No matter how much we were in love with each other, there will come a time when we think to ourselves: "I love my husband or spouse, but I don’t feel in love." In fact many people come to a place where they may even say, "I don’t think I love my spouse anymore." The reason is quite simple. Most of us get married to be loved, not to learn how to love. I know you are probably reacting to that statement. I was convinced I was the best person in the whole world to love my wife. God had given her to me and I was the one who could love her best. I soon discovered there were some things my wife did that I did not know how to love. I soon discovered that my love was selfish. Along with my attempts to love her came my disappointment when she did not love me the way I expected. I discovered my love was rooted in selfishness. Our reasons for marriage usually have some flavor of selfishness, usually because we believe we will be better off, they will provide for me, they will give me what I need. Any marriage that begins with some semblance of selfishness (don’t they all?) will be in for some kind of adjustment. At some point your spouse will fail to do something which we expected or counted on. At some point we will encounter disappointment and even hurt because something we counted on did not get done. Marriage confronts our biggest sin – Pride. We all bring pride into our marriage, and because of our pride, we have expectations and those expectations will be disappointed, because our spouse also has pride and selfishness. Melittledina posted this on askmehelpdesk forum, where you can ask experts anything: I've been with my spouse for now 5 1/2 years. We have two girls. Oldest is 4 years old and the youngest is 2 years old. I am UNHAPPY in my relationship. The first year we where together, when I was pregnant with are first, I discovered that he was sending pornographic photos of himself and his ex-girl-friend on the internet "Live sex chat". I forgave him. After, I discovered that he stole money that we had for the rent and lied to me about it until I caught him red handed. I forgave him. After, I discovered that he stole his best friend’s credit card. I forgive him. After I discovered that he stole money from his boss at work and he lost his job. I forgive him. Last October, I got a phone call from another woman. HE CHEATED on me! I left him. After 1 week, he tried to kill himself, so AGAIN I forgive him. I am so tired!!! I think today that I am with him only for my children... He is a good father to them. But I can’t live like this anymore. I've been thinking of cheating on him to get revenge but that won’t work. I just want him out of my life… The experts told 'melittledina' she needs to divorce her no-good husband for the protection of the children. Obviously Christ was not in their family. Even if 'Melittledina' had been a Christian, she probably would have divorced her husband. She had discovered that he had serious character flaws. He was not meeting her expectations. She still loved him, but she was no longer in love...she wanted out of the marriage. She had married for love, but she did not marry to learn how to love such a seriously flawed man. Most of us enter marriage with dreams and expectations. At one time we were active in our love for our spouse. Then, like 'melittledina', we start to see character flaws, some very serious. Then, disappointment, hurt, and bitterness build up stumblingblocks to our love. What happened to my "Soul-Mate" The truth is that we have this concept of “soul-mate” floating around our sub-conscious. Plato taught this before Christ was born, that somehow our souls were torn in two and there is someone out there with the other half of our soul. We get married because we think we have found our “soul-mate” and it is just so easy being around them. We have fun, we laugh, there is nothing forced about our relationship. We genuinely believe we have found the one God meant us to be married to the rest of our lives. Love is largely a feeling that produces long conversations, walks in the park, long slow kisses, and gentle touches. Our feelings are magnified to the 'nth' degree. We are constantly floating on clouds. Then we get married and life happens. Life is not easy, it is very difficult. The clouds evaporate, the long slow kisses become short little pecks, the walks in the park become falling asleep on the couch. After months or years, as our disappointment grows and the trials increase, we find ourselves wondering about our “love” and where it went. You tell your friends that you still love your spouse, but the love has changed. The feelings are not there. You wonder about this “soul-mate” thing, especially when days go by without intimacy or involved conversation. "Bride to Be" becomes the "Bride that Was" Do you know the difference between the bride to be and the bride that was? It’s not the veil, or the dress. It’s your att

No matter how much we were in love with each other, there will come a time when we think to ourselves: "I love my husband or spouse, but I don’t feel in love." In fact many people come to a place where they may even say, "I don’t think I love my spouse anymore." The reason is quite simple. Most of us get married to be loved, not to learn how to love. I know you are probably reacting to that statement. I was convinced I was the best person in the whole world to love my wife. God had given her to me and I was the one who could love her best. I soon discovered there were some things my wife did that I did not know how to love. I soon discovered that my love was selfish. Along with my attempts to love her came my disappointment when she did not love me the way I expected. I discovered my love was rooted in selfishness. Our reasons for marriage usually have some flavor of selfishness, usually because we believe we will be better off, they will provide for me, they will give me what I need. Any marriage that begins with some semblance of selfishness (don’t they all?) will be in for some kind of adjustment. At some point your spouse will fail to do something which we expected or counted on. At some point we will encounter disappointment and even hurt because something we counted on did not get done. Marriage confronts our biggest sin – Pride. We all bring pride into our marriage, and because of our pride, we have expectations and those expectations will be disappointed, because our spouse also has pride and selfishness. Melittledina posted this on askmehelpdesk forum, where you can ask experts anything: I've been with my spouse for now 5 1/2 years. We have two girls. Oldest is 4 years old and the youngest is 2 years old. I am UNHAPPY in my relationship. The first year we where together, when I was pregnant with are first, I discovered that he was sending pornographic photos of himself and his ex-girl-friend on the internet "Live sex chat". I forgave him. After, I discovered that he stole money that we had for the rent and lied to me about it until I caught him red handed. I forgave him. After, I discovered that he stole his best friend’s credit card. I forgive him. After I discovered that he stole money from his boss at work and he lost his job. I forgive him. Last October, I got a phone call from another woman. HE CHEATED on me! I left him. After 1 week, he tried to kill himself, so AGAIN I forgive him. I am so tired!!! I think today that I am with him only for my children... He is a good father to them. But I can’t live like this anymore. I've been thinking of cheating on him to get revenge but that won’t work. I just want him out of my life… The experts told 'melittledina' she needs to divorce her no-good husband for the protection of the children. Obviously Christ was not in their family. Even if 'Melittledina' had been a Christian, she probably would have divorced her husband. She had discovered that he had serious character flaws. He was not meeting her expectations. She still loved him, but she was no longer in love...she wanted out of the marriage. She had married for love, but she did not marry to learn how to love such a seriously flawed man. Most of us enter marriage with dreams and expectations. At one time we were active in our love for our spouse. Then, like 'melittledina', we start to see character flaws, some very serious. Then, disappointment, hurt, and bitterness build up stumblingblocks to our love. What happened to my "Soul-Mate" The truth is that we have this concept of “soul-mate” floating around our sub-conscious. Plato taught this before Christ was born, that somehow our souls were torn in two and there is someone out there with the other half of our soul. We get married because we think we have found our “soul-mate” and it is just so easy being around them. We have fun, we laugh, there is nothing forced about our relationship. We genuinely believe we have found the one God meant us to be married to the rest of our lives. Love is largely a feeling that produces long conversations, walks in the park, long slow kisses, and gentle touches. Our feelings are magnified to the 'nth' degree. We are constantly floating on clouds. Then we get married and life happens. Life is not easy, it is very difficult. The clouds evaporate, the long slow kisses become short little pecks, the walks in the park become falling asleep on the couch. After months or years, as our disappointment grows and the trials increase, we find ourselves wondering about our “love” and where it went. You tell your friends that you still love your spouse, but the love has changed. The feelings are not there. You wonder about this “soul-mate” thing, especially when days go by without intimacy or involved conversation. "Bride to Be" becomes the "Bride that Was" Do you know the difference between the bride to be and the bride that was? It’s not the veil, or the dress. It’s your att

No matter how much we were in love with each other, there will come a time when we think to ourselves: "I love my husband or spouse, but I don’t feel in love." In fact many people come to a place where they may even say, "I don’t think I love my spouse anymore." The reason is quite simple. Most of us get married to be loved, not to learn how to love. I know you are probably reacting to that statement. I was convinced I was the best person in the whole world to love my wife. God had given her to me and I was the one who could love her best. I soon discovered there were some things my wife did that I did not know how to love. I soon discovered that my love was selfish. Along with my attempts to love her came my disappointment when she did not love me the way I expected. I discovered my love was rooted in selfishness. Our reasons for marriage usually have some flavor of selfishness, usually because we believe we will be better off, they will provide for me, they will give me what I need. Any marriage that begins with some semblance of selfishness (don’t they all?) will be in for some kind of adjustment. At some point your spouse will fail to do something which we expected or counted on. At some point we will encounter disappointment and even hurt because something we counted on did not get done. Marriage confronts our biggest sin – Pride. We all bring pride into our marriage, and because of our pride, we have expectations and those expectations will be disappointed, because our spouse also has pride and selfishness. Melittledina posted this on askmehelpdesk forum, where you can ask experts anything: I've been with my spouse for now 5 1/2 years. We have two girls. Oldest is 4 years old and the youngest is 2 years old. I am UNHAPPY in my relationship. The first year we where together, when I was pregnant with are first, I discovered that he was sending pornographic photos of himself and his ex-girl-friend on the internet "Live sex chat". I forgave him. After, I discovered that he stole money that we had for the rent and lied to me about it until I caught him red handed. I forgave him. After, I discovered that he stole his best friend’s credit card. I forgive him. After I discovered that he stole money from his boss at work and he lost his job. I forgive him. Last October, I got a phone call from another woman. HE CHEATED on me! I left him. After 1 week, he tried to kill himself, so AGAIN I forgive him. I am so tired!!! I think today that I am with him only for my children... He is a good father to them. But I can’t live like this anymore. I've been thinking of cheating on him to get revenge but that won’t work. I just want him out of my life… The experts told 'melittledina' she needs to divorce her no-good husband for the protection of the children. Obviously Christ was not in their family. Even if 'Melittledina' had been a Christian, she probably would have divorced her husband. She had discovered that he had serious character flaws. He was not meeting her expectations. She still loved him, but she was no longer in love...she wanted out of the marriage. She had married for love, but she did not marry to learn how to love such a seriously flawed man. Most of us enter marriage with dreams and expectations. At one time we were active in our love for our spouse. Then, like 'melittledina', we start to see character flaws, some very serious. Then, disappointment, hurt, and bitterness build up stumblingblocks to our love. What happened to my "Soul-Mate" The truth is that we have this concept of “soul-mate” floating around our sub-conscious. Plato taught this before Christ was born, that somehow our souls were torn in two and there is someone out there with the other half of our soul. We get married because we think we have found our “soul-mate” and it is just so easy being around them. We have fun, we laugh, there is nothing forced about our relationship. We genuinely believe we have found the one God meant us to be married to the rest of our lives. Love is largely a feeling that produces long conversations, walks in the park, long slow kisses, and gentle touches. Our feelings are magnified to the 'nth' degree. We are constantly floating on clouds. Then we get married and life happens. Life is not easy, it is very difficult. The clouds evaporate, the long slow kisses become short little pecks, the walks in the park become falling asleep on the couch. After months or years, as our disappointment grows and the trials increase, we find ourselves wondering about our “love” and where it went. You tell your friends that you still love your spouse, but the love has changed. The feelings are not there. You wonder about this “soul-mate” thing, especially when days go by without intimacy or involved conversation. "Bride to Be" becomes the "Bride that Was" Do you know the difference between the bride to be and the bride that was? It’s not the veil, or the dress. It’s your att