KaptanSolo42 minutes ago (edited) +YummyLix wow...Are you really suggesting that I am trying to "excuse" his behavior? ...and then again, maybe I am not even asking you that question right. I am not trying to "excuse" his behavior, I am telling you that this does not sound like some phenotype issue with the woman. I am also telling whomever is paying attention that these types of issues (issues of legacy and community) do affect personal romantic relationships. I am also saying that while you all can assign blame to this dude, these things do go on and it is better to be aware of how the system works and why....otherwise there will continue to be these emotional rants about a subject like phenotype where it probably doesn't apply.... First of all, he did date her for 4 years. I am assuming that he didn't only take her to bed or was fucking her in some abandoned car in a vacant lot for 4 years. I think it is safe to say that he actually LIKED "her". I am sure they went out together and he was SEEN with HER (phenotype and all) and this obviously was not an issue... If it was, I think it is safe to say he would not have dated her publicly. (THIS IS NOT A DEFENSE...THIS IS SIMPLY A STATEMENT OF FACTS) ...and when will people learn that assigning "blame" doesn't fix the problem...especially if you don't know what the problem is or if you think it is something waaaaayyy off base like her phenotype (facepalm) If you understand how the system works, how power is taken and how it is maintained then it is easy to see why white people would want children who look like them. Not necessarily some "clone" type nonsense that Chris was suggesting. Com'n people, you all are smarter than this... The one drop rule was not CREATED to give black people a leg up nor to add shades of brown to their ranks nor even to increase their numbers. The purpose was to keep white power in the hands of whites. It is no secret that white men had their way with black women during slavery and there were offspring from those encounters, unions, etc.. If a mixed child had the same "status" as his/her full white siblings then that would mean those children were entitled to the same share of wealth passed on to their full white siblings. This would obviously cause an interruption in the status quo. This would easily enrich some black families and it would also give them power in politics, etc.. So, although mixed children may have "enjoyed" some so-called perks (house negro status) they still had to be labeled "black" so they would not have any "rights" or not the same rights as whites. Now that we have the history lesson out of the way... You have to know that not much has changed in the sense of "wealth" for black people in this country since Reconstruction. I am talking about "wealth", I am not talking about "riches". If you don't know that the power plays and who gets to sit at the big boy table is still decided pretty much the way it was "back then" (with the exception of there being a few laws where it isn't so blatant) ...but then again, it IS when you look at the wealth gap. All I am saying is when you grasp this concept is it really so hard to believe that a white man could like a black woman, even LOVE her (EVEN BE IN LOVE WITH HER) but realize what having children with her will mean if he has any interest in the power structure or leaving a lasting legacy beyond just raising healthy children? CK's recent video about the types of white men who should not date inter-racially was spot on....BUT, as usual...instead of looking at the system for what it is and how it operates, she simply dismissed these types of men as being "weak". Nice negative label but it doesn't explain how or why those men are that way which, in my opinion, might help one identify this "type" of man. But nooooo...."he's a weak man" ....that's it! Wow! I am sure that will be easy to spot. Hey look! ...don't get me wrong, if you all want to just sit around and assign blame, react emotionally and everybody "feels" some "justice" out of "that"....then ok fine...smh. But if you learn the reasons why and how it works....(I mean damn, you all are joining a community and you don't have a clue how it really works). I had to say this on facebook some years back when I heard a group of sisters on there complaining about their phenotype....THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THE WAY BLACK WOMEN LOOK!!! There are other issues at play here and you should learn how th- ....fuck it, you know I am sorry I posted. To think that you all are actually getting an "evil" vibe from my words... This is just as bad as black men and their bullshit when it comes to community issues...smh.

• published: 19 Mar 2016
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