Collective high-level efforts and strategies to rebuild this broken country seem to be as scattered as the fat dust-filled drops of September rain, which the sky threw down last night and did a good job of almost drowning our mulberry trees. The night’s deluge left wailing roots to wallow helplessly in thick viscous pools of clay mud.
This Indian summer rain has brought with it a freshness and the roses in our garden glistened this morning, grubby petals washed clean in the downpour. For a brief moment, they were given a new lease of life under Kabul’s unforgiving dust skies.
Whilst we endlessly debate whether Karzai is friend or foe or fit to lead, and discuss the possibility of peace deals led by men who will probably never have to answer for their own crimes or for the lives they have destroyed; whilst we avidly read news articles in the half-belief that someone, somewhere must surely make a breakthrough about what must be done, the country’s quiet majority will continue to live with their ghosts, hopes for some kind of justice for past abuses vanquished. Dreams will bow their heads in silent resignation, the world will continue to turn.
Kabul’s traffic will continue to infuriate everyone, kites will be flown from rooftops and local imams will call the devoted to prayer and continue to offer divine guidance to hungry souls. We will buy autumn’s giant fire-coloured pomegranates, now jostling for space in the capital’s fruit stalls, to be snapped open with large knives and served red in blue-green ceramic bowls.
Whilst we continue to be consumed and overwhelmed by a country that is not our own, I wonder at the people in our lives each day, drivers, cooks and cleaners, the unspoken folk who make our days so much more comfortable, whilst their own families probably live in cramped houses on the fringes of town. These are the people who time and again make this ragged, shambolic place feel like home.
Here, thousands of miles from our real homes, hours can turn with alarming speed into days, weeks and finally years. Time with our own tribes is lost and this can carve a hole in the pit of your stomach. Daily interactions with people take on huge importance, perhaps as a result of a longing for human closeness.
Every day, a softly spoken young man in our office, whose name I don’t even know, discreetly feeds a scrawny calico cat, which hangs around by the rubbish bins beside our office dining room. He is the only person who does this and for some reason I find this gesture incredibly touching.
The office gardener, a tall thin man who wears a pakool, tends to the flowers and plants with such care and attention and spends hours pruning and watering. From an almost bare patch of land some months ago, he has gently nurtured this arid plot of land back to life and built the most beautiful empire of green, interspersed with dazzling patches of yellow, pink, orange and red flowers; a garden to rival Eden’s. (Kabul is full of secret gardens. Behind the high barbed walls of this city, there is sure to be a carefully tended yard).
A thimble-sized woman with long black braids, soft around the edges with a face round as an apple and skin soft as a peach, comes to our house each day to wash our clothes and clean our kitchen. She has a glass eye and there are wide gaps between her small front teeth, which look as though they have been filed down with an emery board. I don’t understand her Dari accent, and she talks too quickly for me to keep up. Yet for the miles between us and each other’s words that we don’t understand, she hugs me each morning before I leave the house. I love the sensation of wrapping my arms around this small round woman, gently squeezing her soft fat frame, and I feel loved.