-fearing, grip tightening
You will understand all (one day)
He tells you this
Why can't we know all now
Silence, screams the controller
You will be deemed un-worthy
Unworthy of what - someone said
Control freak
Bleeds you dry
Control freak
Fades & dies
Control freak
Leeches lust
Control freak
Vanish in dust
Controller strikes a match
Un-shaken, yet forsaken
You must drink the flame (of life)
He sells you this
Your faith will cost you all
To stop will see him fall
Silence spits the controller
I'm gonna get defiled
In your world I'm naive
Like a lost child
now I don't seem so strong
Are my delusions real?
I'm not right nor wrong
All I can feel is the same old shit
Build me up
Break me down
And then be done with it
So I'm the one you say's unreal
Teach me then slay me
Only cold I feel
Well you see I'm still standing here
The only thing you taught me
Was to feel fear
Do you lose control when you hold too tight
but turn your head long enough to let it bite?
Cause faith let me staring at the ceiling through the night
it's freaking me out
And when I fell asleep it plagued my dreams,
and 30 bits of glass that become my teeth
They will break and each and everytime I tried to speak it's freaking me out...
[Chorus:]
You're freaking me out...you're freaking me out
and I can run like a coward for the door
But I'll never get out...you're freaking me out
Do you love your mind if you lose control?
it makes you feel ashamed for the hearts you've stole
And now your own hearts scared of an attack cause you can't give them back
You're stressing me out when you prove me wrong you're wearing me out cause I've slept so long
[Chorus]
Throw it all away, I threw it all away, and the best part is not knowing what i threw away, i threw it all away
[chorus]
ooooh oooh
You're freaking me out...you're freaking me out
but I keep running right back around for more
I know that you've woken up
And found yourself within a world a questions
Where the answers come and go?
And I know you don't want to sit around
And hear no asinine suggestions
When the truth just can't be told
But if I may, I got a thing or two to say
Although the answers are not clear
There's not a thing that you should fear
Because the answers to it all
Whether things rise or when they fall
You'll find the truth remains the same
And that truth is that God is change
Hey you
You can talk about, talk about, talk about it
But you can't control your destiny
I think that God is testing me
Hey you
You can talk about it, talk about it, talk about it
But you can't control your destiny
You just might fail successfully
I'm alone and I thought God created you for me
How could it be that it can't be? So alone
And I don't know what to do with myself
And I don't know what I'm gonna do
Hey you
I thought that you were my destiny
I thought we were meant to be
Don't I know what's best for me?
Hey you
I thought you were my destiny
Girl, I thought were meant to be
Can't I choose what's best for me?
Hey you
You can talk about, talk about, talk about it
But you can't control your destiny
I think that God is testing me
Hey you
You can talk about it, talk about it, talk about it
But you can't control your destiny
You just might fail successfully
You can't control your destiny
You can't control your destiny
Something I need you won't let me have
Don't shut me out you don't know me yet
Are you finding it hard to keep the peace between us
There's always something that you want to say to me
You don't listen... you don't understand
In your mind you know...
Everything but you don't
Everytime that you don't listen
How does it feel to be right all the time
How does it feel now you can't control me
You never let me finish what i'm saying
And you can't handle it when I'm right
Don't know when or if ever you will even hear me out
There's always something that you have to say to me
You don't listen... you don't undetrstand
In your mind you know...
Everything but you don't
Everytime that you don't listen
How does it feel to be right all the time
How does it feel now you can't control me
Don't try to tell me what's right or wrong
You don't know everything, it's just your opinion
No one likes a control freak cause they always think
They have all of the answers
You don't listen... you don't understand
In your mind you know
Everything but you don't
Everytime that you don't listen
How does it feel to be right all the time
All of the time, all of the time, you think you know...
Everything but you don't
Evertime that you don't listen
How does it feel, to be right all the time
How does it feel now you can't control me
Control freak
A girl who can't shake off the smell
of a man she met but didn't know well
She thinks she feels him in her skin
She thinks she sees his sideways grin
She sees him on the street by chance
Follows him as if entranced
Gets on a train that he gets on
A girl like this she is possessed
She sits two seats behind his own,
can hear him sigh, a little moan
She wonders what he's thinking of
as he removes his right hand glove
She notices his hand is strange
as if the bones were rearranged
She thinks of what she'll say to him
She hears it playing deep within
You're all I need to get high
The man jumps to his feet just then
Slips out the train and round a bend
She almost loses sight of him
Shuts her eyes, thinks of his skin
She catches up just as he goes
into a bar and down below
to where cases of wine are stacked
There is no light, it's nearly black
You're all I need to get high
He turns around to face her then
his right hand seems to claw the air
She doesn't know why she came here
She doesn't know what possessed her
Sweat's running down her spine
But then he breaks into a smile
that lights up his whole face
And then he starts to laugh and laugh and laugh,
And then he says "I've thought about you
since that day we met but barely spoke"
They start to kiss
He rubs his hand inside her tight's inner band
She shivers up against him hard
She reaches inside of him far
But then she stops, she pulls away
She starts to go and he tells her "stay"
But she walks determined up the stairs
She sways a bit, she flaunts her wares
She's got him where she wants him now
She knows he'll follow hard
and how anything she says will go
Any yes she'll turn to no
He follows her outside and says
"Hey wait, don't go, stay here"
She turns around and sneers at him
Sleaze on the slide
Control freak freaking out on the dance floor
Deep inside
Sleaze on the slide
Control freak freaking out on the dance floor
Deep inside skin decide
I feel alive no love indecision
In the summer time
Sleaze on the slide
Control freak freaking out on the dance floor
Deep inside time to time
I like getting drunk alone
late at night turn off the telephone
let the stupid world pass me by
success or mess I don't care
I just wanna get high
but if you think that I'm running
away from my problems
you must be out of your mind
Walt Disney was right
it could happen tonight
it's small world after all
I want control I'm gonna get it
rip it right out of your hands
don't you ever forget it
you don't like my lyrics
you don't like the way I sing
why did you have to go and to do that
now you've ruined everything
couldn't let it be
couldn't set it free
you took everything away from me
gonna be some changes around here
I want control I'm gonna get it
rip it right out of your mouth
don't you ever forget it
it just comes naturally
as easy as 1 - 2 - 3
I'm gonna rip it right out of your mind
I think you're a little slow on the uptake
we don't have no relief funds
we don't give out handouts here
we don't tolerate fools
we don't need no bodhisattvas
we don't tolerate fools
we don't need no bodhisattvas
the walls are slanted so now that you 're in
you can never get out again
look out control freak
look out control freak
Control Me
Control me, can you control me? x2
All of a sudden she arrives in my mind in my hindsight
She whispers all this time I've been gone
She say she can't sleep the night without me.
You've got my body, playing me out of my mind sometimes, get on x2
Get On (Control freak)
Baby I've got the feeling that you want me
Maybe I love your swagger but you're such a cheat
Don't even know you, you
I can't stop thinking about you
And all the things we could do
Tell me to stop, tell me to move
Baby, we've got nothing to lose.
You've got my body, playing me out of my mind sometimes, get on x2
Control freak
Baby I've got the feeling that you want me
Maybe I love your swagger but you're such a cheat
Don't even know you, you, you
But I got to, gotta know you and all of what you're into
Tripping and skipping these records for the sound fool
Wanna bring out the freak in you
Control Me, can you control me
Control Me, can you, can you, you, you
Control freak
Baby I've got the feeling that you want me
Maybe I love your swagger but you're such a cheat
Don't even know you, you, you
But I got to, gotta know you and all of what you're into
Tripping and skipping these records for the sound fool
Get a little loaded on a Saturday night
Everybody's rolling and they're feeling just right
Don't take long just to get this thing a started, yeah
All the young girls say they like it on top
Try to take it easy but the action don't stop
Can't slow down when you've already hit the ground running
And everyone knows that anything goes
As long as you can stay all night, yeah
She says I can't live without her now
I can't go on without a doubt
There must be something wrong with me
I'm starting to believe everything she tells me
She says I can't live without her now
I can't go on without a doubt
There must be something wrong with me
I'm starting to believe that she's a control freak, Control Freak, Yeah
Crazy little lady got a hold on me
Girls they keep it coming, make it so easy
Party don't start until every bottle's empty, no
She's over in the corner and she's staring me down
I'm loving the attention that I'm getting right now
She'll cry all night but I'm not gonna settle down, no
Wherever I go I'm never alone
She's always got her eyes on me, yeah
She says I can't live without her now
I can't go on without a doubt
There must be something wrong with me
I'm starting to believe everything she tells me
She says I can't live without her now
I can't go on without a doubt
There must be something wrong with me
I'm starting to believe that she's a control freak
She says I can't live without her now
I can't go on without a doubt
There must be something wrong with me
I'm starting to believe everything she tells me
She says I can't live without her now
I can't go on without a doubt
There must be something wrong with me
I'm starting to believe that she's a control freak
(Lyrics behind last chorus)
So controlling, I can't change her