Kate de Brito
Friday, January 29, 2010 at 08:05am
Dear Bossy: I have a pretty serious dilemma, I went to a nightclub with my friends and they had brought along a group of girls, 2 of them being sisters a couple years apart.
Throughout the course of the night I had decent conversations with both of them and flirted a little bit with both of them.
Over the next month or so they had been hanging out more with our social circle and eventually both of them add me on facebook and I was flirting with both of them privately on there.
After a few messages I decided to ask the younger sister on a date out for drinks one night, she accepts.
So we go on a date and have a good time, we have a few drinks too many and she comes back to my place, she explains to me she is reluctant as she thinks her sister might like me also, so we need to keep this quiet for a little while if we proceed, so I sleep with her and then start spending a bit more time with her, nothing too serious.
In the meantime the older sister is completely unaware and is flirting quite a lot with me, sending me a lot of sms messages through out the day and asking me out for drinks.
I accept and well one thing leads to another I end up back at her house, she is persistent and I am a drunk male, so you know the story.
Fast forward a month and I have been seeing both sisters for a few weeks, maybe once or twice a week each, neither of them are aware of the other one obviously.
Then I get a phone call from the younger sister, she is pregnant, we have a long discussion and she informs me she would like to keep the baby, I am ok with this and man enough to take responsibility.
Unsure how they will react if they find out I have been boning both of them, I am in knots on the inside.
So I spend the next week or so coming to terms with the potential shit storm this will cause, she still has not informed her family including sister yet as they are slightly religious and may not like the idea of her having a bastard child.
Yesterday I get possibly the most disturbing call of my life, older sister calls to discuss something important with me, she has fallen pregnant she is unsure how she feels, she does not like the idea of abortion but does not want a child at the moment.
The shit is about to hit the fan any day now and I don`t know how I am going to handle this, money is not an issue as I am successful enough to support both these children, I believe I would make a good father, despite what you may think of my character for getting into a situation like this in the first place, it does not make me any less of a caring, supportive, loving and strong person.
I guess it is difficult to dish out advice on a situation like this, but I just feel as if I have nobody around me I can tell about this and get a different perspective as they will freak out.
Kind Regards
Reformed Player
Bossy says: You sir, are in a whole world of trouble. And yes, it is difficult to dish out any advice with the potential to save you from what will be a massive crap fight. What I can say is there’s no point avoiding the inevitable. You will have to confront this situation, sooner rather than later. And in all likelihood there will be tears.
Once you get over that fact and face up to the reality that you are probably going to be the recipient of some verbal abuse, you can move forward.
Before you make the call though I wonder whether you have considered the possibility the sisters know you have been shagging them both? Have you considered they may have cooked up this story to scare the daylights out of you and teach you a lesson? Could it be your sweet sister shags are having a lend?
If you’re sure that’s not the case then you need to talk to them both. Move quickly so you have some control over the timing of the situaion and are not cowering, waiting for the blow to fall.
You won’t be able to get to both of them at the same time, and it’s probably not agood idea to call a meeting with them both. As you are more involved with the younger sister you will need to speak to her first. And then take any further steps from there.
A lot will depend on the reaction of sister number one. She may want to talk to her sister first, or she may be happier for you to break the news. Mostly there will probably just be abuse. And crying.
As much as possible try to be conciliatory. Acting a bit stupid can’t hurt either. And remember that as well as them being pissed at you they are probably going to be pretty pissed at each other.
I’m glad you are a reformed player, because quite soon you could be the father of two children to two different mothers. Any further playing would be just Russian roulette.
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Greg? Is that you?
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:10am)
Fri 29 Jan 10 (11:21am)
ha ha that’s freaky if I kno u. Not me, but thanks for asking.
Move into a trailer park. Lot 43 is vacant and I know the owner.
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:11am)
Fri 29 Jan 10 (11:20am)
Trailer park?
Or Utah?
Fri 29 Jan 10 (12:28pm)
No need to advertise your neighbouring trailer park space, silly little chauvinist. All the OP has to do is move to Utah.
Fri 29 Jan 10 (01:03pm)
I just got to the end of page two and no one has said it yet.... threesome
Good one Bossy - I’d love it if they were just winding him up. Serves him right.
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:14am)
Wow you have been a busy beaver haven’t you? I better get the saying right this time otherwise the grammar police will hammer me.
“You really do reap what you sow”
In saying that however, I don’t think there is an easy out for you here, either you come clean to both and this is likely to end badly on both sides or convince one to have an aortion, either way I think you f*cked. It all boils down to how they will react but pregnant women do tend to be a hell of alot more emotional than normal (who can blame them). Best of luck.
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:14am)
Fri 29 Jan 10 (10:59am)
I think it’ll be difficult to convince one to cut off the main blood supply to their heart. Plus I think the saying you’re looking for is “Ream what you sew.”
Two words....safe sex!
Won’t bother with the moral side of it. Ethel can look after that bit.
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:15am)
Fri 29 Jan 10 (01:08pm)
Two words.... Morman Faith.
I believe that your only real option here is to convert to the Morom faith, where i believe that taking multiple wives is consindered to be acceptable.
This way you can have your cake and eat it to, and then, at some point in the futre, you can devour a younger, plumper, firmer cake and add her to the menu (and perhaps her sister or friend).
I do not make this recommendation lightly, but sonsidering you situaiton, i think it would suit based on the following
1. You say the family is already religious, so they are accepting to the religious aspect of life (but not reliegious enough to abstain carnal desires);
2, you say you are wealthy enough to support them. this way they are in the same house, might even get a benefit out of it assuming economies of scale. you could also sell the story to new idea or womens day, they are constantly looking for this type of drivel.
i think its the way for you. Good luck with it
Cheers
Jerry Springer much?
God I LOVE Friday!!!
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:18am)
Fri 29 Jan 10 (11:28am)
BOSSY! BOSSY! BOSSY! BOSSY!
OP - You sir are a asshat!! I would carefully check out the girls story because I think that they might be having a go at you for shagging them both - as Bossy said!
I can’t help wonder though if you were pretty proud that you were shagging 2 sisters at the same time and probably boasted about it to all your mates ... or you are a sad lonely person who has made up a story to make out that you are that irresistible that the girls just couldnt help it - thus making you an even bigger dickhead. Either way - you are a loser ....
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:22am)
Fri 29 Jan 10 (11:21am)
I didn’t think of that, I so hoped you bragged about too your mates. I want to be there when you tell them you got them both pregnant, that would be piss funny.
Haha! Is this for real? I hope they are playing jokes on you, or this might be another Jerry Springer show in future!
I’m sure someone has probably already mentioned threesome? haha
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:22am)
Bossy is right. You just have to speak to them one at a time. Say you were hanging out with both of them. One thing led to another, on separate nights you got drunk with each of them and ended up having unprotected good times.
Only thing you can take from this is a life lesson sir. Don’t bang sisters without rubbers. Even I wouldnt do that given the opportunity.
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:27am)
Fri 29 Jan 10 (11:56am)
Withdrawl is my favorite sport.
This is the funniest thing ive ever herd!
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:31am)
ooooops!
better tell them both, hold your head high. Whenever I’ve been a complete idiot I like to pretend I’m Owen Wilson in, say, you me and Dupree and just pretend I’m completely fine and not at all embarassed.
Good luck!
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:33am)
I think they found and and are now exacting revenge, good luck with that. LOL
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:33am)
Ahhh… the sister switch. Its the only move braver than the room mate switch. Oh well, you play with matches you get burned.
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:35am)
Dude if this story is true then I seriously hope that you DO support your children financially and emotionally, and perhaps carry condoms with you next time you go out for the night so if you meet their third sister you don’t knock her up as well.
Good luck!
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:36am)
My first thoughts were RUN FOREST RUN! then my second thought was to knock up there mother and go for the trifector. Finally i have come to the conclusion that you should laugh heartily about the situation until the child support agency calls and then you should RUN FOREST RUN!
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:37am)
Fri 29 Jan 10 (10:56am)
”RUN FORREST RUN”
Fri 29 Jan 10 (11:02am)
What a silly suggestion…
I would put money on the fact that these two are screwing with you!
You’re a jerk and they’re playing your game!
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:37am)
I think the biggest mistake you made was not fessing you were seeing them both early on, thus you missed the opportunity to land them together.
There’s not going to be any pleasant way out of this unless, as Ms B pointed out, they’re winding you up. Change your MO an man up. You’ve made your bed and will shortly have to lie in it, however taking the initiative will at least ensure you can lie right way up rather than getting stuffed under the mattress.
Failing that, do the honourable thing, become a polygamist and marry them both. Is the mother single? There’s always the family trifecta.
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:38am)
I weep for society today!
What a pickle you are in! You have behaved like a cad and are now reaping the consequences. That said, the two sisters were very foolish for engaging in ‘physical relations’ with you (obviously without taking precautions). In particular, the younger sister obviously cares nothing for her sister’s feelings, if she chose to sleep with a man for whom her sister cared.
Now you know the characters of these women, I encourage you to seek confirmation that you are, in fact, the father of these children.
If you are the father of both these children, I suggest the following options:
1) Unfortunately for you, bigamy is a crime in this country. But perhaps you could marry one of the sisters (the younger, perhaps?) and encourage the other (the elder?) to give her baby up for adoption (since she has stated she is not ready to be a mother). That way, you will have saved one girl at least, from disgrace.
The risk with this option is that it might further strain the sisterly bond between these women, if you are seen to be treating one girl (and her unborn baby) more favourably than the other.
2) Marry neither of these women. After all, you have no obligation to either of them. In terms of the children, the law requires you to pay child support. Beyond that, you have no obligation towards them, as they are illegitimate, after all.
Whichever you decide, you must do the brave thing and tell both girls (separately) that her sister is also bearing your child. After all, they will not be able to hide it for much longer, and it is far better if you reveal the truth early on.
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:40am)
Fri 29 Jan 10 (11:19am)
No obligation to future kids except for the child support? What about the emotional support Ethel?!
Fri 29 Jan 10 (12:40pm)
Ethel you are an absolute Legend!
Boning? People still call it that?
What would it make the two kids? Cousins and siblings?
Um, yeah, good luck!
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:40am)
Fri 29 Jan 10 (11:04am)
Yes, I’ve never given up on the word “Bone” and was delighted when Eddie brought it back into mainstream use.
What a dickhead you are. Should i mention STI’s? Heard of them idiot?
Stupid stupid people!
You sound like an absolute catch!
Poor babies. For the sake of huminty wear a condom!
Fri 29 Jan 10 (08:41am)
Fri 29 Jan 10 (12:03pm)
Sorry OP.. Now the little sister already knows....