This panel was presented at the 2013 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit in DC, http://www.sexualfreedomsummit.org by emotional freedom coach Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, 2013 EXXXOTICA BBW Female Performer of the Year Kelly Shibari from http://KellyShibariXXX.com, iconic transgender filmmaker Buck Angel http://www.BuckAngel.com, sensuality guru Elle "Lady Cheeky" Chase from http://www.LadyCheeky.com and http://www.SmutForSmarties.com, and outspoken sex blogger N'Jaila Rhee from http://www.BlasianBytch.com. Each person's sexual self-expression is unique, and requires courage and self-knowledge to experience and embody. Sexuality is an area where the --isms can radically impact our expression and beliefs. Sizeism, racism, ageism, ableism, sexualism and genderism are just a few of the boxes society and conventional media try to put us in. By examining the approaches used to 'normalize' us, and understanding our own fears and limiting beliefs, we can regain our power and freedom. Speaker 1: We're starting. Cathy: Thank you all for coming. N'jaila: Oy! Cathy: Thank you. Welcome to Where Sex Meets Isms: From Shame to Self-Expression. We want to make sure everybody knows this is being video taped. If you don't want to have your voice on the video tape, ask a neighbor to ask the question or ... Kelly: Except for Reid's hand up in front of the lens. Cathy: We also have a sign up sheet that's going to be going around. Michelle is passing it around. We did a lot of ... pulled together some data and statistics for the research for this, and if you want the PDF and also want to be signed up for our newsletters, you could go ahead and sign up. We'll be glad to send that to you. We'll be going through how -isms effect sexuality and sexual self-expression, and we'll be talking about sizeism, ageism, ableism, racism, sexualism, genderism and beautyism, but we don't have time to go in depth into each of these different -isms. We're going to each share our own expressions, our own experiences as we go through these, so it's not going to be a comprehensive, like "This is what ageism is," we assume that most of you have a pretty good idea about that. We want to talk about ways it effects us and our expression and also ways we can counteract it. In the interest of keeping things moving along, we have so much to cover, I will interrupt people if they start getting passionate about something and going on about it. Kelly: I should have brought my crop. Cathy: Oh, that would have been great. Kelly: I should have brought my crop. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. I'm a PhD, engineer and I'm a certified Advanced Emotional Freedom Techniques coach who coaches internationally on trauma, shame, body image and sexuality. I'm really delighted to be here with such a fantastic panel. I have here, Kelly Shibari is currently the only plus size Asian-American porn performer in the U.S. She has since taken her public persona to become a stereotype-crushing figurehead for chubby Asian girls everywhere. N'jaila Rhee is a BBW web model, journalist, pod cast host and sex blogger. She hosts After Dark, a body and sex-positive pod cast on TWiB FM, she's the author of BlasianBytch.com which was nominated for the Black Weblog Award's Best Sex and Relationship Blog in 2012.

• published: 02 Dec 2013
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