Is it wrong to sell stuff given to me by my ex?

I think you should sell the jewelry and then invest the money in a hydroponic setup so you can grow tomatoes. And then you can sell the tomatoes, make tomato cookies and make dried tomatoes which I think are the best.

Just get rid of the lot.  Part of the process of moving on is getting rid of all things that remind you of the past.

If you miss something, then find it in ten years, you may look back with a semntimental affection.  Now is not the time for that though, just dump the lot, sell it, or give it to tha Salvos.

“some friends of mine(and his) noticed and expressed that they considered my actions to be “unnecessary” and made me look bitter.”

As they say, opinions are like arseholes—everybody’s got one.

Try not to worry about that crap. Take Bossy’s most excellent advice and do whatever it takes to get over that guy and erase him from your life until you are left with only the fond memories.

You’ll get there eventually.

Sell, Sell, Sell !!!

It was given as a gift, it’s yours to do with as you please. There’s hardly a thing in my house left from my ex wife, it’s all gone, sold or given away and I don’t feel an inch of shame about it. Think of it as a purification exercise and burn some incense while you’re listing the good stuff on Ebay.

Best of luck,

Al.

The whole hock trade is based on the selling of trinkets from broken relationships, without that they would go bust. It’s also handy for tight arses that want to skimp less on an engagement ring and tell you it’s an heirloom.

Have fun, don’t spend all your wad at the bowling club though, save some for at least buying the next potential partner ONE drink.

Sincerely.

You start off bossy by saying to chuck the lot and then end with making a profit - im a little confused. Regardless, she’s right, chuck the crap and sell the expensive stuff, esp if you could welcome a little extra cash.

But this issue is a little more fundamental then selling or chucking out some material possessions. Six months? Feeling sick? Justifying to the online world that you are no longer bitter?

He may have cheated on you, or dumped you horribly, or ended up being a closet fag - who knows. But in my opinion, one to two months is enough time to start seeing the good in how it evidently unfolded, to forgive, and to live and let live. After all, him, you, and everyone else on this planet has to put up with THEMSELVES for the rest of their lives....

Sell the expensive stuff and BURN BURN BURN BURNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN the sentimental lovey dovey lies that you had been fed, ie: every card saying that he loves you and all that jazz to maintain the status quo of sex whenever he felt like it. Fire is a powerful tool which isn’t used enough in todays society. It should be used to purge rapists, vegetarians, peadophiles and fat netball refs who commit acts against common decency with their horrendeously fat legs and short white skirts as per their uniform requirements.

Also it saves you explaining or lying about things down the path, ie: nice necklace where’d you get it. Sell that shit.

As for your friends reactions, I guess they’d like someone who’d buy them a tiffany necklace and some perfume because they’re women and women like sparkly things and stuff that hides their true self such as make up, perfume, push up bras, heels etc, so they just don’t understand and you should just disregard their opinion.

Quite simply it is no one elses business what you do with the items.  They are gifts, they are yours and you can do what you want with them.

If they don’t make you feel good or remind you of good times it is better that you get rid of them.  Don’t hang on to things that hold you back from moving on.

I agree with Bossy!

It’s not use holding onto things that you will never use again.

When an ex and I broke up I got rid of EVERYTHING. Photos, jewellery, perfume, gifts, momentos, letters etc. I also deleted any photos I had of him off my computer and social network sites.

It felt liberating and empowering.

It’s noone else’s business but your own, so I say go for it!

It’s your stuff, you can do what you like with it.

Selling the gifts is fine. I doubt your friends will have an issue with this really. Deleting the photos was unnecessary, your friends are right.

When you went to extremes by deleting those photos it is like you are attempting to excise that portion of your life and pretend that it never happened. It did happen, it’s now over and you shouldn’t feel bitter about it but reflect on what it has helped you become as a person. It might make you a little sad and still hurt if it is only 6 months ago but the aim is to go forward, you are still lingering on the past.

You need to cull the box under your bed. Sell what you want, throw out valentines cards etc and only keep what you can’t bear to part with. Then move what is left to an innaccessible location (top of wardrobe etc) to it is not reminding you by its constant presence. Revisit the box in a years time and you will probably chuck the rest as well.

I get rid of ex stuff too, OP.  Photos, cards, presents, texts, emails - the lot.  It makes mefeel better.  We all deal in our own way.  Your friend are being judgy-wudgy.

Hell yes, sell it.  I’d say spend the money on something for yourself though, don’t put it towards something boring like bills.  But whatever makes you happy.

Good luck.

I recently purged most of the jewellery my ex husband gave me.  Engagement ring, bracelets etc.  Awesome feeling, didn’t want or like the stuff anymore. Like bossy said, I didn’t have any emotional attachment to it, it was just gathering dust in the drawer. I got a few hundred dollars back for the stuff to boot, which went towards something I really wanted.  Go for it girl.... and don’t look back!

I say sell the lot. If you arent going to use any of it then why let it rot away under your bed when you could sell it!

Loose the guilt. It is your property. You may do whatever you wish with it. If it had been a family heirloom then I could understand people discouraging you from selling but this is just jewellery from a failed relationship.

Do what makes you feel better and forget them.

Agreed Bossy. Get rid of the lot. Start fresh!

I think you should sell the stuff you can sell and burn the rest.

God yeah!  Sell it for a tidy profit and take a trip to Phuket.  I would.

It’s absolutely liberating once those memories are put away forever at the bottom of a wheelie bin. But who doesn’t like making a few hundred bucks of junk you don’t need?